do men have feelings for their kids?

Question

my question might sound stupid but I'm serious, how does it feel for a man to be expecting a baby? How do they feel toward their kids? My dad and many other men don't really love their kids, at least not like the mom do.. They even "hate" their wives when they get pregnant and start regretting the whole marriage or relationship.

yes to what? explain plz ..

Answer 1

I simply don't have the words to accurately express the love I have for my children. I can't imagine life without them, nor would I want to. Yes, daddies love their kids.

Answer 2

Dear Sir,
I am sorry and yet touched to hear your question. There is nothing I can say to make you feel something you don't. Please don't generalize men in that they don't love thier children. That has just been your unfortunate experience.
I did not want children and a couple years after I was married my wife became pregnant. I was very excited to my surprise. She was carrying OUR child that we conceived in love. It was not hers or mine-it was ours. This child was the product of two people who loved each other enough to combine themselves and make a child in thier likeness.
I was very protective and caring for my wife the whole pregnancy. I was there for the birth. There is nothing like watching your own flesh and blood grow and develop every day. A big plus-you get to be a kid all over again. All the toys and trips to the zoo and parks and new bicycles and such-its so fun to act like a child again. The love of a father is as important to a child as the love of a mother. A child needs lots of both. How can one not care and love thier own flesh and blood? I would lay down my life for my children and do so without a second thought.
Its all about attitude I guess. Do you want to be a father or a sperm donor. Any man can make a child, it takes a father to make a man out of that child. You have a true influence on how well your child lives and enjoys life. Children are work, but it is a labor of love. Children raised by fathers love you in return and one day when you are old and gray, they will come to you and let you know how special you are to them and you will know you made a difference in this world.

Answer 3

My husband has always told me he could not love something he could not see or touch,but the second our 3 children were born he cried like a baby.My husband can not go a day without seeing his kids,he loves them dearly.He gets them ready for school in the morning,he comes to their soccer games,wrestling matches, and even is a baseball coach, he also is cubmaster for our boys cub scout pack. The funny thing is his father NEVER did anything with him or his brother,he sat at home while his wife ran them to the few things that they did,my father worked 2 jobs and was never home with me when I was a child either and I was determined this would not be my children,it was not easy at first because he never really wanted to do anything but I kindly just pushed him to do it and now he is always there when they need him,we were very young when we had our first son but over the years he has matured and is determined not to be his father.I think all men love their children they just don't show it like women do because they were taught as young boys not to cry,and some men never had a role model so they don't know what they should do.

Answer 4

Some men feel overwhelmed at the responsibility of being a father and fear the end of their "freedom" and carefree youth. It takes a mature man to be a father in every sense of the word. I have known some men who feel envious of the wife's love and attention for the baby. These are men who may not have had healthy family relationships as young children and teens, and don't know what a caring, nurturing, and stable family life is. There is a full gamut out there.

Answer 5

I know what you mean. My father wasn't much of one either, but when I met my (now) husband, one of my biggest standards was that he be a good father to our children. Not all men are like our fathers. A lot of the time it stems from them not having very good father figures. It's sad, but true. But my father-in-law is great and has taught his son very well. I couldn't ask for a better father to our kids. He was sometimes more excited about me being pregnant than I was. It was cute. He never ever made me feel bad about being pregnant or even regretted it for a moment. He loves our kids and is a great father. Seeing his face when our children were born was one of the greatest moments of my life.

Don't get discouraged. Although there is a lot of crap and lack of respect in this world, there are also still a lot of good men. They just may be a little harder to find.

If a man can't love his wife when she is having his children and he can't love those children, he dosen't deserve to have them. No woman should ever be ashamed of her children or herself just because the father is!!!

Answer 6

Wow Sara you do have a bad view of men.
You have to know that with every man it is different.
Most men I think love their children very much.
It is a different love that a mother because we do not go through the nine months and childbirth. But that does not mean we love them less.

Some me are as you say. These men are very selfish men who have only their interest at heart. Others may seem distant with their children but love them very much and would die to protect them. However because they are men they have been raised to believe that the softer side of us belongs with women and as a result can not really express their feelings.

Then their are men who do all the things fathers are supposed to do....from changing diapers to when they are gone from home. And they love them for life.

Again I am so sorry you have such a negative view of men. It is such a shame because dads can be a very big influence.

Answer 7

Those are just sick cruel men most men yes love there children you see them i the malls out in the parks playing with them over there shoulders tossing a ball what ever. Not all men are this way. In fact some men so ga ga over there kids they stay in marriages even when its dead. I'v heard a lot on this board not in love with wife or feelings are gone but htey love there kids.

Answer 8

No, your question is not stupid. I tend to have the same view as you do. Most fathers express feelings in different ways, though it is hard to believe that not all men are like that. Unfortunately, the example of your dad indicates the narcisstic personality disorder, meaning that he put his feelings ahead of everything around him. That's why a lot of us have trouble dealing with hatred in our lives. You'd want to find a good man who can accept children in their lives. It'd be interesting to put him to a test and For example, bring a bunch of stuffed babies and say "Hi daddy! I miss you" and see how he'd react.

Answer 9

Sara, do you also stereotype, blacks, Jews, and orientals? You may have seen terrible things from your Dad, but, you can't put that on all of us. Looks like the hatred from the father is passed on to the daughter. I may show my love for my children differently than most others, but, love it is. I sacrifice more than any man I know for my kids. I will always do this. My Dad did it for me. I consider it a privilege to continue this trait. I hope my boys do the same for their kids. The trait I see passed down from your father to you is HATE. Maybe you should focus on your Mom's attributes!

Answer 10

to tell the truth, with out first child the pregnacy was her thing... I could feel the child kick... not same thing to just put had on her and feel it... so, for me it did not kick in untill the first time I held him. That is my baby boy.... And, there are no words to describe the joy of hearing him say "Daddy" or "daddy, I love you" just out of the blue... It truely rocks my world. And God has Bless me with two wonderful boys and the most aswome wife...