For example; if the father of 2 sons that both cheated on their wives; cheated on their mother; is this just a coincidence or could genetics be involved? Of course people have free will but it is interesting that a father and both sons all cheated on their wives.
2006-11-27 12:54:55 · 34 answers · asked by Tgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope I do not think it is a coincidence...it is having a bad role model and example set for them in their formative years. How they are able to justify it to themselves and function is beyond me really because they saw first hand the damage it did to their family so why would they wish that heartbreak on their own family? They may even use it as an excuse...the old man did it I do not see why I can't, ya know? Either way someone needs to stand up, be a man and take responsibility for their actions and break the circle of lies...
2006-11-27 13:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Genetics plays a role in more than people think. It's not just physical traits. It can be emotional and psychological traits as well. Depression and Schizophrenia can be passed on to the son. So why not the inability to make good choices? Common sense in other words. Monkey see monkey do could also play a role. The son sees the father cheat, he feels like that's what men do. Some things are learned some you're born with.
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2006-11-27 13:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I say the parents are not responsible. Whether or not a parent cheated, the "child" (when grown) has a mind of their own and unless they live in a cave, have some idea of acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Who doesn't know that the majority of people think cheating is "wrong"?
Definitely unkewl that the person was raised in a household where cheating occured...and he or she had that as an example of how adult relationships worked...
...but it doesn't in any way excuse their own cheating when they are grown.
2006-11-27 12:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happened to being responsible for one's own behaviour? Even if my father cheated, why does it follow that I would cheat? Even if I was so disposed to cheat, my own morals and priorities should help me make the decision and just because my father went for it, it would be up to me to say yes or no. I don't think genetics has anything to do with this behaviour altho I do think that maybe seeing what goes on while one is growing up may play a part in things like this happening.
2006-11-27 14:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to belly up and take responsibility for their own actions.Genetics will determine many things but we all have free will and a brain. If you use your brain and have some iota of loyalty then cheating is not an issue. They cheated because they are 1) thrill seekers and this is a conquest, 2) selfish, 3) were never in love with their spouse to begin with. It's not hard to control yourself if you want to.
2006-11-27 13:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by sto_243 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one has nothing to do with the other, asking if his father cheated on his mother, and trying to connect the two is the same as saying that if the son is gay the father was too? looking for reasons why is just that, your looking for a answer to something that has nothing to do with it.
sounds like you need to look into todays way of life and see that this is becomeing the norm(and that I surly don't see it as being anything but bad) the only fight you have to have a relationship with your partner that is nothing less than prue bliss is to have open comuication with each other that you can fight off any temptation prior to it ever becomeing fiction. and if what your asking is from what he has done to you in the past you need to know that you had nothing to do with it, todays people seek the feeling of being young again and if it take cheating on their partner to have this feeling then so be it. every relationship will have problems and when problems aren't address prior to, your in deed to have a relationship that is failing...
2006-11-27 13:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing genetic about making a conscious decision to cheat on your spouse. The person makes the choice to do it.
I would think that a child that came from a cheating household would not want their own home to be like that.
2006-11-27 12:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People may be tempted away, but we are responsible for our choices. While, yes, the sons learned the behavior was acceptable (the mother didn't leave, right?), the sons could have chosen not to.
My father's father cheated on his wife throughout their marriage, yet neither my father nor his sister cheated on their spouses.
2006-11-27 13:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jess B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure genetics play as much a role as does example. Children are a product of parents and environment and deeds count for far more than words or instruction. So, what they see a parent do may seem acceptable and sometimes mimic the parent's/parents' behavior.
2006-11-27 13:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Laura H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the project right it truly is deeper than having affairs. Too many mom and father now are in straight forward words nerve-racking about their personal egocentric needs fairly of focusing on the youngster. Shuttling the youngsters round to football and then purely spending something else of the evening on the cel telephone or pc does no longer make for a sturdy figure. little ones are starved for interest. They recognize at the same time as mommy or daddy are not taking note of them.
2016-10-07 21:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋