I Think I Have Given Up on Men....?

Question

I'm a educated, moral young female who is sick and tired of being underappreciated. All men,want the girsl who are obviously easy. I have had alot of guys who have approached me, but I have discreetly turned them down bc I know what they expect of me. No, I am not the type who wears make up, or wears clothes that are revealing. No, I am not the type of person who gives it up. I have kept my morals, and nothing good has come of it. I know I am only 19 yrs old and alot of u r gonna say that I am 2 young 2 be making this kind of decision, but the truth is that men only want the girls who are "out there". I dont mean to offend any females who read this by making that statement, but u girls are more desired. Every guy that meets me is intimidated of me, and I have told them time after time that I am not a stuckup person, but they dont get it. They think I am gonna be stuck up or haughty is a relationship. Alot of them wont let me know that they are even interested; they send their friends.

to tell me how they feel about me. What kind of man would do that? I just dont know anymore. I feel as if I am supposed to conform to this standard of cooking, cleaning, and having children. This stereotypes is not me at all, and I would feel awful if I ended up in that kind of situation. Are there any females out there who have any advice? Have u ever gone through this stage in ur life?

These are the last set of detail I will add. I know, it cant be the way that I look physically. I am not fishing for compliments or bragging, but I have been pursued by countless guys, but they all want sex and makes no sense for me to be in a relationship that is gonna revolve around that. I am 5'4 and I weigh 128lbs and I am not chubby at all! I think that alot of them percieve me as a prude ***** or some other derogatory name. My personality is very laid back. I would rather observe instead of being the life of the party. I am at the point in my life where I really dont know what I want nemore. I have opportunities with these guys, but I know they are not gonna wait for sex. I am really struggling here/

Answer 1

I have given up on women for basically the same reasons. We are assholes, and ya'll are beetches. Is just the way it is when you try to be with someone raised by tv. It brought me to death it got so bad. I came back though, twice that night, and will never be put in that position again.

Answer 2

First of all, take a deep breath, and slowwww way down. There is NO hurry to find that perfect guy. You cannot rush these things. One of the worst things you can do , is make the big blanket statements you have made a few times in your question. You said they all want this, or don't want that, etc. Of course there are down sides to keeping hold of your morals, and high standards. People who don't accept that part of you, don't deserve to be a part of a close relationship with you. Hold on to what you believe. Not all guys want what you said they do. You just have not met a lot of nice guys, but that does not mean they are not out there. I don't know what you mean by, "you girls are more desired"...that makes no sense, since you don't know who is even going to read this. If some guy is going to assume how you are going to be in a relationship, and avoids you, let him. Assumptions about others gets people nowhere I have found. It can actually hurt, as you are finding. I recommend enjoying YOUR life, and your friends, and your family. Life is actually a lot shorter than you realize, and people and things come and go. Worrying about this will take you away from what you really want in life long term. Think about where you hang out, and spend your time. Does this have to do with some of the kinds of guys you are meeting? Just be friendly, and take it slow. It can be a real turn off if every time you meet a guy, you are wondering if you two will end up together or not, and why or why not. Just set out to meet people, and learn from them. You can learn a lot from just meeting all kinds of people. I am not sure what people are underappreciating you, or why. Just be who you are, and always work on yourself to become a better and better person. We all have things we can work on. Trust me, not all guys want a girl who is easy. Let them move right along. The man you will ultimately be with someday will definitely say some good has come of it. You are young, and you just don't see what good can come of it. In this world, you also have probably not experienced a ton of crap because you hold on to your morals. I hope you enjoy your life, and that you can be patient. It will be worth it.

Answer 3

You go girl...

You ain't alone with this question at all and at my age of 39 I am still trying to find a guy who appreciates an old duck like me..
Gee if women your age are giving up on men then I have no hope at my age..
Thanks for the insight and I couldn't have described men better than you have..

You got most men in a nut shell Hun and your only 19,WOW...

I would like to know how you could have been so badly judge or misunderstood by guys at your age to think like this....
I thought it took years to find this out?

WORRIED??

Answer 4

if they think, after getting to know you, that you are haugthy then maybe you are. this sort of attitude, even if you feel like "i want a relationship", gets in the way. Sort of like, you've failed before you've even started.

Stop looking. Get involved in activities adn volunteer work and stuff like that, and you'll meet guys who share interests and values.

All men do not want girls who are out there. You are looking in the wrong places.

If you *know* they are going to be intimidated, then tone it down. That doesn't mean get rid of your personality! It just means that you allow them to get relativly comfortable in your prescence and you dont smash your personality on them all of a sudden, but gradually.

Answer 5

you need to stop being so judgemental. period. ya, some guys can be a*s*s*h*o*l*e*s but have you thought that they might be interested in a serious relationship with you? be more lex about things instead of being so uptight and maybe you'll actually enjoy guys attention instead of pushing them away. and if you are having these thoughts about women, all i got to say is di what you feel is right. im telling you from experience, it aint what it is cut out to be. you miss a mans touch and a mans companionship. but thats all on u.

Answer 6

Those kind of guys aren't good for you anyway. Don't give up on them though. Mr. Right is out there. Trust me girl!!!! But do leave those scums alone. They are trouble!!!!!!

Answer 7

stop looking and you might find something meaningful. i know what you mean. you are young, you have alot of time to mess up on love. those guys are looking for something else, so dont focus on that.

Answer 8

donno, need more time to say you are only 19 you need a good boy friend.dont give up on it .