Help me please????

Question

My fiance and I just broke up. He told me that he just couldnt do it right now (he is in tech school for the miltary in texas and home is in SC and cant be home till march) He told me he had to much stress. He told me that he did see us working it out but it was going to take time. I have a phone plan and he is on it and in the mist of our fighting I told him I was going to cut it off but told him later I would never do that he told me he was getting his own phone but he would still pay for mine and pay for the disconection fee. Why is he doing that? He also said that he felt like he was depending to much on me. he is also having finance trouble so he cant afford it really? But he is still going to pay for mine the bill will still cost as much is just the deposit and the disconnection fee. Why is he doing this?

He has the money to pay the cell phone bill he just cant afford the 300 dollars to get the one I gave him cut off and the one hell get deposit paid for.

Answer 1

He is in a stressful situation. Back off. Get YOURSELF together. He is just trying to be considerate of you. Since you know he is having money difficulties, take care of the phone business yourself. Good luck.

P.S. Try volunteering during this holiday season. Helping other people out makes me forget about my problems for awhile. I hope this info helps you.

Answer 2

Isn't it interesting that a piece of technology becomes a divining rod for a relationship?

I don't think that your phone bill is the most important thing here, but if it is, then this was a weird relationship in the first place.

I think you both need a break from each other. Get your own phones and phone plans. And, remember not to go phone-steady until the relationship becomes more formal...as in MARRIAGE.

Answer 3

I think I saw this on Judge Judy one day... actually, if you are broken up... you should just cut off his line now. He's probably using it to call other girls. Why can't get get his own cell phone plan? If he is having financial problems... what makes you think he'll be able to pay for the cell phone bills? I think he's just using you! If you keep this up... you'll be paying for his cell phone bill forever... you'll never see him get his own.

Answer 4

Hi sunshineB!
You yourself concluded that you don't have any contact with your fiance after you both broke! What the telephne contacts will do?
It is better to keep away from lame excuses and false promises. You may feel burden while you miss him. But he will be happy there in Texas with some one else.Take care and trust the truth!!

Answer 5

Only he can answer that question, but maybe he needs to do this to feel more self sufficient. Let him do it. But let him know that if he gets in a bind, you can pay for your own.
And what is the point in fighting about how he feels. Would you rather he lied to you?

Answer 6

I don't have a clue as to why other than he has someone else in mind. But don't take his word that he will pay anything, just use the phone as if you have to pay and you will be safe.
Good luck

Answer 7

He is saying good bye and he doesn't want to have any ties to you and since it was his decision he figures he needs to pay for his part of the bill. He wants to totally be free from you.

Answer 8

HE MAY FEEL THAT SINCE BOTH OF YOU HAVE THE PHONE
IT WOULD BE THE BEST THING TO DO. BUT SINCE HE CANT
REALLY AFFORD THIS. LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU APPRECIATE THIS BUT WOULD LIKE TO PAY FOR YOUR
OWN PHONE. WITH EVERYTHING THAT GOING ON IT WOULD BE JUST BE THE RIGHT THING TO DO. I SURE
THAT IN THE LONG RUN HE WILL APPRECIATE YOUR
OFFER.

Answer 9

hes doing that because you BROKE UP, its only going to get more and more distant from here so get used to it

Answer 10

consolation.
are you sure those arent just excuses.
if he loved you for real theres no way hed let you go for those reasons.