To anyone whose ever lost a close loved one: I lost my brother almost 6 months ago and am so sad because he?

Question

will not be here for Christmas. I cry a lot. Do you feel sadder around Thanksgiving and Christmas because you lost a loved one?

Thank you all for the kind and caring words.
It helps to know that I'm not alone in this.
God Bless You All,

Answer 1

I Lost a Boyfriend When I was 20, My Sister 2 years later , My Brother in 2001 and My Mom last year..Plus others but those were the hard ones..Mostly My Mom..The First Year Holiday after the Death of a Loved one is always very hard to get through ,But you will.As Time goes by You have to focus on the good memories of Holidays past and make new memories for the future. Its still pretty Early for you with your brother only being gone 6 months but the longer you live the more people you lose.Crying is OK..Its Healing..Its Normal you miss your Brother.I'm really sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

I've lost a few people that I was very close to. The Holidays are always the hardest. Just remember to spend them with the family that is still here. You are all going through this loss. Your brother will be with you in spirit. Enjoy your holidays as if he were with you physically. I'm sure thats what he'd have wanted. I know its easier said than done, but enjoy the family your with now every little moment you have with them. Don't spend what little time you have here on earth being sad. We'll all meet again one day in a much better place. So Sorry For Your Loss. Keep That Head Up!

Answer 3

My mom will be gone 20 years this coming March, and the years do not make it any easier when the holidays come around. You still wish they were here, but you have lots of memories and a few giggles when you talk about the 'days'. I am sorry about your brother. I still cry over her dying, there are some days still that she is in every thought. But I cherish them. You will never forget your brother, never. But it will amaze you how close he feels when you talk and laugh about him and things you all did. He would not want you to not live because he is not here, any more than my mom would. Here is something I have always done... When my nieces graduated or got married or Christmas get togethers, I always wear a necklace my mom gave to me. It is like I am bring her with me. I went to one of my aunts funerals, and I went to give my sister a hug, and we both started bawling! We had on the same necklace, for the same reason. And we never noticed it all the times before. (Mom gave her the same necklace). now, 10 years later, we do look to see if we both brought Mom with us. She would have gone to these things, and we made sure she was there. I do wish you well this season, and sorry this is so long. You will find your own way to keep him near. and that will give you comfort.

Answer 4

First off, I am so sorry you lost your brother. What you are experiencing is very normal -- the holidays seem to make those feelings worse. Please try to find someone to talk to -- a friend, neighbor, older adult etc, if you cannot get professional help. My dad died 8 months ago and this is the first holiday season we are having without both parents -- and believe me, it is HARD, no matter your age. Talking about your brother and good times will also help. Hang in there!

Answer 5

When I lost my dad, I just kept telling myself that in that first year everything is a first. First birthday without him, first fathers day without him, first Thanksgiving, and yes first Christmas. The firsts are the hardest, but if you can make it through the first year, it will get better

Answer 6

Hey. I lost my only daughter. I pray it gets better than this. Good luck.

Answer 7

Yes, make sure you have someone you can talk to about this. There are many who feel just the way you do...Take care sweetie!.............:)

Answer 8

yes, i am sorry for your loss...