I didn't want to post anything because there was a question asking "Orgasms...love them or hate them?" and everyone yelled at the person for being so stupid; they said that everyone loved them. Well not me. I just don't like the feeling. Whenever I get close to an orgasm, I mean right THERE, I just stop. I don't like it. Since I am "supposed" to love them, why is it that I just can't go through with it?
2006-11-27 16:24:40 · 14 answers · asked by deeplydemented 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Sorry. A few of you don't know my gender. I am a woman.
2006-11-27 16:36:44 · update #1
You are too afraid to let yourself go.
2006-11-27 16:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Carl D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may be a medical problem honey, you should go see a gynocologist..an orgasm is a very intense feeling and it causes some people to feel very sensitive after the orgasm is over and during too..you may not like that sensitive feeling but you should try to get through it once it may be a problem you could get over by letting it happen a few times even if you have to bite your lip to stand it..but I would see a dr. and ask them this question, you will get a better answer...////
2006-11-27 16:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by cat-cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might just be extremely sensitive down there, which is fair enough. An orgasm is a very intense experience, and can be quite tolling. However, you might want to ask your doctor about your problem, it could be a medical issuee, Either that, or you might afraid to go through with the whole orgasm experience. Next time you're having sex and feel an orgasm, try to just relax and go with it, rather than ending the experience. You never know, you might find that you enjoy it! :)
2006-11-27 16:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons. It could be feared becuase there is something negative tied to the act or nature of sex- such as prior abuse. It unfortunately happens to some women, and I don't know if it ever gets resolved. If this is an issue, maybe coming to some resolution can be achieved through being with a person you truly TRULY trust and do everything to feel as safe and comfortable as possible and remember that sex is natural, safe and ok. Work with just orgasming with someone, not necessarily through sex, but maybe foreplay and toys, this could establish the bond. Whatever it is and whatever you choose to do, leave your guilt behind and rid all who pressure you about it. You'll do what you can in your time.
2006-11-28 03:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although this is for the most part a personal preference, I've heard of people having the feeling of an orgasm without actually going through with it. No one can really answer this question for you, it's more or less based upon your opinion of it.
2006-11-27 16:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're guys man. We're supposed to love them no matter how intense the pleasure is sometimes. I noticed that the better the sex the more intense the orgasm will be. It's like a lightning bolt coursing through your body and you just convulse until it subsides.(Only a few seconds) Just go through with it the next time you approach orgasm and you'll see how wonderful it is and you will want to thank me.
2006-11-27 16:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no psychologist, but I can tell you from my own experience that I have a fear of losing control. It makes it extremely difficult to enjoy orgasm at times. I have issues from my past that influence that reaction from me, and I'm guessing there may be something in yours too. I can enjoy an orgasm through masturbation only. Because I have no fear, unlike when I'm with someone. However I think yours may stem from a complete loss of control that you don't want to have happen to you. Who makes the magic book of "supposes" anyway?
2006-11-27 16:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you like them, do they hurt? They are supposed to be pleasureable, and it is unusual for somebody not to enjoy an orgasm. But hey, if thats they way you feel, then fine. I would just make sure that it is a personal choice, and not some sort of medical issue.
2006-11-28 14:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be as simple as you don't like them - I dont think theres an universal thing that everyone everywhere likes. However, it could be a psychological issue, maybe a fear of intimacy, or sex in general, sometimes people with OCD don't like sex because it is "dirty" and id assume this could apply to orgasms as well. Has it always been like this?
Another somewhat obvious question - are they painful?
Either way, I'd go to your doctor and ask him some questions about it and see what he says.
2006-11-27 16:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by bumbleleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont like it because you dont like the feeling of depression which comes after having an orgasm. Another reason is that you like to prolong the pleasure, because orgasm is the end of the pleasure. Do you have early ejaculation problem dear?
2006-11-27 16:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. Is stop myslef too sometimes, not everytime.The longer I have been married the easier it gets. It's a very out of control thing. I think sometimes it's a trust issue (I have a boatload of those). Only be with someone who you truely love.Just wanted you to know you aren't the only one.
2006-11-27 16:31:30 · answer #11 · answered by yogangel7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋