How can a person not take things so personal, if you are a sensitive person?

Question

Doing a paper for psychology class on this question.

Answer 1

The Enneagram measures our defense system. In other words, buttons pushed that refer back to issues as a child.

Answer 2

That's a really good question! I am a sensitive person and because of that I've built this who cares attitude which is a disguise and I even trick myself sometimes but I'm starting to realize that it doesn't work.

But in theory I personally think it's a good idea to basically use your brain, as I always say that's what it's there for. What I mean is if someone has done wrong by you, instead of jumping to conclusions, stop and think maybe they didn't mean to but meant something else, or maybe they're under stress at the moment etc etc. Because I'm slowly learning that instead of reacting if I try to talk to the person the issue will get resolved without all the emotional turmoil!!! Because it's more often than not a misunderstanding.

Answer 3

This may be due in part to your upbringing. I have a lot of very strongly held beliefs, and I'm quite good at arguing (arguing in the logic sense--not yelling and screaming), but I often back down when faced with arguing a point with someone I don't know extremely well. This is for several reasons: 1. I was raised to be polite and courteous; explaining to someone why he is wrong does not seem to fit with these goals. 2. If they don't know me well, they're not likely to properly consider my argument anyway. 3. If they don't know me well, what is the point in trying to convince them of my belief? 4. Some people are not good arguers; they get upset and take it too personally; without knowing if someone is that type of person, you are treading in dangerous waters to take that risk. It sounds like what you need more than anything is a little bit of confidence. You need to know that if you do share your opinion, you won't be made to look like a fool. This can be achieved either by thoroughly researching your belief, so that you are familiar with common arguments against it, and how to combat them, or by having a go-to line for circumstances like these. For example, you could say, "I don't believe in abortion, but it's a very sensitive subject so I prefer not to discuss it with friends."

Answer 4

wait and analyze the content of information on its whole rather than tearing away at it from start to finish and loose what ever real information was there. most people don't understand that when they help themselves that sometimes it means leaving thing alone til the correct atmosphere is achieved and the conclusions is do i need to say something now or is it self explanatory. when i have to argue a point it is usually worthless to take on people who won't let you get your point out before they miss the point with their intent to argue and not learn, most have attitudes and don't have a clue as to why they have bad attitudes they just use them and have never been totally confronted with how they arrived at their way of thinking, envy-can be the solution here if you see that someone you know can do the impossible with stress and come up a winner then pattern yourself with the habits that make other a winner and it's good point and bad can be woven to fit your needs, like a safety net, holds u up so u don't go deep, or stay down to long

Answer 5

By building up your own self-image about yourself. This is kind of ironic though because sensitive people need to surround themselves with things that are only positive and affirming because the negativity drains us more than other people that are naturally thicker-skinned.

So yes...help yourself, by being around like-minded people that understand you. You will then be stronger with their support and when somebody tries to belittle you it just won't get to you. Even though you're sensitive, the sensitivity of your being positive will be more powerful than the sensitivity of them being negative.

Answer 6

i'm a very sensitive person and usually take things up the a hole but lately since i've noticed this i am able to control my psycho hormones.. so i think it depends on other attirbutes of the person and not just being sensitive ...

you see.. ummm... i am a very determined person so when i said i wanted to stop acting like a over sensitive idiot i am able to do that ... yeah... so work on that.. lol peace

Answer 7

if you have put the past behind you (losing something you find personal) you have no emotional feelings on taking things personal that you have lost because you have already experienced it