I'd like my wife to try some new things with me. These could definately be outside the norm - stuff like urinating into my mouth. I would like her to try, but she is very inhibited about any sex that she feels is outside the norm. Thanks for all of your advice in advance!
2006-11-27 14:37:03 · 15 answers · asked by Hound Dawg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is pretty kinky...if you can call it that. More like unsanitary but hey...it's your marriage. You should talk to her about it some more and any other fantasies you may have, maybe she could fulfill a different one? I would think doing it to you would be less insulting than having it done to her...still, can't even imagine doing that to someone. Just last week I had a guy email me telling me he liked something like this(resulting from an answer I gave...NO not in favor of) so at least you're not alone...LOL
I tried to email you because I have something to add but your email is not listed. I don't feel it is appropriate to discuss in this forum, so if you want to know more you can email me. mandy
2006-11-27 14:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by cking_pOise... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an easy one: stop trying to get her to fulfil YOUR fantasies and start getting her to open up about HERS. She'll say she doesn't have any, but if she likes sex at all, she does. And you might be surprised; her fantasies might be kinkier than yours!
She's not your personal sex toy, dude. If you start appreciating her sexuality as a force to be reckoned with, you'll be rewarded many times over.
Be observant. Take notice of her body language and unspoken hints and cues. Try some dirty talk, toys, role playing, etc. and see if you can't find some things that turn her on more than others. Then just run with that. Don't push her, though. Just allow her to feel safe opening up this very vulnerable side of herself to you. She hides her true sexual nature from you because she feels that you would not find it acceptable.
A couple of caveats: Don't make her vulnerable unless you ready for that responsibility; you can hurt her VERY easily. You'll need to prove yourself worthy of that kind of trust. Caveat #2: Be careful what you wish for. You might just create a monster. ;)
2006-11-27 14:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Urinating in your mouth? That is out there for me. And I can be pretty kinky. I don't like doing any of the bathroom type stuff. That is meant to stay in the bathroom. Just tell her to relax and be herself and she will be more open to trying new things. You might want to start out with something simple. Something closer to her comfort zone. You will get a better response.
2006-11-27 14:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by blondebabyxoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women often get turned on by talking about sex. Start slow, then introduce various other topics. She also might be curious about so-called "gentlemen's clubs" (pick a classy one with friendly girls and good music). There is also a very good book out that gives reviews of adult movies, to include a section on "movies women enjoy". Try some of these on her. Also, whatever you do....make sure she understands she is giving you pleasure and you appreciate her efforts.
2006-11-27 14:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by hiptyhp@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are always a good way to spice up your relationship. Regardless of the fantasy, you must start by communicating with your wife. If you find it difficult to just "fire" and tell her upfront talk to her as if it were a "third party story"...tell her that you heard somebody doing it with his wife and see how she reacts...start by "measuring" her by telling these third party stories...it always helps and you can start making yoru moves. Good luck Bud!!
2006-11-27 14:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sx Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but theres a hugh limit as to how far to go with what you call kinky, what you call kinky, i call sick!!!! I would personally tell you go elsewhere, my husband would get slapped across the face, & told to wake the **** up & realize thats not only gross, but would make you sick as hell. I dont blame your wife, shes the smart one there, maybe you need to think about what the hell you want, & think would I normally do this myself?? If you dont want someone peeing or pooping in your mouth, what makes you think someone else will!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 14:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy F 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You ask very nicely, and be prepared for any and all questions she may have. If she refuses, respect her wishes.
Personally the ICK factor is too high for me concerning urine play.
constancepie11,
No, people do golden showers open mouthed too.
2006-11-27 14:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U can get her acceptance provided u assure her that u will not later ask her to open her mouth so that u can piss into it. Changing her orthodox views will take time. Show patience.
2006-11-27 14:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is a 13 letter word. Communication. Go easy!
2006-11-27 14:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ham8888888888 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree w/ both of the above. u have to talk to her. she might not want to do it at first, but maybe if u expressed how much u really wanted her to and how much u wud enjoy it. my gf wanted me to try the "shocker" & at first i was shy, but i really wanted to inside just because i wanted to know what it was about. we tried it and i liked it. explain to ur wife that sex is just for "fun" & "orgasms" its abt love. & she should be open to trying things for u.
2006-11-27 14:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋