friend who drinks and is sexually active. by choice i don’t do either
what should i do i realllly cant talk to my mom about this but i do have strong beliefs about both of these what should i do find new friends or what help!!!! thanks
2006-11-27 14:13:29 · 19 answers · asked by sas 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You know, if you hang around with someone in a bad mood, you are going to be in a bad mood. God did say for us to be separate from the world's view, Sin is Sin.. Hanging out with peers with bad habbits just encourage ourselves just to be like them.
What about your friends at church? We christians needs to fellowship with other christians to be encourage to walk with faith and the light with Jesus!
Talking to parents is difficult, but it will be a bridge builder of trust with your relationship with your parents, and that they can see you can make postive decisions and Godly decisions the way you want to live for God.
2006-11-27 14:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It take strong convictions not to be affected by influences of friends or family. If you believe you are not that strong, or feel you could use your time in more constructive ways, it might be best to cultivate new friendships. It seems that you have a clash of morals here and since you are a Christian you must decide whether or not too break friendships rather than sit in judgment of your friends. Its all a matter character ; can you insulate yourself from any negative influences of your friends or should you isolate yourself from them all together. Only you know the makeup of you so only you can decide what course to take. What I learn from experience, is when I stayed true to myself, any disruptive friends usually just stop coming around me. And the ones worth keeping, respected my convictions and who I am.
I hope this helps.
2006-11-27 14:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are your friends and assuming you have mutual interests, you don't have to stop speaking to her. If she becomes a negative part of your life, by pressuring you to be like her, then definitely open up some difference. You have to be your own person and trust yourself to do the right thing. As a good Christian, you might want to simply love your friend and be there for her whenever she needs a friendly ear or a shoulder to cry on.
2006-11-27 14:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by Danny Boy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can increase your friends but don't give up on the ones you got. If your friend doesn't influence you to do good, then be the influence on her. (I'm assuming it's a her). Even though she may not admit it she knows that she's wrong and probably wishes that she could do the right thing like you. Just be a friend and love her for who she is, you don't have to love what she is doing but you can still be there for her. I say influence her to do right. Pray for her. It would be cool to hang around with friends that are good for you, even so that when your friend decides to give up what she's doing she will have your group of friends to join. Life is too short to cut friends off because they are making bad decisions. Be a good friend and stand for what's right.
2006-11-27 14:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say new friends as a good choice b/c i have been in the exact same situation as you and when they're in there its so hard to turn back. I cant think of a single person that i know of that did. But i do support you're choices and believe that you should deff. stick with them.
2006-11-27 14:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Matt B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are no more a Christian than you are Buddhist...so get real!
You are thinking using your "privates" instead of your Brain and you have no sense, much less any conception of what Moral and or Spiritual commitment or self control is..
Party On Dude and don't forget to go to all the Youth Activities and sing in the Choir, Christian Religion = Hypocrisy!
The founder remember, "The Lord Jesus" he said,
"Why do you call me Lord Lord, but never do what I say?
Don't feel bad, none of the Popes understood that statement either!
What a L O O S E R ... you should be a Tele-Evangelist at least you could be rich and sinful!
2006-11-27 14:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by baltic072 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
First of all you pray for your friends and ask God to touch their hearts and change their ways. Sometimes we as Christians will have to disassociate ourselves from friends who are not living a Christian life, but continue to love them. Ask God to help you make the right dicisions, guide you and lead you.
2006-11-27 14:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Neetaa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your friend does something that directly effects your life I feel we should accept our friends where ever they are in their life and try to guide them to better paths when they need help and are truly asking for help.
If she needs advice you don't feel you are qualified to give listen, respect, then send her else-where or tell her about your Christian teachings without condemming what she does... Listen, Respect, Love Unconditionally... God forgives our sins shouldn't we be able to fogive others... ultimately she will answer to God anyway.
2006-11-27 14:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by yasblat54 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes definitely find new friens and do what the holy spirit says is right and I would definitely talk to this friend or yours and tell him that god loves him and it does nobody any good to be throwing his life away like that.
Way to go girl God bless
2006-11-27 16:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by 1-4-all 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all she is your friend, is she going through something do you have a testimony for her, invite her to church. I work with a lot of judgmental people, I seperated myself because I started to become like them unconsciously. Try to save her soul and if you can't sometimes you have to let go and let people be.
2006-11-27 14:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋