honestly in todays world $225 a month dont go far after you buy diapers and ect. i mean i get w.i.c. which gets formula but i cant afford a car a home or anything i live with my mother right now but i cant even get a job now bc the doctor dont wont me working for a while bc of the C-section that i had. i want to be able to afford a car and home and other things but it seems like after i buy the baby things and help mom i cant buy anything i dont know how to make things easier plus i am very depressed and sad over my x bf ( read my other Quistions if you dont understand and you can add your imput into this answer) i need help any advice?
2006-11-27 16:07:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The father to the baby isnt around at all its a complacated story read my other Q baby delima to find out why
2006-11-27 16:16:13 · update #1
First of all, You are worth more than all these losers you are letting take advantage of you. Be patient. You can get a job when you heal, that in turn will help you get a car and home. Remember, that baby depends on you so you have to take care of yourself. Drop the loser boyfriend. He does drugs and he doesn't want your baby around, that should be a deal breaker. I wish you all the best.
God Bless.
2006-11-27 16:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you need to talk to your dr. about the being depressed I had a c-section and I was depressed get help with that I know what you are going through. You can always start looking for jobs in the newspaper or on line just remember a job is a job and start saving up when u get a job I know it is easier said than done. Don't let people get you down when they say mean stuff. Keep your head up and get help for being depressed. Good Luck to you
2006-11-27 16:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get over your ex-boyfriend because number one he is not supporting his child and if he's not doing that you have no reason to deal with him at all. Take him to court and get child support. I cannot stress this enough. You need to focus on you and your child and if he is not helping you do that then he will do more harm than good in your life and you do not need that. Start looking for a job and find out if there are programs in your area to help pay for daycare while you work and/or go to school because if you want to have things in life and be secure you need to further your education and work towards having a career and not just a job.
2006-11-27 17:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ndpndnt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom of a 18 month old, and now with another coming in Jan. their dad is not much help. If k-tap is your states welfare, then I get that too. Try applying for HUD, or Section 8, whatever your public housing would be, that helps pay rent. File for child support. Being a single mom is REALLY hard, it is very depressing, and lonely, BUT it's not ALWAYS like that, things can get better, you just have to keep going no matter what obstacles come along. Thank your mom all the time and show her how grateful you are for her help.
2006-11-27 16:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by singlemom 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are right $225 is not much to live on, try to get child support from the baby's daddy-- I know if he is not working that it will be hard to get $$$ from him. I am worried about you, you sound like you need to talk to your DR about Post partum depression, it is not somthing to mess around with. As far as getting more $$$ it will not be easy, is your mom willing to watch the baby at night and you can get a job then so that you don't have to spend all your money on daycare? As far as buying things for yourself, well when you become a mommy stuff for yourself becomes a thing from the past. Ask WIC for referal for other support services that my be able to help you get on your feet. Take care of yourself and that new baby that you are blessed to have!
2006-11-28 02:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Casey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve had 9 months to plan for this baby its called working and saving up and not buying useless crap for yourself anymore
Im sorry but being a single expecting mother i though ahead and i live at home and dont drive but i was able to buy everything the baby needed pay rent and still save my money
you dont need a car or a house what u should be looking at is an apartment and a mode of transportation like taxi or bus
there is welfare and also child support and other things in the community that will help you with the finacial aspect of being a single mom
get off your *** and get a job you make the rest of us look lazy c sections dont require months of bedrest
2006-11-27 16:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by MaeStar 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, welfare isn't designed to make you rich. It is designed to meet your basic needs.
For starters, invest some of your next check in cloth diapers and plastic pants. You will be surprised how much money you can save by using cloth diapers--even just part of the time. I used cloth diapers almost exclusively with my oldest child, and about half the time with my youngest. I lived through it. And I would like to point out that financially I did not have to use cloth diapers, I did it to save money for more important things.
Now that you will be saving money on diapers, all the formula is paid for, and you live with your mother, $225.00 can go a lot further.
2006-11-27 16:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by maamu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well as a single mother of 3 with absolutley NO income and a sick child enableing me to work I get w.i.c. and foodstamps I have the best father 3 children can ask for who pays all the monthly bills and puts gas in our car but also I am in the process of looking for a reliable sitter that can help my daughter while I do find a job but look for work that your child can go with you that saves childcare expenses for you, or go to college and get grants that don't have to be repaid and start a daycare of your own and if you go to church they can usually help you with diapers and food smetimes they pay your bills untill you can get on your feet. atleast you have your mom 2.
2006-11-27 16:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by just lil ol' me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the money that you spend for the internet and use it on one of the many things you are ranting about. Then that will free up some time for you to work. Don't think i don't understand. I'm a single mom of a 4 yr old and 8mth old. it's hard. buut sacrafice and go to work asap. You should qualify for childcare assistance in your area.
2006-11-27 17:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start getting child support! That money belongs to your kid! If the father will not pay, go to the prosecutor. You brought that child into this world and now your responsibility is to provide for that child. Then, as soon as possible, you need to get a job. It is not your mother's job to support you and your child. Evidently you did not put much thought into the raising of this child. Do not expect people to feel sorry for your screw-up!
The only one I feel sorry for is your child!
2006-11-27 16:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by woundbyte 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋