Should I make a list of things that he needs to change? He still thinks it is my fault, kicked me out, I left and he wants me back. Is it worthy even to discuss of things to be changed, like his lousy friends that think how funny it is to pull his strings to embarras and put me down on every occasion? This would be one thing to change, second to stop checking out every girl? Thanks!
2006-11-27 13:51:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We Chinese have one saying: a fault confessed is half redressed. But we also believed that, it is hard to change the nature even we could take big changes to the whole world. Could you easily see your ex was a lost lamb or a born Liar? Any possibility of your ex to leave all his past behind? Are you really ready for those embarrassments again? And are you still loving your ex?
2006-11-27 14:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Shirley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my ex back four times and it was all rosy for a while but then it goes back to the same old same old. He still puts me down even though we have been divorced for 3 years. You can make a list of the things he needs to change but he won't change because he believes it is all your fault and he did no wrong. Hold your head high and don't go back to this horrible person. Find someone who will treat you with respect and love without humiliating you, especially in front of other people.
2006-11-27 14:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by suzieq30aussie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , you can't change JACKASSES. You can however, turn the tables and use their words against them for your humor. Then who is the joke on, certainly not you.LOL. If your not ready to look at this guy and his friends as your entertainment, then probably would best if you continued searching for more of a well mannered gentleman. Why waste your breath trying to talk with idiots This may all sound so strange, however, this is reality. You are in the driver's seat when it comes to YOUR life, not a man. A leopard never changes spots. My words to you comes from experience.
2006-11-27 14:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried that once to go back it don't work if you got to make a list then you don't need to go back.Why would want to go back if all you wrote is true run real fast and stay away and this is from a man that likes the smell of a woman as much as the next and that is all he wants.
2006-11-27 13:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he'll do it once, he will do it again...and the more you do this the worst it gets cause you will have regrets about letting your self go through it again.. If you are in a relationship then he should already know your likes and dislikes... Putting a list together is only going to make him say all the right things then not follow through...once again you are mad at yourself for falling for it again.... Move on. Love yourself...then love again
2006-11-27 13:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tracey T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is entitled to be treated with dignity. Doesn't look like he got that. Be glad he is soon to be your ex. Find someone that actually enjoys YOU and treats you with respect..
2006-11-27 15:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by barbara w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back for what? You don't return to the same stuff again, especially if he's not taking responsibility for any of it and if he's not already in counseling trying to resolve his own issues(and if you aren't in counseling trying to resolve your own issues don't take the old baggage into another relationship)..... if none of this is happening -don't waste your time!
2006-11-27 14:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! DEFINITELY NO! Leave him in the dust -- and DO NOT look back. YOU deserve better than this abuser - do you actually think he is going to change at all?
Once an abuser, always an abuser -- and what you have described is verbal and emotional abuse.
2006-11-27 14:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste anymore time with this loser. He probably wants you to take him back because no one else wants him.
2006-11-27 13:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow from what you said no i would even give him the time of the day. how can he just out you out of yall home? i would not make a list unless you want him to just see want is bad about him. but it sounds like he is but and never will change
2006-11-27 13:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋