There is this guy who likes me, a lot. He compliments and he is really nice but I have known him forever and he too much of a friend to me that I cant think of him as more than that. How do I tell him that I dont feel the same way that he feels about me??
2006-11-27 14:08:58 · 31 answers · asked by Nicole Alexis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"sorry, I just think of you as a friend."
2006-11-27 14:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you enjoy being around him as a friend but right now you are not ready for a relationship. Let him know you want time to decide what you want to do in life and a relationship now would interfere with your plans. Tell him once you have figured out what you want to do then you will be ready for a relationship but you don't know with who just yet and he should think about dating someone else. Hope this is some help. Good luck
2016-05-23 16:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and choose your words carefully.
Find some were nice like go out to lunch or the park and find a quiet spot and say something similar to this:
You are a great friend and I value our friendship so much that I cant see us being anything else because I know if anything ever went wrong then I would loose my best mate and a wonderful friendship I have with you. And I don't want to loose that by trying to go into a relationship when I don't feel that way but I prefer just to be your mate.I like you as my best buddy and please can we keep it that way as I can't imagine you out of my life if we were to think about the ''R''word..
There is to much to loose and I don't want to loose any of it with you because of that one thing that has no promises or guarantee's on working out.
At least I have a great foundation with you already as your friend.
There is my 2 bob's worth...
Best of luck...
2006-11-27 14:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is to discourage him by being rude to him if he comes on to you. Not mean, but rude. Be flat and disinsterested when he approches you in that way. When he is just normal to you and acts like a friend be nice. That way he will get the gist of what you want with out you having to say a word. That way he is not humiliated but he gets the point. And your not being mean your just not validating the behavior of his that you don't like and rewarding the behavior you think is appropriate.
2006-11-27 14:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by evilive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is to bad that you can not give him a chance.....I think having a friendship before courtship is very important.........My husband and I started out as friends and fell in love....He is the love of my life and we would do anything for each other.........That is the key to a good strong relationship. Sometimes you don't see sparks at the beginning...You just have to date and try.
2006-11-27 14:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just the way you told us.
Women, all too often are too afraid of hurting a guys feelings and are not clear. When someone is smitten with another, he's not going to hear anything but something clear.
2006-11-27 14:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honesty being the best policy simply tell him "i'm sorry, but i dont feel for you in the same manner as you do for me, i hope this wont damage our friendship but i had to be honest with you, or i couldnt count myself as a true friend to you, for i would never lie to you" hopefully he will then see how lucky he is to have a good friend such as yourself, though he may still feel rejected, but thats only natural, if he values you as a friend he will get over it in time. hope that helped. take care and good luck.
2006-11-27 14:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by a1ways_de1_lorri_2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you just like him as a friend. Don't lead him on by not telling him. If you are up front he won't get hurt a lot. If you ignore him he would just think you like him and are shy, so just tell him. Good luck and hope I helped.
2006-11-27 14:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by just another girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you think you would be a lot closer if you were just friends. That's usually true with boy-girl friendships. Trust me on this, I went through the same situation.
2006-11-27 14:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal ♥'s Raymond 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you and him have been friends for so long, that being anything else would change your friendship between you two and that is not a chance that you are willing to take.
2006-11-27 14:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by txflowerblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes told u that he likes u than tell him that ur just not interested in a relationship rite now. if he hasnt told u than start talking about hot guys and stuff in front of him and any crushes u have. that should give him the hint.
2006-11-27 14:11:59 · answer #11 · answered by tannabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋