For all the people who feel that internet porn is wrong and you don't want your spouse watching or participating in that why don't you block it? If i found out my husband was using our home computer for excessive porn use, the next time he went to do it, it would be unaccesible? I've just wondered why others don't do that instead of getting all wimpy and wondering what they should do. This is not about work computers just home.
2006-11-27 15:45:44 · 23 answers · asked by 1973kimberly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there are programs out there that block ALL inapproriate content from your computer. What is or isn't appropriate is a matter of personal taste. My husband doesn't look at internet porn so it isn't an issue. I also realize that women look just as often as men. I was merely posing the question because it seems to bother a lot of people. If my husband was a drunk, i would dump his alcohol. If my husband was an addict i would toss his drugs. I know he would do the same thing for me. We have equal footing in our home. It's about what we want in our home around our children. That is why in the original question I specifially said home computer not work.
2006-11-27 16:06:26 · update #1
This is OK if you have the total access to the computer. My wife cannot block my computer because I have it under my name, and I am the only one with the password.
Now, you probably think I am a total a--hole, but I am not. My wife does not know how to use the computer, and she will not learn because I have tried teaching her.
My wife has her room and I have mine, so now I hope that your mind is now open more than it was.
If a man or woman does not get satisfied at home, they will get satisfied elsewhere, and please do not mention the bible quotes or marriage vows because everyone is different.
2006-11-27 15:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-18 02:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't about the porn, it is about trust. If they are going to porn sites excessively or behind your back, there is a problem. You can't just 'block' it because they are adults. You need to discuss how you feel about it and what their take is on it. If they feel your relationship is important enough, they will want to work it out for the benefit of the marriage. They have to AGREE to blocking to help them overcome the addiction. Porn can cause all kinds of issues in a marriage, not good stuff! It leads them down alot of wrong paths. If they continue, counselling or the door.
2006-11-27 15:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by twinkiner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay my opinion on this matter would have to be that its not the fact that porn can be blocked its the fact that he should respect you and you should be able to trust him on the internet or watching tv late at night or even on his cell phone... But little do u know that pics can be deleted and the channel can be changed but when he is caught and lies are being spit in your face then the its a whole different story...my husband and I are newly married so this is all new to me, but I know what is right and what is wrong and watching porn whether it be on the internet,tv,or cell phone is decieving to the other person... He needs to know that its hurts, and if he does it again there will be consequences.. Its a trust issue..block all porn sites but he will find a way to get off without u knowing.
2006-11-27 16:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by happy2BAlive!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way i see it , is that if you don't trust him or her on the net , how are things going to work in real life ...... to get back to the web porn or even DVDs and books , why are you all shitty about it , its not like her or she can have sex with a DVD , book or a PC , why not look at it with him or her , this will make for more than one good night or day in the sack , so cut them some slack , for we all are just human , the only problem is , some of us ain't scared to show it , for we all like to get a little naughty now and again , and if you don't .... well then there must be something wrong with you ... its natural ....
2006-11-27 16:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men aren't so spineless that they would put up with an overbearing mother disguised as his wife. I do agree that neither should be in a relationship where one is doing this type of thing behind the others back. If they don't have a relationship that would allow them to discuss this calmly as adults they don't have much of a marriage to work with.
2006-11-27 16:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not talk to him about it an see what the problem is?
Unless he's totally not computer savvy, he'll just readjust the settings on "My Computer," and head straight for "WWW.BigBooty.com. and/or find another porn outlet.....Jeeze! Why are people such control freaks!? If porn is affecting your relationship either he/she is addicted porn or there are other unfulfilled needs that are not being addressed in the relationship. It's better to talk about it unless you just don't have that kind of relationship, which really isn't a relationship at all, then is it?
2006-11-27 16:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men suffer from a sexual addiction, and sometimes getting a filter and someone setting the password on it so the man can't access it is a good thing, because with an addiction sometimes you can't control yourself. I've overcome a sexual addiction and my wife had to block sites that I used to go into and for me I am very thankful that she did, because it's helped me to avoid those sites.
So about the argument, he can control himself, sometimes that's not always the case. Sexual addictions are one of the hardest addictions to overcome. And it takes alot of hard work and dedication to overcome it.
2006-11-27 15:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone knows how to block sites. And the person going to the sites shouldnt have to be monitored--they are adults.
Course they could always just have the internet turned off.
2006-11-27 15:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband an adult or a child?
You two need to work this out. If he really wants to do it then that is his right. If you really have a problem with it then that is your right, too. But what are you going to do about it as adults?
Giving him a spanking and sending him to his room with no TV for a week is what you do to children.
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2006-11-27 16:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋