i am 23 and have 2 children from a previous relationship, my husband is 34 and has been married once before and has no children he said that his first wife was on the pill and that they did not want children but now he would like 1 and we have been trying for almost a year now with no luck ive tried everything in my power 2 try n concieve but nothing has worked.Before we started trying i had the implanon in my arm which once taking out all effects have gone from the body unlike the pill injection which takes up 2 a year 4 you to concieve , i had the first implanon put im my arm after i had my first child and i got it took out 1mth before i conceived with my second child so i know that the effects of getting the implanon removed go from your body straight away. any advice would be much appreciated.
2006-11-27 15:11:48 · 6 answers · asked by julie wally 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You have been trying together for less than a year, so technically you're not yet considered medically infertile as a couple. Add to that the possible effect on your body chemistry from the implant - I know you conceived before, but the body isn't a machine and doesn't always behave the same - and at present there's no major reason to get too upset.
I say "infertile as a couple" because (a) it's really important not to blame either one of you, for the sake of your relationship, and (b) sometimes you can each be normally fertile with other partners but have reduced fertility together - for instance if your womb contains antibodies to his sperm, almost as if you were allergic to them.
It may even be that you have become subfertile yourself since having your children - for instance, if either was delivered by caesarean, that can make it harder for an embryo to implant; or you may have suffered a chlamydia infection which has caused endometriosis - so it's in everyone's interests not to start apportioning blame.
However, your concern is understandable, and I'm sure you want to see something happening. If you really have tried everything in your power to conceive - giving up smoking and drinking (if you did either), and predicting ovulation dates using a kit (which can be bought from a pharmacy) - and have been doing so in a concerted fashion for 6 months or more, then maybe it's time to start exploring the options.
The first thing to do is to go to a GP. They can arrange a sperm test for your husband: this might, for instance, reveal "subfertility" - extremely common these days, maybe as many as 1 in 10 men - which means he CAN have children, but the chances are somewhat reduced because he has fewer sperm, or sperm of lower quality, than is ideal. If that's the case, it might just take longer for you to conceive, and since a fully fertile couple can often take a year or more, that might just mean keep trying.
If that's normal, you can be referred for the next test, which is usually a post-coital test - you go in after having sex and they look at how his sperm react in your vaginal fluid. This is mainly to test for the antibody thing I mentioned earlier. They may also perfom various internal examinations of you to see if any problems have arisen.
If none of these tests reveal anything, then you have two choices: just keep trying naturally, or enter the world of fertility treatment. If they do reveal something, you may not have the former option.
The unfortunate thing for you is that because you have children already, you will not qualify for IVF on the NHS, so expect to pay (£3000 and up for a cycle with a 30% chance of success, or thereabouts). You may need a related (and even more expensive) procedure called ICSI if he does have sperm problems. But the good news is that there are many options.
One way or another, you have a great chance of having kids with your husband - and I really hope you succeed in doing so. In the meantime, don't let this become the be-all and end-all for this relationship, and try not to get too wound up about it, because that doesn't help either.
2006-11-27 16:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by gvih2g2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been a year that you've been trying to conceive then I would advise you both to go and get some simple fertility tests done. There most probably isn't a problem at all (a lot of couples take up to 18 months to conceive) but me and my husband also tried for a baby for about a year. Our Dr then sent us for fertility tests. Because my husband already has one child from a previous relationship we were prepared for it to be me with a problem. We were really suprised to learn that my husband now has a low sperm count and I have no problems at all. Things can change for anybody apparently so it's important that you both get checked out. Good luck.
2006-11-28 03:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say many things can prevent it. My parnter thought he couldnt have kids but when we had quit smoking i concieved a week later. Alcohol is also a common factor. You can help boost your chances by taking folic acid but if your husband is worried he should see about getting a sperm count. Good Luck
2006-11-27 20:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Suzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask him to see his doctor for a sperm test. It is quick a simple and the results are back within a week or two.
2006-11-27 17:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pills are going to mess with you, but stress is another HUGE factor. You might be making him infertile. lol. Or, even doing this to yourself.
2006-11-27 15:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be tested to see if he isn't sterile. better than making yourself all upset. start there and then you will know what to do.
2006-11-27 15:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by lynnepeterpan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋