Does this Sound Like Cheating?

Question

The other day my husband went out with his friend. I needed to get a hold of him and when he returned my call, a woman's number came up on the caller ID (please keep in mind, my husband and I don't own cell phones). When I confronted him, his first response was that he called me back on his friend's cell phone (he did not because I know that number). I then replied that some other name came up on the caller ID. He responded with, the woman on the caller ID is his friend's ex-girlfriend and the number is still in her name. I then called the number later and a woman answered. After I confronted him on this, he said that his friend's ex-girlfriend stopped by the house and picked up the phone.

I am very suspicious because we just had a baby and have not been intimate in almost a year. He does not hold, cuddle, or even kiss me passionatly anymore. When I told him this, his response was, "I don't know what to tell you. I can't make you feel better, and feel as though I love you." HELP!!!

I just wanted to add:

I'm 25 and he is 35. I looked up this girl on the internet and she is a year younger than me and her address is connected with the phone number on the caller ID.

In response to "I drove him into the other woman's arms:"
He has denied ME sex, so I'm not sure how I drove him into another woman's arms. Also, I have a three month old, so please keep in mind that I was pregnant nine of the 12 months that we have not had sex.

Also, when I did confront him with the question, "If we we are not having sex, you have to be getting it somewhere else," he responded 1st with, "I don't want another baby," then with "I'm not an intimate person." I don't know ONE man that doesn't enyoy sex and hello...there are 15 thousand ways to prevent preganacy today.

He must think I'm an idiot.

Thanks everyone, I was really starting to believe his lies. What do I do next? Play it cool until I have physical evidence?

Answer 1

Don't over-react. Jealousy can cause relationship breakdown. you need to trust your hubby's word. Talk to him nicely, and ask him the problem. Show him your trust in him. Let him smell the fragrance in you and win his heart through your loving nature.

Answer 2

YES... More often than not, when sex lacks in a relationship, infidelity comes into play. Unfortunately, you have no proof. But my belief is that the intuition of a woman is undeniable. Learn to trust yours. The truth will come out one way or another. I wouldn't just be concerned that it may be a woman he is cheating on you with... nowadays... it could be a man. Not to frighten you. But be aware of the things that are going on around you. Explain to him that if he loves you he will be honest with you. If he isn't cheating {which is highly likely that he is} then he must have lost interest. If so, what can you both do to fix it, if it can be fixed. Ask all the questions, corner him. Because, first and foremost, this is about your marriage succeeding. Seek a marriage counselor if at all possible.

Answer 3

Well, here you go, he is cheating, and he is using the oldest line in the book, it was his ex GF's phone.. Tell him to be a bit more creative than that one, and she just HAPPENED to go to her ex's house the same day you called. He is cheating honey and you need to call that number again and talk to this woman and find out exactly what is going on. And let her know that you are still married with a child and that you are working on the marriage (even if you are not) and tell her in a very NICE way to stay out of the way of the relationship. Also remind her that in some states if not all of them now a days the wife can go after the other woman for damages when they cheat with a married man, and that you are prepared to do this if she continues to see your husband. But do it in a nice mean kinda way and sound SERIOUS

Answer 4

He may not be intimate with this woman yet, but definitely sounds like he's got something going on that he is making excuses for. Been there with the cell phone thing, the extremely early and late work days, the excuses, manipulating your questions so it seems like there is something wrong with YOU. Don't buy it, take the reigns, and leave this guy before it gets ugly!!

Answer 5

his respnse is quite troubleing, that is exacly what my ex said to me when i became upset when i found out there was another woman in the picture, "i don't know what to tell you" because he doesn't know what to say.he has no intention of making u feel better either. his response was a little bit too cold, and hurtful, he is your husband and it is his place to reasure and make u feel loved. he is cheating on u, with that girl. he is making up all kinds of excuses, that really make no sense, he is insulting your intelligence. she just convienantly came by and picked up the phone, and she is an ex, makes not a bit of sense, he is trying to cover his tracks, and he isn't smart enough. i can see right through his lies. i would confront him, call theother woman and tell her to leave your hubby alone. i would tell him in no uncertin terms that he needs to agree to go to counciling, to see what is the matter and quit seeing her, and if he doesn't there are consequences. atleast u will know if he loves u, if he agrees to stop seeing her, but be prepared for it to go the other way too.but u just can't let a man do that to u, it will undermine your self worth.

Answer 6

GO GIRL...hold on, he did call from his friends where you called him, but he used a different phone from the one you had called to call you back...the cell was from his friends house being used by his friend and was most likely out on the table and he grabbed it to use after seeing that you had called (if it was my house the ID comes up on the screen of my TV)...the friends ex-girlfriend took her phone home with her and you called her...hope you played it cool and only asked if the friend was there instead of your husband...this could result in a paranoid nightmare...wild suspicions...see if you can rekindle that ol' fire that made that beautiful child...it will take several steps to the goal, but if you are serious about working out this and getting past needing help...then you will both find the LOVE you still have, but have fear of losing.

Answer 7

His friends phone,ex girlfriends phone number,ex girlfriend came to pick up the phone that is suppose to be his friends.Can't make you feel better,and feel as though he loves you?He could if he wanted to.You know his friend number,girls number comes up on phone.Do the math.

Answer 8

When a man does not have sex with a women he is living with for a year, hello! You know in your heart what is going on. You don't need him to justify it for you. You need to figure out why and how much longer you are willing to be treated like crap. You deserve so much better. No one deserves to be treated like this. Good luck and God bless*****

Answer 9

Yes, it does sound exactly like cheating. He doesnt have a straight answer and his alibis keep falling through. When I found out my husband was cheating he had the same "i dont know what youre talking about" attitude. get rid of him.

and im going to add that calling he back and asking her isnt going to give you answers like soem of these women are suggesting...in my case...she knew he was married and i had even met her before. she didnt care.

Answer 10

I THINK THAT HE IS CHEATING BECAUSE THE WAY HE SOUNDS LIKE AND I WOULD BE SUSPISOUS OF WHAT HE'S DOING "" BUT WHAT I WOULD DO IS CALL THAT GIRLS PHONE NUMBER ON PRIVATE OR FROM A PAY PHONE AND ASK HER IF SHE HAS SEEN THE NAME (OF YOUR HUSBAND ) I DID THAT ONCE TO MY EX BOYFRIEND AN I DID FIND OUT HE WAS CHEATING. I WISH YOU GOOD OF LUCK GURL!