The girls parents bring him home in the morning after the party! Is this OK nowadays? I am in shock. The family who hosted the party live in a well to do area of town, drive nice cars and apparently this was a party with alot of teenage guests. I had no idea- since Dad or the son did not tell me the full story until the next day. I would never allowed an overnight stay with co-ed guests for teens- in my opinion this is asking for trouble. What do you all think? Am I being a stick in the mud- or am I being reasonable?
2006-11-27 14:31:19 · 8 answers · asked by rottymom02 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Weekend at Dads house...
2006-11-27 14:41:35 · update #1
My son has to check in with his dad on the weekends he is with his dad. I was not up late because I thought he was being supervised by his father.
2006-11-27 14:43:13 · update #2
Wow I think that is totally WRONG! That's way too young. The first time I had a sleep over mixed with boys and girls was our Senior Prom night - and we were all over 18 and were in separate rooms in the house.
I think this whole underage sleep over things are just a recipe for disaster! You're right!
2006-11-28 01:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't allow that either, but more than the event itself I would be alarmed that the kid didn't even call to say where he was and you didn't find out till the next day. The kid should have phoned and asked if he could spend the night. You would have said, "No," and then maybe he would have said the parents are right here and boys and girls are sleeping in different rooms. Mr. _____ can get on the phone and tell you they'll be supervising all night, etc. etc." Then you might or might not have consented (probably not.) But it seems outrageous for him just to do it and not tell you till the next day. Weren't you up late wondering where he was?
2006-11-27 14:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump on me, I'm 40 years old, was a teenager in the 80's, and this was a fairly common practice in my town. There was never any sex, parents normally stayed up with us or slept on the floor with us. It solved the problem of people coming to the party drunk and leaving, waking everyone up late and such. It was just a bunch of country kids goofing around 'til the wee hours of the morning, (we had a zero pregnancy rate at our school) but our parents KNEW we were gonna be there. But times are different now, and you should have been informed of the intention and been able to veto the plans. You aren't being unreasonable, the Dad is being irresponsible and deceptive.
2006-11-27 15:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ground him. He knew that he had to be home. You are not a stick in the mud because there are teenage girls getting pregnant and 13. I know that you are not ready to be a grandmother. Even if the girls parents said that they were closely monitored remember how easy it was for you and your friends.
2006-11-27 14:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Staci R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am laughing my head off. I am 15, and my friend does or did the same thing. This girl he is dating will have parties once in a while with her family, and her friends. He sleeps over there often and when she has these parties to. the parents, his and hers are okay with it. They dont do anything "naughty", but at the parties the parents like to dirnk a little to much, and the alcohol is in easy reach of us. So we get shitfaced and everyone, teens and adults wake up the next morning with headaches lol. that was a geat party. I had to sneak out for it, totally worth sprinting 2 miles to ditch the cops at 2am.
2006-11-27 17:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that you are being more then reasonable. I also think that you and Dad need to get on the same page and discuss issues regarding your son more openly. It sounds like Dad and son are very enmeshed...could be trouble.
2006-11-27 14:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The party is normal, his dad's decision is normal, and your reaction is normal.
If you don't like that sort of thing, tell him and his dad.
2006-11-28 01:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is having sex
2006-11-27 14:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋