Let me make that decision harder
Dad was having an affair and mum making his life a living hell including yours
2006-11-27 14:50:02 · 13 answers · asked by max 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If dad was having the affair, I'd have to live with mom, but if she was making my life a living hell for something I didn't do, I couldn't stay with her either. I'm over 18, so I'd just move out.
2006-11-27 14:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Pirate_Wench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say your Dad was having an affair................is it over? You Mum's trust has been betrayed but they need to work out one way or another where the future lies. Is you Mum prepared to forgive, if not forget? If so, she needs to make an effort not to make your Dad's, and your, life a misery. You Dad will have to show a great deal of love, patience and affection to prove himself again, as trust worthy.
I am almost tempted to suggest you tell them to grow up, sort it out, one way or another. Then, you can make an informed decision..........assuming you love them both equally sharing time between one and the other is optimum. You need both parents. Your Mum may feel hurt if you want to spend time with your Dad, but after all wanting to see him and spend time with him is not a betrayal on your part and you should not be expected to carry the anger of one parent for another.
2006-11-29 15:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad had the affair, your mum has had her life turned upside down she has every right to be making his life hell, stay with your mum she is the one who gave birth to you and she is the one he cheated on why should she loose her husband and her child because he couldnt keep his trousers on, both of them love you and your mum is obviously the stable one thats what you need and your dad will never be too far away
2006-12-01 10:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jeni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is who do you want to stay with, if that is hard to answer then try to split the year between the two, a break up is always messy, and often it is the children who pay the price, if the parents knew how the child felt, they would explain that the fault in the relationship is not the kids, just two adults who have grown apart. Your decision. Good luck
2006-12-01 17:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by seaman01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you split your time with both?
What is going on with your mum and dad is there problem and there issues it's not your fault, dont take it out on your dad and think he dosent need you just because he has a mistress, dont think he dosent love you or want you because in his own way he does.
You can still love both of them, in time your mum may also move on she may also find someone else, even though she maybe making your life hell she also needs you and loves you.
I hope you dont take sides, people cope in different ways.
Sit down and talk to them both, share your feelings, time and love with them both, maybe things may never go back to the way they were but if they can remain friends then the outcome may be different, good luck to you and your mum and dad.
take care
2006-11-28 11:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Caro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stay at home with your mum, it would be worse if you went with your dad because he has a mistress...i don't think your mum would like that....be there for her, she making life a living hell because her life has been made a living hell by what your dad has done...she's hurting, she's been betrayed, her trust has gone, she needs someone with her to comfort her and love her...be there for her...you can always go visit your dad any time...
2006-11-27 22:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will i think i would stay with my mum, she is hurt and upset, things will probably get back to normal once he moves out, if not then maybe you could move with your dad then.........just wait and see what happens. good luck and god bless
2006-12-01 18:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats BEST for you. When you have made your decision, tell your parents the reason.
2006-11-27 23:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by whatsinaname58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
max i hope you make the dissension that is right for you. NO one can make this far you. just remember no matter what you do someone WILL be hurt you can not worry about that they are the ones acting like BABY'S.
god be with you
2006-11-27 23:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would rather stay with my mother. she would have a change of heart towards me once my dad is out of her life. that i am very sure of
2006-11-27 23:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by bode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋