my mom figured out she was lesbian. by now my dad had divoreced her and married another woman. i have a 7 yr old brother, annd he wants to kno why they arent together. now what should i tell him?!
2006-11-27 13:11:59 · 16 answers · asked by GROOVY LILY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Boy.. I sure wish you would tell us your age when you ask serious questions. That you have a seven year old brother means that you are older, but how much? Your own maturity will temper the way you deal with your brother, won't it? You can't discuss advanced algebra with someone who hasn't mastered basic math. Thus, his maturity will be a big factor.
I don't know if it's up to you to expose your brother to your mom's choice or if it's up to her or your dad.
We are still pretty uncomfortable with homosexuality in our society. Discussing it with a seven year old is difficult because we don't know how much he really understands about basic sexuality, let alone the sexuality of others who choose alternative life styles.
Here's a link to some books that may or may not help you or your mom. http://www.abebooks.com/servlet/SearchResults?sts=t&y=6&kn=lesbian+mother&x=51
I think that the prime responsibility falls to Mom. She's the one who made a choice and not only you and your brother, but your dad and the rest of your family will have to deal with it for the rest of your lives.
Gay men and lesbian women are still low in the pecking order of our society, though they are gaining credibility and respect every day. As it should be.
Ask your mom and dad to discuss talking to your little brother, that's probably the best you can do for him. His curiosity won't go away and the sooner you can bring him up to speed honestly, the better for everyone. It should be an adult decision.
2006-11-27 13:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by vertically challenged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your responsibility to tell your brother. Your parents should sit down with him and explain it in a way thats appropriate for his age. Your mother can't change who she is. This is very difficult and life changing for you so focus on your own health and happiness and hopefully you can have a good relationship with both your parents.
2006-11-27 21:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him Mommy and Daddy love each other better when they are not living together. Don't tell him too much- Young kids can really be damaged by stuff like that. Let him piece it together and when he his older let him ask your Mom. It is HER responsibility to tell him and yours to be there for him as a good big brother.
2006-11-27 21:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends on the intellect of the 7 yr.old. if he is smart and probably already knows either tell him the truth or let your parent handle it....... or if he has the mentality of a 7yr.old just tell him that sometimes people grow apart ,and it's better for them to be just friends because their life choices are different.
2006-11-27 21:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by mona ferrell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to your parents to explain the situation with your little brother. Just be there for him
2006-11-27 21:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that your parents went their seperate ways. don't explain that she's a lesbian yet, not until he's like 10....there are things the yougn mind shouldn't know so young. say they just got in a fight, it had nothing to do with him, and that things aren't the same. if your mom was ready for him to know, she'd tell him.
2006-11-27 21:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by heyy i'm retarded 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell the truth. "Mommy and Daddy don't love each other anymore." The rest of the truth is not yours to tell.
2006-11-27 21:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should not be your responsibility...tell your Mom and Dad that they need to talk to him. They should explain, not you.
2006-11-27 21:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
only that they weren't good for each other...sometimes that happens ... in those situations divorce is a better solution than staying together...
2006-11-27 21:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Liz C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to talk to your parents. It's their job to discuss this with him, not you.
2006-11-27 21:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Amy R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋