Is it bad that at age 16 I have never even had a boyfriend?

Question

I am afraid of comitment because I dont want to mess anything up and get hurt like my friends. I have had guys ask me out quite a few times, but I am very anti-social. Is this alright?

Answer 1

Friend - It would be okay to not have had a boyfriend by age 16, but the reasons you give and you view on it are not good. You could really benefit by talking to a therapist a few times to try and find ways to change your behavior and your fear of "messing things up". Something has made you feel this way and if you can get to the bottom of it now...you can say yes to some of those guys asking for dates and have some fun. GB

Answer 2

OK, here's a guy's perspective on this.
At 16, I wouldn't worry too much about not having a boyfriend.
From what you've said, it seems like you're very shy. I can relate.
I think you should work on socializing, as hard as this may be, & making some new friends. Include some guys in this, too (with the clear understanding that they're "just friends" at this point). Don't forget the friends you currently have. You need to maintain the bonds you have with them as well. Just be careful not to give in to peer pressure if it means doing something you'll regret later.
If you can build positive friendships 1st, this should boost your confidence. And you'll have a better idea of what kind of people you'd like to date.
I tell you all this because I was very shy in high school & never dated seriously until I was 24. (Yes, 24!) I ended up in an unhealthy relationship which led to a divorce. I don't wish that on anyone.
Since then, I've just been building friendships & I'm hopeful that I'll find love again.
I'm sure you'll meet that special person in good time.
Good luck & happiness to you.

Answer 3

on a mass appeal that the world has gone mad and is unaffordable after 911, is true but individually the parental relationships have only changed alittle and this is because of the degree of not knowing how to create or hang on to a shred of dignity with out being a parade of messing things up and guys do allot of messing up and your in good shape to be on this thought line with so many way to dead end, and so few right open truths that have all the facts, your statement is very smart, dodge-ball was a game where knowing what was happening and that keeping a low profile was the way to stay in the game the longest. at sixteen i had been recruited as a gymnastic instructor and avoided all the relations til i had, firmly understood the adult advantages and disadvantages to accepting other people and their addictive behaviors,i too was very anti-social from the isolation of being army generals brat, as long as your learning at your own speed and preferences that as good as it gets, the eye of your mind is focused and you have responsibilities your objectives has to be education and a great career, nothing can be as disillusioning than to have conflicts that are unresolvable in school they haunt people for ever, and some can even be creating underachievers just through associations, guys think they are the head game and don't c the parents and teachers and friends all see the same only different

Answer 4

Yeah it's alright, but my suggestion to you would be not to avoid men in general I know it's hard to believe but not all are bad. At your age they're all as horny as ever and I didn't get too close to any at that age and I'm glad I didn't. But learn from your friends mistakes by looking at what went wrong with them. No one is perfect but there are a lot of men that are a heck of a lot better than others! And really when you think about it, every thing in life is a risk. You take a risk when you leave the house, when you get in a car, even at home there is risks! So don't let your fears make decisions for you, let you mind make decisions after really considering everything, I'm sure you're an intelligent girl because you're already looking at your behaviour and reflecting on it, so if you use that brain of yours to make good judgement about men and take it slow with them you'll be fine!

Answer 5

No, its not bad, as a matter of fact I would not let my daughter date till she was 16. To many situations can happen that at a young age you have no idea how to mentally handle it. Now that's she's much older, she thanks me for being wise enough not to let her date early er just because her friends were.
Take your time, someday you will know, the most important decision you will ever make in your life is who you marry.

Answer 6

of course not. in fact it's better to be older because tatistics say that the average person ends up not even marring the person who they date in high school but most people end up marring the one they meet in collage. so your normal and maybe safer than the average person who dates alot of guys rather than just one. Plus guys don't wanna date a girl that has dated around alot they want someone they can trust to be true and not cheat.

Answer 7

At your age boys are well.... um. Not very good at all. Even the ones that will actually turn out to be very good. So don't worry about it you're not missing much.

You don't need commitment at sixteen years old, heavens no! Enjoy your life. =)

Answer 8

I didn't date anyone till I was 18. It was way more fun to hang out with several guys than to date just one. I just had way to much fun not being attached to someone.

Answer 9

There is NOTHING wrong with not having a boyfriend. Live your own life, and don't be persuaded by peer pressure. When your time is right...you'll know it. Be strong.

AND you don't have to see a therapist!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For the love of all things....you don't need a therapist......I'm sure you are quite NORMAL!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

its ok if you get hurt in a relationship. it just makes you stronger next time. so i suggest you go for it but go for a good person. that you trust.