Total Breakdown neeed help please?

Question

today i had my first breakdown i know its wierd but i was trying on my bathing suits for my friends pool party i know its a long time away but i wanted to see how i looked...i saw all of this extra fat and started crying...i was thinking about killing myself everytime my stomach moved i was thinking about going anorexic......then i cried because i thought about thinking about killing myself how could i have thought that?..then i cried because i thought about this boy calling me ugly and me letting him get away with it now that i think about it i think i am ugly......then i cried about everything in my life that i hate i am afraid of not having friends in high school next year i thought of when i die will G-D accept me without me being baptised? I thought about my good friend going to have sex on Friday with a boy shes benn going out with for 2 months...Im scared im definately not telling my mom she over reacts i need some kind of encouragment or something what would u do?

Answer 1

Sometimes everything just hits you all at once, but you can't let thoughts like that control your life. A lot of women have a poor body image - it doesn't help when people make nasty comments to you like the boy who said you were ugly - but people like that can be mean for no other reason than they feel badly about themselves. I feel that if we are unhappy with something, we change it. If you are not happy with how you look you should work out, get a lot of physical activity. I find that not only do you feel better physically, but emotionally too. We girls have to stop feeling so badly about ourselves & stop being so down about ourselves all the time. It sounds like one thought led to another which led to another & so on...but just concentrate on each thing so that the challenge is more manageable. As far as your friend, maybe you should talk to her, ask her if she really is ready to have sex w/ this guy, & tell her you care about her & you don't want her to put herself in a bad situation she can regret later. I'm sure you're not ugly & you probably don't look bad in a bathing suit, many times it's just insecurity that causes us to think this way. I know how you feel. I was upset about how I looked but I started working out - more for the emotional strength first & foremost, & it does make a difference. As long as you are yourself you will make plenty of friends in high school, & the people that don't treat you well are not worth getting upset over. I am speaking from experience!

Answer 2

You still have a childs body that is still growing and will change with time by the time summer comes around you could look totally different. MY son grew 6 inches and thinned out. so dont worry. You are beautiful and you must tell yourself that you are your own person. But what is fun is to join a sport are something that always helps the muscles in your body get toned and you wont even realize it. All boys are like that they are immature compared to us girls dont give it another thougt you just feel bac because you feel bad about yourself and you shouldnt at your age you have all the fun infront of you it goes by quickly so take in as much as you can and dont try to grow up to fast ok. And i know for sure god loves everybody no matter what you dont have to be bapitized thats just what that religion wants you to believe there are so many religions that do not do baptismn. and if you feel strongly about it you can bapitize your self with holy water. Just drip some over your head and say you will love god always and you are baptiized. We have a all loving god we are part of him and he is in us. He loves you no matter what you do are dont do. So be happy think possitive and have funok remember you are beautiful ok.

Answer 3

we all have our starting points in life well defined and positively hell to look at. on the good side of your assessment you can see that almost the whole country has blossomed into a heavier group as a whole, so give your critical feeling a place in your life to help, don't make issues out of it because you c yourself this way. begin to c what you were distracted with food in the first place and what your were before you gained this weight, once you take this offensively upon your self it can be a bad monkey on your back and can lead to confrontation you can't win, so back off and just moderately turn to a new direction in controlling your way of life, if you learned to overindulge then know that you only have to do something twenty one times to have it form a habit in you, so with this in mind try to form some new ones in twenty one days and make each day challenge your bitter beliefs to overcome and make your self over again, life takes a life time to live and only a few bad moments to lose control, don't sweat the small stuff and life is all small stuff otherwise we get stuck and you've got too far to go in life to get stuck over anything

Answer 4

first of all jus cool down and take it one step at time
as for the kid who called u ugly u jus need to learn a few good comeback phrases and that should shut him up, and don't worry about having friends in high school i mean like the right friends will find U. as for being going anorexic simply don't! and just exercises everyday.
and last but not least Take It One Step At A Time!!!

Answer 5

Everyone have a need to cry. That's good that you cried....but don't take life so seriously....don't panic....those things happened to you, but you are not the only one. Why do you care that boy called you ugly...you have something special, and you know that , you just might waiting for approval from someone else...it is ok ....you are still young I suppose, so you will have someone when he will like you just the way you are.....so my friend don't worry...these things are nothing comparing to other people who have a lot of bigger issues...
Just try to calm down...and act mature.....give your love to your family and friends....focus on something good ( reading, walking)...and take a deep breath....life goes on and remember....it surprises you when least excpected.

good luck.

Answer 6

Hey sweetie, I think you are very young, right? You are who you are, if you don’t love yourself, who will? Thinking of stupid things (killing yourself) is not going to help anything or change anything! Stop thinking of that!

I don’t know much about you, but for the sake of your health, you can consult your family doctor.

Eat more green and exercise regularly. Have a high self-esteem.

By the way, beware of AIDS and STDs. And having sex at early age will also increase the chance of cervical cancer… Think twice before you do it!

Answer 7

You are still young. Remember, good things develop over time. Take a step back and look at the people in your life, who are the happy ones? Listen to them. If that boy called you ugly it's probably because he is attracted to you, don't get yourself flustered about him :)

Answer 8

your reaction is an indication that you have been holding in something that you can't seem to find any one to talk to.you know what,there are people on here who could help talk you through what is going on in your life.sometimes that is all one needs.You seem a little overwhelmed we are here to help.