I am 50 yrs old and always going out of my way for others in need. Now when I need help it seems like everyone is to busy for me. Even my daughter is to busy. My parents are ill and now I can't depend on anyone to step in while I am down. My father has a chemo appointment that I asked 3 people to call him and let him know they would take him to it and not one person has called him. and he has to go to bed tonight not knowing.I am getting very angry and bitter and hurt. I don't feel I should have to call and beg. I am so afraid I am going to over due it and damage my recovery . Pissed in Michigan
2006-11-27 15:35:08 · 7 answers · asked by wds 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you have the money you could hire someone just to do odd jobs for you and sometimes when people are ill with cancer the cancer society will take them to all their appts. and all you have to do is call the society in your town and fill out a form..they will also help you to get medicine and whatever you need for your father..I know because my father had liver cancer and we live in a very small town and they helped us..he only lived 6 months..it is hard when we have elderly parents and we have no help, and we have our own problems..medicare and social services may be able to direct you to some help or hospice could help you if your parent is terminal..there is help out there you just have to look for it...call the hospice center and they can direct you even if he is not terminal...good luck I know your pain and i have two sisters who would not help at all when Dad was dying...and i have muscular dystrophy...so i understand!!!....////////
2006-11-27 15:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by cat-cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you can't rely on family and friends to give you a helping hand that's pretty sad and sounds like they take you for granted my dear.
Is there any charitable organisation that could take your dad to his appt? In Aus we have the Blue nurses who will visit the elderly at home just to check their blood pressure! Perhaps your dad's doctor could organise the ambulance to pick him up (or is that not an option in Michigan??) Call some of the local orgs and see if they can help seeing as everyone else is too selfish to go out of their way. From now on perhaps you should be playing a little bit harder to get for those who can't help you out.
Hope the recovery comes along quickly & don't over do it. An angel will come.
2006-11-27 15:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by SANDY T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of those injuries can be succesfuly treated with surgery, but by now your knee has healed as it will and scar tissue has formed. You can get a consultation if you want, but unless you are very lame in that leg, there is little they will do and possibly nothing they can do. Some injuries heal on their own - so if your knee is working, you are probably OK. Also some parts of the joint do not have blood flow so they cannot actually heal - even with surgery. For some of these items there are artificial solutions, but not for all of them. If the knee works, I would leave it alone.
2016-05-23 16:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by LucyMarie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, to hear that , but you are already doing the damage, by the words you speak.
You're only hurting yourself., by your pride and getting angry.
People can see that.
Sometimes in life we need to be humble and ask for help in time of need. That is not considered begging, unless your asking for money.
But until that pissed feeling goes away, you probably won't get the help.
2006-11-27 15:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my anwser dear friend to you would be to quit complaining and think of the good things in life,i know its hard to do that sometimes but just beleive in god and he will show you way,i know what its like i had knee surgery back in 1998 and on the way home from the hospital i passes blood clotts through my heart and stuff,so i know what your going through and always remember these kind words what go's around comes around.and thats all that i can tell you i really wish that i could tell you more but i cant,just beleive in god
thank you
2006-11-27 15:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by DAVE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the crowd buddy I went thru the same thing back when I was crushed in a cave in and now most of my family I wouldnt piss in their ears if thier brains were on fire they all want help with this and that or financially and when I was immobilized they couldnt lift a finger to help so I figure **** em
2006-11-27 15:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be a local senior citizens center with a transport bus for such needs. I am sorry for your plight. You can better take care of others, if you take care of yourself first, you don't want to over-do it. Lucky in Georgia
2006-11-27 15:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋