...hating her more
My aunt is being totally unfair.
She insults me right in front of me in another language (thinking I’m too dumb to understand)
She pretends she's innocent and never bad-mouthed me before
She thinks her children are perfect (when they're not)
She assumes she's the smartest
She spreads untrue rumors about me
I can't believe I’m related to her
2006-11-27 16:20:57 · 6 answers · asked by New football fan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have to agree with the above posters...avoid her as much as possible. If you can't then have a chat with the parent that is related to her and ask them to have chat with her about her toxic behavior and how unfair and psychologically damaging it is.
People who toot their own horn too (or that of their children) too loudly and then go around putting everyone else down to make themselves look better actually have very low self esteem.
I have has people in my life like this too and how I ended up dealing with them, besides avoiding them, is when they start with the putdowns I agree with them and tell them I wish I could be as perfect and smart as they are. They either believe it or it ticks them off, but usually it shuts them up, at least for awhile.
2006-11-27 16:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being rude will just encourage her and brand you as a brat. You need to respond in the language she is using. Even if you have to practice a response. Let her know that you do understand. Be assertive and stick up for yourself without showing disrespect. Tell her that you are sorry she feels that way but you would prefer it if she would tell you first if she thinks you have done something wrong so you can set it straight. She is probably embarassed by her kids and is trying to get people to focus on someone else.
2006-11-27 16:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by CAE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I have relatives like that, stay away from her! If that doesnt work then talk to her about it...I'm not saying she'll even listen but hey? trying counts! Most of all, I have moved 1 000 000 miles away from my relatives who dont appreciate me for who I am and use me as their "Verbal" punch bag! YOU deserve more, and the way she talks about her children...doesn't seem they have done much in life....you know, shes just TRYING to make them seem important, and you stupid!
2006-11-27 16:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by HAPPY <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write an anonymous letter to her pretending to be someone she says these horrible things to.. No name address, and tell her how you feel it is destroying you and making her look bad to other people. She wont say anything to you because she thinks you dont know, she wont suspect you. So do it and dont' believe what she says about you. It's obvious she's miserable, and has misdirected anger. Punks pick on people smaller than them.
2006-11-27 16:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Not In Kansas? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DO me a favor stay away from people like that. I HAVE family like that. TRUST me they will not be in my will when i die.
2006-11-27 16:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh!...we have the same situation...but what I did is I stayed away from her.
2006-11-27 16:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥chicagurl♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋