My friend recently broke off her engagement with a wonderful guy she had been with for five years. He moved out and about a week later, she started dating multiple guys, drinking heavily, and having unprotected sex. They've only been broken up for three weeks! I know it's not my business, but when she shares these things with me, I want to scream. She is out of control! I care about her, but I don't want to offend her. What can I say to try to open her eyes a little bit?
2006-11-27 13:35:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A good friend tries to steer a friend straight. Be a little tough if you have to, not mean but firm. After that, you've said your peace.
Some people justify their behavior when no one says its wrong. She may need to hear it. Speak up.
2006-11-27 13:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend has a bad case of Borderline Personality Disorder. Stress often brings out this sort of behavior. Do a little research on this disorder and see if she fits the discription more fully. Then go to her and present some facts and some concerns. In the end all you can do is be her friend. However, I would avoid hanging out with her for a while as she is on a self-destructive course and can only get you hurt as well as herself.
2006-11-27 22:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest with her..if u guys are close friends than friends can be open and honest with eachother.."thats what friends r 4"right?
what if ur the only one that has sense enough to say something..ya its wrong and she needs to understand it..if u dont let her know then who else will? she might get mad but oh well, at least u can say u did care enough to try to help her. and u didnt condone it or look the other way. be strong and good luck!
2006-11-27 21:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by truthgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this friend, you have to tell her the truth. But don't judge her. If you are true friends, you relationship will withstand this trial. She doesn't need someone to cosign on her bullshit or someone to tell her what she wants to hear, she just needss someone who cares enough to tell her the truth. She's grieving the loss of someone she loves. People do all kinds of strange things when suffering loss. Be there for her and be honest with her. Whether she listens or not is up to her.
2006-11-27 21:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Deanniepoo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she is keeping busy trying to get her mind off things,but she is going about it the wrong way.Why don,t you ask her how she feels about the break up and let her talk with you,and while you are talking maybe you should tell her to slow down....
2006-11-27 21:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were that guy, I wouldn't EVER take her back if I knew she was doing that shi*.
It sounds like she turned into a big sl ut.
2006-11-27 22:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down and tell her you're really concerned about her. Tell her you care about her, and would hate to see anything happen to her.
2006-11-27 21:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to grow up she will not be young forever.maybe she dont love this guy its a reason she few the coupe.
2006-11-27 21:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by annjilena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋