Why do Men Cheat ?

Question

I just got married , i just wanted to know why do some men cheat? i don't ever want to be cheated on. I think that men cheat because they aren't getting their needs? is this right i want to be the perfect wife and i don't ever want to be cheated on .can someone please help me be the perfect wife and tell me how i can make sure that my husband will never cheat!

Answer 1

Don't get fat, Don't be a ***** and make sure is well (if not over) sexed. the main reason guys will cheat is a lack of sex.

Answer 2

First and foremost, NOT ALL men cheat. So you should get rid of that thought/idea. And if a man does decide to cheat it will most likely be because maybe another woman got his interest. Maybe flirting with him and yes he took it to the next level. But just as many women cheat as men. And NOT ALL women cheat either. You can be the most perfect wife going and this is no guarantee that your husband won't cheat. If he is of this type man then he is going to cheat when the chance arrives.

Answer 3

Recent studies indicate that males are more likely to engage in adulterous activity for the sexual experience only, than are women. Experts say that unlike women who undoubtedly fantasize about extracurricular romance but who are able to separate that fantasy from reality; men are more likely to be unable to distinguish between “mental longings” and physical transgressions, many time not realizing the true scope of what they are doing until it's too late
The next argument made about men and infidelity is that men are “naturall inclined” to try and “mate” with as many women as possible.Whether there is any validity to this argument o not is best left up to the scientific community, but there is little doubt that more men are able to engage in infidelity, with less guilt, than are women.Men also appear to be driven by the desire to feel good and to be with someone that arouses them. They often stray when they find an opportunity t have sex with someone that is “hotter” then their wife or partner or is in some way more sexually exciting. If they perceive their wife as being overweight, out of shape, non-responsive or too crabby, infidelity becomes a much more realistic option.Men like to fee important and desired and when a woman shows an interest, it feels good an they go after it. When a stranger shows an interest in a man, they get aroused Put a man who is unhappy at home or in his marital bed in that scenario and you can guess what happens
The last difference is that more men seem to get away with it. As long as women tolerate infidelity on the part of their husband, husbands will likely tak advantage of it.

Answer 4

This is something that you are not going to be able to influence very well. Before I was married, the reason I cheated was because there was no one that I really connected to on a level where I was able to think "This is the one that I am going to spend the rest of my life with..." I believe there was a lack of maturity on my part and there was still a little growing up for me to do before I could realize that cheating on someone just made me feel horrible.

I will say that now I am married. I was engaged for over a year and we are quickly closing on getting to our first anniversary. I honestly can not imagine why I would sanely choose to cheat on my wife. I think that one thing is that I am too busy with real life. I get to see my wife so little that when we are together we get very little done as we just want to be together when there is nothing else going on.

My advice to you would be to become as involved with each other's lives as much as possible. Help each other get your degrees, volunteer, and find your security with each other by communicating and loving each other. There is no way to keep a relationship strong except being together.

Answer 5

The main reason men will cheat on their wives: Women prior to marriage,Look their best ,have an interest in sex, and appear to accept their men as they are. These are necessary "tools" in landing a husband. The majority of women ,once married will : Let their appearance go ,no longer make an effort to look their best and often get fat.Once that ring goes on the woman's sex drive begins to dwindle "Not tonight dear,I've got a headache".Then she sets about to change or"fix" the things that are"wrong" with her man. In effect she is no longer the same woman he married. You can never 100% prevent his straying, but to minimized the chances, STAY THE WOMAN HE MARRIED AND LET HIM STAY THE MAN YOU MARRIED.****P.S. Do you really want to listen to a Woman's answer on this subject? I urge you, if you want a real answer read the Mens and disregard the woman's answers.

Answer 6

Let nature takes its course. The more you worry, the more it will happen. Have more confidences in your hubby and you will lead more happier marriage life till both you and him become grandma and grandpa.

Basically, mostly married men will have a fantasy of cheating behind their wives, however, they would never leave their family & wives for the sake of their gf or mistress. If your husband is just an ordinary man who earns average incomes (I mean not as wealthy as those businessman / someone who has wealthy background), then you can have 100% confidence that he will never dare to cheat you coz he can't afford to fling around unless you had always irratates & argued with your husband which making him piss off.

No one is perfect in this world.. and every human beings will make a mistakes in their entire life. But as long he / she willing to repent the mistakes, I would said they deserve the forgiveness.

As long you care, love and take care of your husband's needs (sexual, foods, necessity needs etc) and most importantly COMMUNICATION, your marriage will be in safe zone and lead a happier life. Good Luck.

Answer 7

The perfect wife is not some supermodel-looking piece of arm-candy who is forever young, Betty Crocker in the kitchen, Martha Stewart/Molly Maid around the house, and Alotta Fagina in the bedroom. She is more than what she can do for her husband.

She is first and foremost a woman of strong character who knows who she is, what she wants, what she needs, and most importantly, what she's worth. She respects herself, and doesn't rely on her husband to define her as being a worthwhile person. Sounds simple, but it's more common than you might imagine for people (not just women) to gauge how "perfect" they are by the judgments of their significant others. For example, to paraphrase your question, you are implying that it would be YOUR fault if your husband cheated on you, and that if you could only be perfect for him, he would never cheat. After all, true love means that men and women go into that fairy-tale trance where sexual attraction to others just vanishes...right? WRONG!! Your husband will still find other women attractive, and you will still find other men attractive. It is abnormal to NOT find them attractive, no matter how much we tell ourselves otherwise. It's the maturity with which we deal with this piece of reality that will determine how it will affect the marriage.

A perfect wife is also a best friend. She is always honest with you, and she is the first person you think to go to when you need a straight answer or an honest, level-headed opinion. She laughs with you, cries with you, and wishes she could take the pains of life away from you. You want true love? True love is the woman holding your head over a toilet at 3 am as you're puking for the 50th time with the stomach flu. True love is standing in the kitchen resting your foreheads together in a moment of peaceful companionship while there's a stack of unpaid bills on the table, a screaming baby, and newspaper with lots of red circles in the "Help Wanted" section. True love is when she leaves you because you can't be a big enough man to respect her when she's there, to be honest with her...because if she stays she enables you to keep defining yourself as a bad person, and she knows you can be so much better than that. She loves you more than she loves herself...and that's saying something. She listens to you, comforts you, challenges you, and always intrigues you. The more you know about her, the more you want to know. You want to spend the rest of your life discovering her. She doesn't feel like your dream-girl; she's the one handing you the cup of coffee in the morning, giving you a knowing wink and saying, "Have a nice dream hun? Come on, baby, the day's a-wastin'!"

Cheating is NOT about the person being cheated on. It's about the cheater and his or her inability to value him/herself enough to expect anything better of him/herself. Cheating comes from low self-esteem and a lack of intimacy. Cheaters are cowards who refuse to see that their actions have the capacity to change the lives of those around him/her for the worse. They define themselves as bad people to be around, and so this is why the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" often holds true. It's very difficult for a person to turn around and admit that they are bad people who are not worth knowing. If they do however, and they don't allow this knowledge to destroy them, the changes that are wrought in them are phenomenal. Keep in mind, it is rare.

Answer 8

All I can say is you can't ever be sure. Married for 27 years and found out that even though things were "normal" at home, he had been having an affair for 2+ years with a lady that was married and then got divoriced and moved to our area.......still working on it. But, it has not been easy. Lots of pain for all of the family.

He said that it started out as something to do for fun and then "she moved here".

Answer 9

Probably because we're idiots. Most men don't realize what's at home waiting for them and since maybe if He has been with a different woman every week when he was single and suddenly reality checked in: I'm Married! One woman for the rest of my life? Yikes! It can happen to anyone and vice versa. I hope this made sense.

Answer 10

It's the same for anyone, man or woman, who cheats. The problem is not with the significant other, the problem is with the one who cheats. It's an internal problem, usually a need for attention, or even chaos, and it's definitley a feeling of unworthiness. If your spouse is going to cheat, there's nothing you can do to prevent it, and by trying to be perfect, you may even trigger his insecurites.

Answer 11

honey you can hope all you want and it's not about satisfying their needs all the way if they want to do they will even more if they know they can get away with it they'll continue to do soyou can be the best wife but if he has that chance he just might do it don't put nothing pass a man married or not