18 months ago a colleague of mine had her drivers license suspended due to parking tickets (and I suspect a possible DUI); I offered to take her and her son to/from school and work thinking it would be temporary. Now, the situation continues. I know her drivers license has been reinstated, her car is drivable, yet she continues to ride with me without any explanation of when she will resume her past driving responsibilities. I happen to know her salary because I do the books at work. I know what she receives in child support and how much her rent is. She has sufficient funds to live on; she is addicted to alcohol & drugs and spends a lot of her $$ on her habits. I am now feeling like I am being taken advantage of. She cries "poor mouth" yet leaves her son with her ex when it suits her so she can indulge her vices. Her Mother also works with us and the situation is complex. What to do? I don't want to be an enabler but I feel bad for her 4 year old child. Any suggestions?
2006-11-27 14:12:12 · 10 answers · asked by Di 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Time to grow a spine and tell the freeloader the free ride is over. To do it nice you give her 2 weeks notice or something like that but pick a date and tell her that you will no longer be able to drive her and her child around. If she asks why tell her why. Tell her that you thought it would be a temporary thing but now it seems she has gotten her license back so she should do her own driving. Tell her that if she wants you to keep doing it you will only charge her x amount of dollars to cover your time and the gas. She won't like it but I bet she stops mooching rides off you. The poor child is stuck with the mother God gave him or her. That is not your doing and trust me she will find another sucker or she will drive him around herself.
2006-11-27 14:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 06:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by farraj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't say if it is a added cost for u , if her work habits have improve because of ur help, does her son get to school on time everyday because of u? or she just using u to get by and not be bother herself. answer these questions if the answers are yes for the positive than keep helping her if she is just using u stop, nobody can take advantage of u unless u let them
2006-11-27 14:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by cemlkd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to feel like an enabler, then the solution is simple: Tell her two stand on her own two feet, or let her fall. At this point, if she falls, she's likely to take you down with her.
2006-11-27 14:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't tell her that you don't want to drive her around any more.Then start asking for gas money ,tell her with gas the way it is you need help to pay the gas bills. She is not going to want to pay and she will find another ride or start driving her self.Her mother also works with you why can't she drive them?
2006-11-27 14:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by stylist19782003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would tell her that you are done being her personal driver...it was nice of you to do this while she wasn't able to but now she is taking advantage of you...if her mom also works there then she can drive her daughter and grand child where ever they need/want to go
2006-11-27 14:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by charmel5496 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I've been happy to help you out, but I think it would be fair if you contributed to my expenses for my car. $x00/month is approximately half. How does that sound to you?"
and if you feel the kid is in danger, call CPS!
2006-11-27 14:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by silentnonrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing her no favors by continuing to enable her.
2006-11-27 14:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Pragmatic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life and get out of hers....You are way to envolved in her business
2006-11-27 14:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tracey T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST SAY NO!
2006-11-27 14:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by baltic072 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋