An attractive girl who is in her early 20's is flirting around me, she is pyt (pretty young thing). Im already married with grown up kids. I keep controlling my self not to be involved with her, but she keeps on calling, emailing and consistent of asking if we can go out sometimes for fun. She is easy to like and irresistible but i keep my focus on my family and my job.
Is there somebody who was on this kind of situation before? (especially guys) and how did you handle and overcome it?
2006-11-27 14:55:05 · 19 answers · asked by a2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pray. with God's help you can overcome this temptation. and tell this girl to have some respect for you, your wife, and your marriage, and to leave you alone. tell her to stop calling, e-mailing, asking you out, and flirting. she is up to no good. and I promise you no good will come of this if it keeps going on.
there are always consequences to the things we choose to do. think about what you risk losing if you fall into this sinful trap okay? ask yourself, is this girl worth your wife? the love and respect of your children? the respect of your co-workers and friends? your self respect? sexually transmitted diseases? giving those diseases to your wife?
you do have a choice. and I sincerely hope that you will do the right thing. and you know what the right thing is. you can put a stop to this before it goes any further. I pray that you will.
please see this situation for what it really is, satan trying to ruin your life. not just your marriage, but your very life.
I will sincerely keep you in my prayers.
2006-11-27 16:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
please,please, take my advise.Don't think with the wrong head, if you think with the wrong head it will distroy your marriage and both of your lives forever!! I have been there.It is horrible... And my husband is a wonderful man..He would'nt say anything or do anything to hurt anyone.We are 15 years married,and no matter what it is, it is up to me.What ever you want,and he has never answered one of my questions,he always answers with a question or just shruggs his shoulders.He will never give his openion when asked.This in it's self has been very depressing through the years.And anyone can say to me,while my husband is standing right beside me, that they think I'm piece of s t and they can't stand me and my husband will never respond to it or defend me in any way, he will walk away most of the time and leave me hanging.He is 10 X 10 as in seriously the most overboard passive man you will ever know.He knows no other way and all the training in the world could can not bring him to what reality really is.And the man has got the intelligence to master anything, even if he has seen it for the first time in his life.If it is at all possible to put it together,fix it, or figure it out for you, he will do just that.We live in a small town where everybody knows everybody, and everybody likes my husband.We both work grave-yard shift, for the same company, have for many years.Graveyard hours brings out the weard and the scary.And many have stumbled up on our warehouse over the years.And they always hone-in on my sweet, 10X passave husband. Because he will talk to anyone.Leading up to what totaly crumbled everything that was beautifull between us in our marriage, and will never, ever be the same again...This smelly,sloppy,fat , black gay man, that has been seen walking the streets in the dark knights, has found himself a friend, and started hanging around on a regular bases.Leaving out all the depressing motions and coddling he was direction towards my husband, never socializing with any of the others there, theres probly 20 people there.Anyway I ask around and thats how I found out he was gay.I tryed to warn my husband to avoid him, as my husband does'nt realize it but he is leading the gay on, and it is starting to seriously bother me.I became very suspicious and angry about this being an every night thing.My husband just blew it off and said I'm paranoid. Well a few months later a friend came to me and said that he has been seeing this gay,snuggled up next to my husband in our truck, snuggled meaning sitting together like two people that love each other sit.I finally saw it with my own eyes one night....I died a thousand times inside and all my husband could say was that I'm wrong and that just because they were sitting together does'nt mean either of them are gay!!!! you fill in the blanks.
DON'T DO IT
IT WILL WRECK YOU BOTH FOR LIFE
2006-11-28 02:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by jam b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I comend you for keeping your focus on your family and job. That's great that your thinking of your family. But talk with your wife about it, because obviously this girl is making you uncomfortable. And I think your doing a good job of resisting the temptation, but if she wants to get together with you like she does, tell this girl, that your not interested. That your wife is the only woman for you. That you are uncomfortable with her flirting, and her calls and e-mails. If she doesn't stop, you may have to either block her calls and e-mail address. Or change your phone number and e-mail address.
I've never been in the situation myself, but if I were, I would tell her that I'm not interested in her and also block her phone number and e-mail address. And if that didn't solve things, I'd change my phone number and e-mail address.
Hope that this helps.
Take care and God Bless
2006-11-27 23:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My recommendation for you is to stay away from her, especially if you have grown kids.
Delete her emails. Yes, I know there is temptation, but how do you not know that all she wants is to break up your marriage, and cause problems with your kids.
You need to tell her politely, that you have no intentions on having fun with her that you have kids of your own at her age, and please stop emailing me. Tell her that you feel flattered but nothing is going to happen sexually between you and her.
I wish you the best of luck. Do not let the bottom part make the wrong decision for you.
2006-11-27 23:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
please be strong enough to know that all this will only bring u hurt in the long run, if she would come on to a married man and try and entice him away from his marriage, she would also cheat on that man if she were his wife. what do u expect to gain from it, besides sex. u could loose your wife, and family over some young pretty thing. all i can say is there ain't no fool like an old fool as they say.sure your flattered and u feel great that someone that young would come on to u, but in reality how long do u really think it would last? are u willing to loose and hurt your wife over this .......
2006-11-27 23:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope no situation like this but if you are serious and want to keep being faithful to your wife and kids, then you tell her nicely to stop calling and e-mailing, I am sure the attention makes you feel great but what are you going to do if you slip and something happens how are you going to feel then?
Stop the situation you put yourself in by giving out your number and e-mail address and let her be...
2006-11-27 23:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there, just not with one that young though. Clearly you are not telling her no and must be leading her on. You should be blunt and tell her "no, not interested". It can be flattering and all kinds of ideas go through your mind. You have to pray through it and cut her off. One night of passion can lead to a lifetime of pain. Also if she does not respect your marriage, how much can you expect from her other than a fling and on to the next guy?
2006-11-27 23:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by Need My Email 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to lose the family that you have? Are you willing to lose their respect forever? A man once told me that after an affair, he felt like everyone who found out about it, judged him differently in every situation afterwards. Is this girl, who is definitely looking to gain something for herself (money?) worth it?
We are all tempted. Whether we act on it or not is the question.
2006-11-27 23:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
first you have to ask yourself do i love my wife is it really worth it because i was once in my early 20s and for the most of us at that age its a game she will have you and play with your mind and maybe want some finacial funds from you you put yourself in that situation and you may regret it , just think to yourself she would be great for my son if you were single it would be different i would say go for it and have fun, good luck!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 23:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bianca H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's really being pushy - you will have to file harassement against her - don't take this lightly.... keep your focus - no contact or conversations with her - have your email and calls screened - if she works at the same place you do, then report this behavior !
2006-11-27 23:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋