Okay, first off... I'm a very open minded person, I'm gay and I have boyfriend, and we've been dating for a three months and things are going great; Well we were at the Mall, and we kissed each other, and I didn't really care what other people thought as long as they minded their own business. So, this girl, that looks 25.. came up to us and said "That's ewww gross, you two need a room." I've said this to her "Well, there is no law against public kissing, and we can do whatever the hell we want, and I'm tired of this censorship crap... so mind your own damn business... okay?" She looks at us shocked, and she said "Well, it's a sin." I was like "Grow up, and get used to it you narrow minded idiot." She left nodding her head. God it makes me so mad, when people can't mind their own business, they have to tap you and say negative ****.
Has this happened to you? If so tell me about it.
2006-11-27 16:07:17 · 10 answers · asked by Randy S 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, it's never happened to me because I'm straight. My friends (one lesbian, one gay man) have had several stupid things like that happen to them.
We're living in a time when discrimination and prejudice against homosexuals is socially acceptable. The fact that Rick Santorum can say some of the things he's said and not be called prejudiced and publicly ridiculed should say a good deal about what our society thinks about homosexuality.
However, this has been the same attitude toward all sorts of ethnic groups or other groups in the past. And slowly, people get over themselves and start accepting.
It'll take 30 or so years, but we'll get there eventually.
Sorry you had to deal with stupidity.
2006-11-27 16:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it interesting how, when you stand up for yourself, it seems to force the other person's hand, so to speak?
And they reveal more than they would have said! They accidently show they're cards.
Otherwise she probably was not going to say that she was a Fundamentalist Christian, cause' that is not so politically correct, that is for sure.
Don't let anyone ever put you down for it, in you're own head, no, they should definitely mind there own business.
But with the atmosphere such as it is today, maybe it is better to be just a little on the careful side.
Not because you are afraid of them, and ya know they sure are not right, but just to make sure you and you're boyfriend stay safe.
It's a strange world we live in these days.
2006-11-27 16:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by smoothsoullady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that when i was out with my old boyfriend we would kiss or hold hands while walking. One day we were at a theme park and were standing in a very long line waiting to go on the roller coaster. It was extreamly cold and i only had on a light long sleeve shirt and he had on a very big jacket. he saw i was cold and asked if I wanted him to warm me up by hugging me with the jacket. Of coarse i said yes. I had not noticed until then that a few people behind us was a mother and her son that i believe was about 5 maybe 6. I heared him ask his mother why 2 boys were hugging, after he asked that the mother looked forward and saw us. Then she got this look of shock and horror on her face said something I couldnt hear and then grabbed her son's arm and dragged him out of the line i assume to some other ride. This upset me because she and her child must have been waiting in that line for 20 minutes and just becuase there were a couple of gay people hugging for warmth she wouldnt let her child stay in the same line as us. I have since got over it, but i will never forget the look on her face. It said so much without me even hearing one word. it showed hate, fear and discust. I must say that i pity the boy though becuase i only had to see her for a few seconds where as he has to live with that thing of a person.
2006-11-27 16:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Doug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing I can see wrong with that was if there were children around BUT I feel that way about any couple gay or heterosexual because when my daughter was young there was a couple ( guy & girl) with their tongues all over each other & my daughter who was 3 was asking me things that I didn't want to answer. . What really makes me angry is when people like her use my God to say that you sinned. You handled it perfectly except (and I know it's not right) but I being a woman would have hit her. PS jaded1004 is right, I would also like to apologize on that witchs behalf
2006-11-27 16:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you did was tell her to mind her own business. I haven't had this kind of thing happen in a long time, but frankly I look like a grandmother(which I am), so I can basically do whatever I want.
Don't wait this long, do what you want now and keep telling people to mind their own business.
2006-11-27 16:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, at the beach down here in miami (yep i said it...GAY south beach) and I STILL dealt with this ignorance. I was laying in the sand on the beach with my boyfriend at the time. We were holding each other and a group of guys walked by saying "what the f*ck, hell naw, and other obscene comments" It just burns me up because even when i'm somewhere that is mostly welcoming to my sexuality, Ignorance still lingers. AND ruins the mood...
2006-11-27 16:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This, unfortunately, is what the world is still like, even after years and years of homosexual acts and partnerships and 'controversy' throughout time. The first that comes to my mind being the life of Oscar Wilde, or more up to date being that of great comedian and actor Stephen Fry.
2006-11-27 22:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly , 99% of straight couples in malls hold hands and show affection so why shouldn't you? It's only fair ... that woman was just a hateful bigot, continue to kiss your boyfriend and be proud of who you are. =) Don't let people like that bring you down.... and never internalize their own hate.
2006-11-27 16:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight, but hearing that s**t just pisses me off. I'm sorry you had to experience that and good for you for not hiding your sexual orientation and for defending yourself in such a confident manner. It's very inspirational.
2006-11-27 16:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by jaded1004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hasn't happened to me but I would not be nearly as calm as you were
2006-11-27 16:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋