I'm 21 years old and my boyfriend is 26years old. We have been living together for 4 years. We both want two kids, we have even picked two names. He said he wants to marry me so when will be be? I really want to have kids when i am about 23 years old but i want to be marryed first. So why won't he ask me?
2006-11-27 16:38:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him over sms one day that i had a wired dream that i asked him to marry me. I asked him if i did that in real life would me be cut. He won't back saying yes. He knows my answer is yes and we have been talking about getting marryed for about 4 months now. He knows what ring i want to not much at all, he as the money.
2006-11-27 16:56:29 · update #1
You ask him, he might me scared, maybe he thinks you will say no. Ask him. and set a date for the wedding. Make it simple.
2006-11-27 16:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda have the same issue, we've been together and serious for the past 5 years, but we have an eight year old son. He thinks that there's nothing to it. He says "When are we gonna get a ring and sign some papers???" WHAT ?!? I think its cute and cave-manish, but thats seriously not a proposal, and I wont answer to that. I know he loves me and the boys, he just bought us a house. He lets me stay at home a pursue a full time college education, while he works 16 hour days. We are young he is 24, I am 25. We've known each other since we were 7 and 8. I just hope that he gets the idea of a real proposal. I would love a funny one..like he puts the ring in my drink. I would love to get married on a beach all 4 of us barefooted, Id like all 3 of them to dress exactly the same and Ill wear a summery sun dress nothin fancy.
2006-11-27 16:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why should he you already live with him and if you get pregnant you will have his child. why should he make any changes. At this rate you will never get married. You will have to force the issue if you want that ring but if you do that you will run the real risk of ending the relationship. He is never going to ask on his own so are you willing to rise everything for the ring or are you willing to just be his girl even when you have kids and are an old woman. Yeah right. Wake up and smell the singleness. If you want to get married, dump this guy and start over with someone else. and remember, do not move in with anyone until after you get married Mamma was right Why should they buy the cow when not only do they get the milk but the cow is already in their barn.
2006-11-27 16:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should he? You have been giving him what he wants for 5 years and living together for 4 years? It is cozy the way it is. You are too young. Go back to school. Get a degree. Travel. Make some new friends. Learn a new hobby. Enjoy your life.
Stop making this man and being married the focus of your existence. You will be happier.
2006-11-27 16:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by YaYa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
UHH, he has all ready. Are you sure that you are ready for marriage? He brought it to your attention of his plans, it does involve you, I think that you need to either agree or disagree, however if you remain silent too long, you will be alone. Maybe you are thinking too much of SEx In the City, but just because a guy does not bow to one knee doesn't mean he did not propose. A marriage is a commitment between two people, not one person dancing to the others' every whim.
2006-11-27 16:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him ur desire that u want to have kids only after marriage and u r not interested in any contraceptives. So, the poor fellow will come and beg u for marriage when u refuse to sleep with him on the above pretext.
wish u all the best
2006-11-27 16:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by hari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can he afford a ring, let alone kids, yet? You're still young- be patient, go to school, get a mortgage and keep good credit. Kids (or married life) ain't cheap. Or, you can ask him.
2006-11-27 16:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by bb4pb510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of the saying No one buys the cow when they get the milk for free? It is true. I lived it for 7 years before I broke up with him. Wake up girl. Ring or the road.
2006-11-27 16:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by The Nag 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why he won't ask you,but then again, why don't you ask him? You might be afraid because the answer could be no, couldn't it?.....
If you feel the need to get married you ought to tell him. If he won't pull the trigger or come up with a good reason, perhaps you need to (regretfully) find someone who will.
2006-11-27 16:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
because youre 21. you got together when he was 21...maybe he remembers how he felt about marriage at that age and doesnt want you to feel like your being forced into it. if your serious about it, why dont you ask him. or at least sit down and have a mature conversation with him.
did you ever think that maybe hes waiting til your ring is paid off...
2006-11-27 16:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by beb27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋