My mom calls me at least once a week to ***** at me and thats the only reason that she calls. I'm 22 years old and getting married in July and it's either my fiance or I have "hurt" her or my dad in some way and it's getting to be so stressful on both of us. Everyone says that they are childish... everyone! My fiance and I have a new child together so I don't want to exclude her from our lives. Help!
2006-11-27 15:17:55 · 13 answers · asked by Hooga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Mom is upset because she's not in control of you anymore, honey. You grew up before she knew it ! Why not give her something to do to make her feel useful for the wedding? Let her write the addresses for the invitations or make a list of pastries to serve. ANYTHING to make the woman feel useful! When she feel needed, she'll calm down. OH..and maybe buy her a nice bottle of vodka. That always works for me! You're going to do just great. Just let it go in one ear and out of the other and keep her on a "need to know" basis. You have enough stress as it is! Godloveya, dear.
2006-11-27 15:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's best for all concerned if you avoid your parents. My Mom and I argued all the time too, for years and I'm a lot older than you, I could be your Mom, my children are all older than you. From now on when she calls if she starts complaining or being negative towards you, just say"I love you but I'm hanging up now" she'll soon get the message. If she says you or your fiance have hurt her ask her how and then tell her that that wasn't your intention, she must have taken what you (or he) said wrong. I did this with my Mother and it helped, I did finally have to tell her that if all she wants to do is Bi*** and complain that I would not be talking to any longer, that worked. I started doing this in Aug. (06) and she has had a change of attitude ever since.
Good Luck
2006-11-27 15:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My mom calls me at least once a week to ***** at me and thats the only reason that she calls. I'm 22 years old and getting married in July and it's either my fiance or I have "hurt" her or my dad in some way and it's getting to be so stressful on both of us. Everyone says that...
2015-08-06 19:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom called me a few minutes ago in a REAL BITCHY MOOD and yelled at me. I called her back and told her not to call me to yell at me and that she's always angry with me and it upsets me. She yelled even louder. If your mother is always calling you and being unpleasant you need to say something to get her to hang up or you could hang up. A ***** is a ***** no matter who it is even if she's your mother. Some people had rotten childhoods and bad marriages so they yell at their son or daughter in order to vent. After all, they can't exactly call up a friend or visit a neighbor to yell insults and accusations at them. Sadly it is usually the people closest to the bitches who bear the brunt (or all) of the insults and accusations. It ruins our lives too and for some of us, we have to wait until they're dead before we can begin our lives. Wishing you more peace than I have.
2015-08-02 14:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Alison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18 and went through the exact same thing. Now at 22 and with 2 children I have finally realized I can't spend my entire life trying to please them. I love them but I am responsible for my own little ones now. You will just have to talk to her and it WON'T be easy ... my parents currently are talking to me on a limited basis which really hurts and I hope that one day they will "come around" but it has made a huge difference in my marriage and just life in general is sooo much less stressful. If you ever need someone to vent to .. sometimes faceless people are easier .. shoot me an email :)
2006-11-27 15:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should respectfully( remember she is your mother) that you are grown now have you own family and a child of your own and you are not the same child she raised 22 years ago let her know that yes you are her daughter but not her child. and that you will no longer let her talk to you any kinda of way. and mean it when you say it. When she calls and starting bitching politely say mom i have to go now because you are forgetting i am grown and i can't allow you to talk to me like this
2006-11-27 15:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Missy_Eye's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many mothers make their children the entire focus of their lives, then become despondent when their kids grow wings and fly. Reassure her that she did a great job raising you, that you have a role for her in your life, and that you love her. Then YOU initiate conversations on your schedule and topics. It's time for you to manage the relationship if you still want to have one. Good luck-I'm 43 and still struggling with this.
2014-02-07 01:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know what to say but just tell you're mom the truth and tell her your true feelings and then work things out and see how that works out!!!!
2006-11-27 15:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will always be a ***** and she will always be your mother. Try not to let it get to you so much. Try avoiding her phone calls if it helps. Get caller id and let the machine pick up her call. I don't know what say to you, mothers are tough. You can tell her how you feel about it but; chances are it isn't going to change her.
2006-11-27 15:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Change your phone # and then tell her you got your phone turned off and don't give her your new #. Tell her to write you letters and call her from a pay phone about once a month.
2006-11-27 15:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋