He says his family won't accept me, we have both been married before, we both have grown children and grandchildren. We talk everyday, he helps me and says he wants to be with me, but every time he comes home he leaves within days. He says we are soul mates and he can't live without me. I know we are, but am I enabling him by living this way. He says we are going to be together.What advice do you have?
2006-11-27 14:32:44 · 11 answers · asked by lovingpeople 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell this weird husband that when you are married, whether his family likes it or not, you are his wife and his duty is to you and your well being. If he will not come to live with you as he should, I'd file an annulment of the marriage. Could it be he still is married to someone else? DO NOT live your life this way. You deserve a decent husband who loves and respects you, my deal. You are a worthy person. Godloveya.
2006-11-27 14:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't image living that way! I hate to say it but you are enabling him by living the way you are. I mean no disrespect, - but your husband really needs to cut the cord. He doesn't have to choose between you or his mother but he does need to give you the respect (love) you need and deserve. If I were you I'd want my husband to prove to me that we are indeed soul mates. This would mean living a normal life like husband and wife. I'm sorry but for having both grown children and grandchildren your husband acts like an immature school boy. You need to have a heart to heart with him. Tell hm exactly how you feel and what your expectations are. I wish you much luck!
2016-05-23 16:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He says we are soul mates and he can't live without me."
Uh...honey, he IS living without you. The man is not yet capable of an adult relationship, no matter how bad he wants one. Get an anullment and tell him to come back when he's cut the apron strings. It's blunt, it's hard to do, but that's life. He can't have it both ways. His family can't accept you? Well who the hell said you were marrying his family?? If they can't accept you, the right answer is for him to tell them that YOU are his family now, and that YOU now take priority over them. If you are not the priority - and I don't care what kind of cultural background he comes from - then he's not ready for a real marriage. Best of luck to you both.
2006-11-27 15:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, if he really loved like he says , You would be his priority. i mean How can you be married and not live together. i think he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Don't allow it Put your foot down give him an ultimatum. That you both live together or don't need to be together. Hes trying to escape his responsibilities of a husband. A husband should provide you mentally,physically and financially. Be assertive, you're obviously not happy. And something needs to be done. If he can't give you what you need. Find someone else who will.
2006-11-27 14:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to open your eyes and see that he may love you but just not enough to be with you all the time which is messed up be cuz yall are married not boy friend and girl friend if his people don't likeyou cool but that don't give him a good reason to stay away from home home is were he needs to be no matter what he didn;t marry his family he married you sweetie if you allow him to do it will continue to do so put your foot down your his wife
for goodness sake
2006-11-27 14:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by tip2sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are putting up with this type of behavior he will continue treating you like this... but you know this already... it's funny, he claims his family won't accept you.... when actually he's the one not accepting you as his wife and this is after he's promised to forsake all others and stay with you!
2006-11-27 14:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me I've heard of alot of crazy scenarios, but this takes the cake. You'd better put your foot down and speak up. Give him an ultimatum, and if he chooses his mom, you better run, not walk, but run the other way.
2006-11-27 14:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kauser M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a marriage this is a farce. Unless there is something wrong with his parents, and they are unable to look after them selves, you are his wife, he should be with you, no matter what
2006-11-27 14:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should go to his mom's house and spend time w/ him if you don't see him. ask him to move in w/ u
2006-11-27 14:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats out there baby that is out there.
2006-11-27 14:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by 10 to 20 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋