Am I right for feeling this way?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 yrs. I have a big problem with his ex-wife, that will not leave us alone. She constantly calls and harrasses us. I have a feeling there is more than meets the eye! I have caught them talking on the phone a couple times, but it all ends for awhile, but always seems to start back up. She is remarried and cheats on him all the time, and she swears that she will get my fiance back no matter what she has to do. What the hell is wrong with this woman, besides being a major alcoholic. I just dont know what to do, because I'm not so sure I trust him much. Any advice would be helpful. Thank You!

Answer 1

I think you already have your answer. It's just hard to follow through. In any case, your problem is not with the other women which she is in this case. The problem is with the person you have the commitment with - your boyfriend. And you already know that you don't trust him.
We err when we don't follow what our instincts tell us about others. It's really all you have to go on unless you want to degrade yourself by following him and doing other things like that to try find out what's going on.
Do you really want to go there? God Bless!

Answer 2

First, if you and your fiance live together and agree that you want her to stop harassing you two, get in touch with the police and get a restraining order, or if your police department takes harassment more seriously, file charges. If she is harassing you in anyway, you can go and have this done for yourself alone if you would like.

As for your trust issues with your fiance. If you don't trust him, don't marry him. You have no reason to spend your life with some one you can't even rely on to be faithful and at your side every night. The best way to deal with it is to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. He will understand, and if he doesn't, he isn't worth your time. In any case, postpone or call off the wedding until you are sure that you can trust the man you are going to marry.

Hope I've helped!

Answer 3

YES, you are right for feeling that way. My exhusband's exwife vowed to give us hell when we married, and she did. He more often than not relented to her demands just to keep the peace. I don't think they were intimate, but she ruined us because he put her first.

I suspect you and your fiance are already living together which will make things a bit tougher, but you need to take a step back and evaluate this.

Also, if she is an alcoholic, he could be an enabler and/or feels "needed" when she goes swimming in the bottle. That is a bond very few people can step between. Beware.

Good luck

Answer 4

Baby its more than you see. If dont have any children together they have no living reason to talk to her. You need to watch that kind of act. Its not just her Baby. its him too. So dont be mad at her along. Confront him also. And let him know how you feel avout this. Put your foot down. Dont be afraid of losing him. By the way why 7 yrs of playing house? Either he want you or not?
That should be your main project. Ask him???You can do bad all by your self.....

Answer 5

My first reaction is that this weird behavoir seems to be continuous and that concerns me. It might be a situation that will haunt you constantly. Perhaps you and your bf should put the brakes on for awhile so that you can see if anything does develop between them. Be good to yourself!

Answer 6

well it sounds like there is more between them then what they are both saying. it sounds to me like he went through alot w/her and maybe he is just use to being there 2 pick her up when she cant keep it together. sometimes when your in a relationship similar to theirs (what it my have been like) it very hard to cut ties. Talk to him and be straight tell it like it is. make sure he understands what he is doing to his relationship w/you.and if he cant explain himself then maybe you need to let go of him.