once i was everything she thought about and i am the same for her but now that she is about 8-9 weeks pregnant it seems as if she does not love me anymore...i feel at times i might come home and all of her things will be moved out the i love yous have stoped...she will say it back when i say it but it just seems as if there is no meaning behind it. could her hormones be causing this? we are pondering an abortion due to the fact that she has been on depakote her whole life up until now and there could be some serious sad birth defects...im thinking that has alot to do with the way she is acting but im not forcing i am trying to support her in the best way that i can. im afraid all of this is making her hate me what do you think? am i just being a worry wart?
2006-11-27 16:09:02 · 8 answers · asked by young grasshopper 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Believe me the moody will eventually wear off. Just be patient.
Good Luck
2006-11-27 16:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregancy causes some pretty wild hormone fluctuations that can make some women REALLY moody-I once actually threatened to "hurt" my boss!
THe thing is, the stress of the decision about the medication and terminating the pregnancy has got to be taking a huge toll as well. Just let her know that you are there for her in any way you can be, go to doctors appointments with her, offer to do things to help make her comfortable, and try to be a sensitive and supportive as possible when she asks you for input about the decision. Whatever you do-don't get angry or make her feel guilty about her moodiness or distraction from you. What she's going through is really hard, and you time will have to wait while she focuses on doing what's best for the baby.
I'm gonna be straight up here-when a couple loses a child, it can sometimes be too much for the relationship, and many people end up splitting up because they can't be compatible in the way they grieve, or can't share it and experience it together instead of separately. Sometimes it's hard to live with the person it happened with, because it is a reminder of emotional pain. Do your best to be by her side through every part of it possible-do your best not to fight about it. If you are truly compatible and meant to be together, you should make it through fine.
2006-11-27 16:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably still loves you, but she also seems to have a lot on her mind right now, just be patient with her and help her through this, because she really needs you more than ever right now, so try and be supportive. Hormones shouldnt have a lot to do with the way she's feeling since she's only 8-9 weeks, the mood swings normally kick in at about the second trimester.
2006-11-27 16:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's very hormonal and probably scared and worried too. She probably feels awful, morning sickness (which by the way can last all day), etc. That would be why she isn't acting normal. Her whole life is about to change and turn upside down. Just hang in there. It does get better, but it could take another 9-10months. Good luck
2006-11-27 16:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by suzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't get an abortion. My aunt was told her son would be serverely retarded and she should get an abortion, she said "No. I'll take whatever God gives me." Her son is perfectly normal. Second, a lot of it probably is stress of a possible sick baby, and part is hormones. It will pass just be patient. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-11-27 16:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read a book about what pregnancy does to women!
Hormones going crazy, cravings, fear...
Her behavior is normal, do not forget she is going through lots of changes right now, be patient and don't fight, be patient again, it will pass.
2006-11-27 16:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be patient with her, try to understand her. don't ever say that you know what she's going through because unless you are going through what she is going through, then you don't know. just be sympathetic. when she gets back to her old routine, i believe that she'll be back to loving you again. i think it's her hormones that's doing this to her. sometimes i get grumpy and don't want to speak to my husband and gets mad when he becomes affectionate towards me but that doesn't mean i hate him or not love him, it's just i don't want him to bother me in anyway.
2006-11-27 16:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! just be patient and love her!
She is pregnant which means she is not herself right now, but it will come back! First trimester is hard!
2006-11-27 16:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋