well she is 8-9 weeks pregnant and i do anything i can to make her life easier but she seems to always wanna fight me and say really mean disturbing and hurtfull things. i try my best to remind myself that she is pregnant and emotional but i have a really hard time swallowing the things that she says to me...it just seems at times that she just doesnt wanna let me speak and wants to yell and swear at me. it just seems that no matter how much i remind myself or her that she or we need to calm down she just goes on a rampage about nothing. i try to walk away but she wants to follow me and keep fighting. sometimes she gets so upset to were she grits her teeth and holds her breath turns red and screams **** through her teeth. i did not know she was pregnant until about 2 weeks ago but i do recall all this starting about a month and a half ago. is this a common situation that guys go through when a girl gets pregnant? ladies please tell me how bad it can get and please be honest.
2006-11-27 15:46:25 · 23 answers · asked by young grasshopper 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sweetie, she is currently a walking hormone. During our first pregnancy I would get sick to my stomach when my husband walked into the room. ; ) (And all of our pregnancies were planned!!!)
You probably shouldn't tell her to calm down, that tends to be fuel to the fire. She'll probably get a bit better once she hits her second trimester (I know I usually did), but she is going to be pretty emotional for the duration. You get to learn how to be incredibly supportive and optimistic. I know it doesn't seem fair, but it really does all work out in the end.
Congratulations.
2006-11-27 15:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just don't take it personal...I was raging when I was pregnant especially during the 1st trimester, not to mention extremely emotional (anything and everything hurt my feelings) and chances are she probably doesn't even notice that she's being "mean" to you. HCG hormones (the ones that cause nausea, headaches, frequent urination, and extreme exhaustion like you just ran the Boston Marathon twice) go from 0 to 250,000ml during the first trimester alone.
Be understanding that it's probably not personal and whatever you do, do not, I repeat do not fight back with her! LOL! Part of it may be her feeling like you have no idea what she's going through or how she feels. I had a constant feeling that I was sick to my stomach until about the 11th or 12th week (without throwing up)...so if you can imagine yourself having a constant or re-occuring hangover if you can. BLAH! Being pregnant is big strain on your mind and body unless you're a woman you really can't understand.
Words of advise: never tell her she's fat (no matter how much SHE will bring it up), tell her she's beautiful up until the day that she delivers your beautiful baby- actually don't stop then tell her that atleast once a week for the rest of your lives together :) your relationship will be much better as long as she always believes that she's beautiful. Help her out around the house and just smile no matter how much you want to yell 'WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM" and things will be smooth sailing.
Ignore your guys friends that may try to discourage you and be a good father.
2006-11-27 16:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k I'll be honest.
it is hard specially if you find out you are pregnant ofter 3 months of marriage. I don't know but for some reason I feel the most miserable person in the whole universe, I mean I was vomiting the whole nine months, in and out of the hospital, I was so skinny, and I would argue all the time with my husband. We have an excellent relationship right now,but honestly someone else would have divorced me at that time. It is very hard to be pregnant. Right now we have 2 kids a 4 and a 1 and a half year old. My second pregnancy I didn't felt a think, not all pregnancies are the same. What I would recommend you is to block everything she Say's just walk away or pretend you are listening. Try not to upset her just pamper her a little bit. If she continues with that attitude after you have the baby then you have to have a serious talk with her that is what my husband did to me. good luck and congrats on your coming baby!!!!!
2006-11-27 16:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Iram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember she has more hormones raging right now than you will ever experience over the entirety of your life! It must be hard....I honestly do not experience these moods even my husband does not believe other women do this....but I know they do and unfortunately most of it cannot be helped. Be patient with her and love her through this. Pregnancy is not an easy thing, and she is having your child.
I did have a husband tell me years ago its a wonder women even live through pregnancy b/c of all the changes in our body. You can't imagine the way everything moves around to make room for growing uterus....and the hormones....
The first trimester (until 12 weeks) is the worst...it will get better.
2006-11-27 15:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
During the first trimester, the woman's body is on a roller coaster. I always had bad PMS, but with pregnancy, you can have it all the time, plus you can cry at the drop of a hat. Your emotions are all screwed up and she may be afraid of being pregnant if this is her first time.
Once she gets out of the first trimester, it will get better. Just hang in there. The hormones are really whacked out until the body settles down and accepts that it is a pregnant body. Until that time, it is a war zone in there.
2006-11-27 16:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you two should read this!
What causes mood swings during pregnancy?
Mood changes during pregnancy can be caused by physical stresses, fatigue, changes in your metabolism or by the hormones estrogen and progesterone. Significant changes in your hormone levels can affect your level of neurotransmitters, which are brain chemicals that regulate mood. Mood swings are mostly experienced during the first trimester between 6 to 10 weeks and then again in the third trimester as your body prepares for birth.
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What should I do about my mood swings?
It is important to understand you are not alone; mood swings are just another aspect of the pregnancy experience. Knowing that what you are experiencing is normal and somewhat expected may help you cope. The following list includes ways to manage your stress level:
Get plenty of sleep
Take a break during the day to relax
Get regular physical activity
Eat well
Spend time with your partner
Take a nap
Go for a walk
See a movie with a friend
Don’t be so hard on yourself
Try pregnancy yoga class or meditation
Get a massage
When should I seek professional help?
If your mood swings last more than two weeks and do not seem to get better, you may want to ask your health care provider for a referral to a counselor. More than 11 million American women are affected by depression each year. Depression is most prevalent in women during childbearing years but can occur at any age.
Some symptoms of depression include:
Recurrent anxiety and increased irritability
Sleep disturbances
Change in eating habits
Inability to concentrate on anything for very long
Short-term memory loss
If your mood swings become more frequent and intense, it is crucial that you speak with your health care provider about options in dealing with severe mood swings, anxiety or depression.
2006-11-27 15:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
haha yes .. she should try to control herself. But depending on your situation .. if you are young or this is an unplanned pregnancy she is probably pretty scared. I was pregnant at 18 and I always lost it on my husband.. I KNEW he thought that I was fat and that he wanted other women. It didn't matter what he said! The last time I was pregnant we fought just as much. I really become demon woman!! I will tell myself I AM PREGNANT I SHOULDN'T BE DOING THIS but then I would be like no he really is wrong I hate him.. we slept in different rooms during both of my pregnancies haha ... ask her to talk to her doctor about it .. which might make her mad too so nevermind haha ... tell her she is beautiful and mean it! Try to be sensitive and do sweet things for her! Good luck!
2006-11-27 15:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably going through a lot mentally it may really have nothing to do with you maybe she doubts herself as becoming a mother because of her abortion and feels if she pushes you far enough away she would have a good excuse to abort. Give her , her space and try not to be clingy just do what she asks you to do. Hormones play a huge role in how people act I've said some really mean things to my hubby and I feel awful. If she doesn't want to be with you tell her you want the baby and that you will take care of it all she needs to do is cook it! Best of luck you sound like a really good guy I hope she changes her mind about you.
2016-05-23 16:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying where I am from. The saying goes that, "the meaner the momma the better the baby." My mother had 6 children and it couldn't be farther from the truth. My dad claims I am the sweetest of the bunch and my mother was the queen of damned when pregnant with me, but she has 6 children that were all really good babies. It's only 9 months. Good luck!
2006-11-27 15:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Atypical 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy hits different women in different ways. Some of them feel fine and are ecstatic. Some of them are miserable from the first day. Your girlfriend should talk to her doctor about how she's feeling. He/she may be able to help her feel better physically. She may need to talk to a counselor. She might not be happy about this pregnancy, and if that's the case, she may need to talk to someone other than you about the conflict she's feeling.
You can probably help yourself and her by being supportive, taking care of household tasks without asking/discussing the matter, keeping healthy food handy for her, and otherwise doing things to lessen the stress.
2006-11-27 15:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋