there is a married man at work that i am VERY attracted to and he keeps flirting with me. Honestly i am totally hot for the guy and would like to know if i need to quit this flirty relationship we have or is it innocent?
2006-11-27 15:04:46 · 16 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is hot but i know better than to go there. I make it clear that i have no interest by mentioning his wife. I guess i just need to stop talking to him. I wanted to be sure that that is indeed what he wanted and it was not innocent.
2006-11-27 15:12:58 · update #1
yeah you are better off just to stop talking to him, with your luck his wife will find out and come looking for you. You know guys can be such pigs,,, ( married for over 20 yrs now I know) and they think about one thing most of the time and it isnt with the head on their shoulders either. But yeah if I were you I would make him understand right now that you dont want to talk to him any longer because the type of covnersation he wants to have with you is just plain wrong on his part,, boy do I feel for his wife.
I think when it comes to guys they think that after a number of years of being married that maybe the grass is greener on the other side but you know what it isnt and he would just hurt you and go back to his wife anyways.
I know this because my husband is one of those flirts but beleive me when I catch him I let him know that it is very wrong and very
hurtful but not as hurtful as its gonna be if he doesnt get his eyes back in his head when he is looking at that blond across the room. He has always been this way and I knew it but we have been married for 20 years now and he isnt going anywhere and niether am I . ya just gotta keep them in check when you know they are doing it. and if women like you help us keep them in check by not acknowledging their bad behavior it would make things a whole lot easier on the marriage front.
just because they flirt doesnt mean there is anything wrong with their marriage,, most of the time its just because like I said before the wrong head is thinking for them.. I hope you understand what I am saying and I am glad that you make mention of his wife I am sure she appreciates it at the end of the day when he comes home to her . You are very smart for nipping this in the butt before it goes to far. Good Luck :)
2006-11-27 15:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Becky L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that this man is married should be enough for you to know it should not be happening. How would you like it if you found out your husband was flirting with a girl he worked with ?? Not a nice thought is it ?? Stop the flirting now it doesn't matter how you feel about him, he is married and totally out of line. He will only use you anyway and throw you aside when he tires of you and flirts with someone else. Flirting with married men / women is never really innocent, people get hurt !!!
2006-11-27 15:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING is innocent about flirting with a married man. It is still crossing the line, I mean think about how his wife would feel if she found out, she would probably be hurt.. You need to stop the flirting before it turns into more and you have a real problem on your hands
2006-11-27 15:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never innocent when flirting involves a married person being it a women or a man.How would you feel if you were married and found out that your hubby was was flirting???? If he is married and making the moves on you then you can be 100% sure that there are others also with whom he is doing it.Just quit it and stop yourself from hurting yourself and his family members.cheers
2006-11-27 15:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by shanan g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not innocent. Pretend you are playing with matches. You light one, then another, is it innocent? No, behind each light is a fire. It is very, very unfair. Would he or you behave in the same way if his wife was around? Is he keeping his vows? If not, he's not a man of honor and you will end up with a man that sleeps around. Would you trust him? No, I don't think so. It may be fun to light a match, but a forest fire destroys everything in its path.
2006-11-27 15:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question. You obviously like the attention. Why else would you flirt with a married man? You are not blameless, don't try to put if off on "his" end. You are both wrong, at LEAST have the decency to say that.
By the way, he is not leaving his wife...
2006-11-27 15:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by cking_pOise... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The important part and the only thing you can control is your intentions. You need to define what you want here, and if it is innocent you better start throwing in references to his wife. "Oh your wife is Soooo Lucky!" sort of thing - this will serve as a reminder to him and to you that it is innocent and can keep the flirting harmless.
2006-11-27 15:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are hot for him and he's married, yes, please stop the flirting. You could be getting yourself in a situation that will be fun in the beginning, but will hurt many people in the end. Not to mention that you work in the same place...could be bad for your career.
Regardless of what his intentions are, you need to stop.
2006-11-27 15:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's innocent or not HE'S MARRIED. can you not find yourself a single man who is attractive. He belongs to somebody else. If we would all use a little common sense. He took vows with another woman. You need to back it off. If you don't you will be personally responsible for destroying another woman.
2006-11-27 15:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on, you must be an idiot not to know the answer for this.
No it isn't innocent and yes you should quit flirting with the guy--this will do good for yourself. Good luck!
2006-11-27 15:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋