He says his family won't accept me, we have both been married before, we both have grown children and grandchildren. We talk everyday, he helps me and says he wants to be with me, but every time he comes home he leaves within days. He says we are soul mates and he can't live without me. I know we are, but am I enabling him by living this way. What advice do you have?
2006-11-27 14:31:22 · 26 answers · asked by lovingpeople 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage my butt, you are just as big of a fool as he is...what is wrong with you...get a real life and figure it out
2006-11-27 14:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't image living that way! I hate to say it but you are enabling him by living the way you are.
I mean no disrespect, - but your husband really needs to cut the cord. He doesn't have to choose between you or his mother but he does need to give you the respect (love) you need and deserve.
If I were you I'd want my husband to prove to me that we are indeed soul mates. This would mean living a normal life like husband and wife.
I'm sorry but for having both grown children and grandchildren your husband acts like an immature school boy.
You need to have a heart to heart with him. Tell hm exactly how you feel and what your expectations are.
I wish you much luck!
2006-11-27 14:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by venus13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a marriage. This guy has already decided who his real family is and it isn't you. If he won't come home and live with you as husband and wife then let him know that you are getting a divorce so you can have a real life.
If you need the money he brings to you then at least quit pretending to yourself that he has any intention of acting like a real husband and start making your own decisions concerning your life. What do you need to ask his permission for anything for? Is he ever there when you need him? Of course not. He is indeed a mommas boy and, at his age, it is really pathetic.
2006-11-27 14:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being you were both married before.. It is alot less taxing on a marriage to live apart than together. If he is living up to responsibility and takes care of his portion of the bills you have a unique setting. Howard Hughes & Jack Lemnon are married but live apart. Howard Hughes even lives w/someone else. Several rich people do it! If it works don't complain.
2006-11-27 14:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dotr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to put his wife before anyone else. If you are truly soul mates and if he loves you with his all, he needs to stand up for you to his family and let them know that not accepting you is not accepting him.
Also make sure this isn't just something he's telling you while he is living another life!
2006-11-27 14:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't his family accept you if he has also already been married with children and grandchildren? if they will not accept you then how are they accepting him? i know that it would be hard, but you need to let him know that you cannot accept they way that you are living your life as a married couple. did he live with his former wife? sounds like he has some family issues to deal with before he can even begin to deal with your relationship issues. it is tough, but you need to make him deal with it!
2006-11-27 14:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of marriage is that???????? Tell him it's time to stand up and be aman, and a married man at that. Give him a choice you or mama, and stand firm, if you are married to this man he needs to live with you as a man lives with his wife. Why does his family have to accept you , you are married to him, not them. I'm sorry, but I think he is really playing you, so I would put a stop to it and fast!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 14:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's lying. how can you love me but still with your mom? how are you married to me and don't want to commit? you have been married for two years and his mom doesn't even know i bet you. is this a race issue, age issue, or what. i would say leave him alone. but you appear to be happy living this way for two years. i'll pray for you because i'm at a loss for words right now.
wait i have a question , is his mother the reason he is divorced? just want to know.
( DOTR- of course howard hughes and jack lemon are living apart from there spouses, they are both dead.)
2006-11-27 14:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
His mom!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? There has got 2 be something wrong!!!If u both have grandchildren then u should be living together!!!Sit down and talk 2 him.Tell him that if his family does not accept u,then he should stand up 4 u.U r his wife and husband and wife should live together.It is natural.
2006-11-27 14:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's a mommas boy. He needs to grow up and by the sounds of things he shouldn't have had children with anybody if he can't even be a man.
2006-11-27 14:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by Soap Star Junkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does he live with his mom? Thats really strange is she dying? Does he live with his ex wife. how do you know oyu are really married. Its werid but maybe it will work out. I haven't heard this one sometimes I wish my man didn't live with me or the kids for that matter but I guess it could be done. Bring it up, take his money and buy you something really nice or tell him you will find a man to live with you.
2006-11-27 14:35:40 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋