is it bad that i lie about...?

Question

being that middle class girl even though im like in an upper class. well i go to a school where most people are not very wealthy and they all think that wealthy people are stuck up and no goods. but i dont want to be known like that cuz im not like that, so i act as though i am not rich. my outfits are casual and boring and i hate it. im tired of pretending that i can't afford certain things. i want to invite ppl over to my real house and not some apartment my parents rented for me and my older sister to use for parties. i want to be able to show up in a limo to school again and stuff. how do u think ppl would feel if i all of a sudden tell them that im really an upper classer?

Answer 1

there is a difference in being rich and being a stuck up, you think that just because you do what you do that you are not a upper class any more? have you lost your mind? you will always be a upper class and that won't change no matter how poor you might dress your self, i know how hard it is to show off i do it too but its really not worth it and you will lose alot of real friends and invite alot of gold digging women users into your life, you have good friends and a normal life at school and thats pricless so i wouldnt put a price on it if i were you! you can always show off after school! :D

Answer 2

Well, once you start something, you can't really just stop. I would suggest to just start wearing nicer things to school, and gradually just go up from there. (I wouldn't reccomend showing up at school in a limo ever though.) If you just suddenly come to school rich, people may not trust you anymore.

During summer school, I was in kind of the same position as you. I live in a very, very wealthy town, so in my town, I would be considered poor (My family is by no means poor, we have enough money to buy food, pay our bills (most of the time) and buy clothing and other things when we NEED it, but my house was horrible compared to my friends fancy, remodeled houses) I went to a summer (not the traditional one, it helps you get into a good college) school for more 'advanced' children, and most of the children there came from very poor cities. I felt kind of bad, because a lot of them didn't have dishwashers, or driers (for clothing) and could only buy clothes about once every two years, they also couldn't afford heating bills, or water bills sometimes. (I usually get clothes about once a year.) What did I do? I didn't go around showing off, but I didn't pretend my family couldn't eat either. I wear normal clothes their, and don't talk about my family finances. I fit in with everyone else. Money shouldn't make you different from people, your attitude should.

Answer 3

Why don't you just be like a normal kid. Take the bus to school, buy lunch, wear casual things that you would buy at a normal everyday store. That is stupid that you have your own apartment, no need for it. Working middle class is the only way to live I believe. Money is nothing to me, I am middle class and proud of it. I have a small apartment in a good working class community. Yes I have a few expensive items, such as a few guitars and amps, but i had to save for those. Everything isn't just handed to me.

You probably wear/want to wear abercrombie and fitch, hollister, and american eagle clothing. You most likely own an ipod and an expensive cellphone. You parents probably drive a mercedes or BMW. Probably have a big house with a pool and some expensive pets.

Let me tell you something, those things get you NO WHERE at all. There is no point of wearing expensive clothes or having an expensive cell phone. You are in middle school, who the hell do you need to talk to on a cell phone? Don't say "Oh yea its for safety pruposes, my parents want me to have it". No need. you will never have to work for anythhing, and that is sad.

With middle class you learn something about values, life, and work ethic. You become a better person if you are in the middle class, or were in the middle class and worked your way up. Life isn't about cellphones, ipods, or designer clothing, or cars......life is about friendship, love, trust, bonds between people, hard work and all of those things. With money you can't learn anything about life

Answer 4

If you don't like the person you are portraying to be then stop it. You need to be true to yourself, plus you could show them that not every upper class person is stuck up. The Limo dropping you off at school might be a little much though. And you will always have someone talking smack no matter who you are or what class you are in. Good luck.

Answer 5

Your school people may not like it initially and if they really hate rich guys then you may be in for trouble. You shouldnt have to pretend about anything in the first place but also why would you want to display your wealth, there is a thing called as balance. If you live a natural life you people wouldnt dislike you. Flaunting wealth is the best way to make people dislike you.
you will have to do this slowly but make sure that you dont appear as if you are flautning your wealth. Take every decision with lot of thinking do you really need this ? if not then dont do it.

Answer 6

Do not worry. If you are worried, it's OK! You don't have to tell people if you don't want to. I'm an upper class, and many people know, but I try to avoid the topic when ppl bring it up. I know how you feel. They think that people with money are mean, stuck up and bossy. That's just the stereotype.

Answer 7

Well, if you wanted to avoid looking snobbish and pretended to be middle-class, but one day you show up to school in a limo, wouldn't that just piss everyone off? You don't have any money, your parents do, so just do whatever you want, but people might not react so well if they find out you have been lying to them.

Answer 8

The people at school already know you for who you are on the inside. I assume that, aside from material things, you are still acting like your self. If this is true, then they already know your personality, and they know that you are not a stuck up snob. If they suddenly change their perception of you when they find out that you have money, then they are the ones who are being snobby.

Answer 9

They will probably feel befriended because you lied the whole time if they are your real friends then they wouldnt care and you should know money doesnt buy happiness. Instead of flaunting what you have why dont you try to help people that are not as fortunate as yourself?

Answer 10

Hey, i really love it that you are humble, although you are actually rich! Not many people are like you in the world, you know! I really hope that you can continue to pretend to be middle-class so that people will not think you are stuck up and arrogant. It is good to be humble so you will know what it is like to live in a world that most people live.