My bestfriend and i liked the same guy right?and we said that we wouldnt get mad if one of us got him.But a few nights ago he told me he loved me and she asked him out she was so jelous and he said"Yes"i was so made i cried for 4 hours and i just couldnt belive she had done that.Then the same night he called me telling me he was going to break up with her because he couldnt be happy unless he was with me and i said"No Mike you dont love me you love her!"and then he started to cut his wrists and he started to cry, i got so upset i did the same.I already told all my friends i wouldnt do it again and ive done it 3 more times...i only had 3 scars and now i have 7..WHAT DO I DO?should i tell them i did it or just go on?Should i be friends with my friend?ANSWERS PLEASE!
2006-11-27 12:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by Abby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't speak Teen! Sorry...!
2006-11-27 12:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmm, this guy sounds more than a little confused. He says he wants you and then he agrees to a date with your friend and then.....he comes back to you and slits his wrists because you told him he loved her. I would suggest staying friends with your friend. It sounds like communication got messed up there. I could be wrong but this is the way I read it. He tells you he loves you but doesn't tell her that. Not knowing this, she asks him for a date. The guy doesn't say no he loves you, he agrees to it. Instead of fessing up to his mistakes, he slits his wrists. Before you get any more scars, I would start talking things out with your friend. Try to understand where she was coming from and why she thought he loved her. Is he telling both of you the same thing? It just sounds to me like not everyone is getting the whole truth here. Either he is lying or she is lying. My guess is that it is him.
2006-11-27 20:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by whitneysmother 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, no more cutting! all you're going to achieve by doing that is giving yourself some terrible scars or worse, getting an infection in the cuts, needing stitches, or cutting too deep and bleeding out before anyone can help you. you don't want to do that.
now, the situation with the guy who likes you, it sounds to me like he really does like you, but he said yes to your so-called best friend because he didn't want to hurt her feelings. he made a mistake. he wants to be with you, not her. he made his choice, and he chose you. she put him in a terrible situation by doing what she did. you like him, and he likes you, so the two of you should be together.
now, your so-called best friend, she doesn't sound like a best friend at all, she sounds like a jealous brat who didn't abide by the agreement that you'd both made about whoever got the guy, the other wouldn't be mad about it. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to be mad at her if he'd chosen her would she? and she has no right or reason to be mad at you. you can't help who you're attracted to. and you have nothing to feel bad about. when two people like the same person, the person who's liked should be the one to choose who they want to be with. you got the guy. she didn't. and now she's going to try and ruin things for you. just don't let her. if she's really your friend, she'll see how childish and selfish and jealous she's been and want to make up with you. but if she tries to cause more trouble for you, she isn't your real friend, and certainly not your best friend. ask her what happened to honoring the agreement the two of you had about not being mad at the friend whom the guy chose.
and as far as telling your friends about cutting more, I think you should tell your parents too. this is a serious problem, and it needs to stop.
now, you work things out with your guy, and get that all settled.
then maybe you can start working on mending your friendship with the girl you call your best friend.
I know that your friend is jealous, disappointed she didn't get picked, and probably has hurt feelings, but she certainly didn't handle the situation the way she said she would.
work on one thing at a time, and everything will be alright. and don't cut anymore okay? you're only hurting yourself when you do that. it never helps anything. so just don't do it.
I hope this helps you out.
2006-11-27 20:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, if you're doing harm to yourself you need to tell someone who loves you AND CAN REALLY HELP, like your parents or a big sib or someone at school like your guidance counselor. THis is a really big issue. First, hurting yourself isn't going to change the situation with your friends ONE BIT. It's only going to make you more miserable with yourself, truly.....and it will lead to more desperate things. You've got to learn coping strategies that don't hurt you....or your'e headed for self-destruction in the extreme. Your "girlfriend" is a traitor, but honestly, at your age most girls are. They think that their self image is tied to who they're with---don't YOU fall into the same trap. Your image of yourself needs to come from within, from being the best that you can be, and believe me (I've been there) people will flock to you for knowing who you are and being satisfied with yourself. This boy is---at best---someone who doesn't even know himself. EVERYBODY---and I do mean EVERYBODY---knows it's a no-no to go with someone your friend really likes. It's just not done. She is sending you a big message about how much she values your friendship (NOT!) FInd new friends, and find yourself too, before you get really hurt.
2006-11-27 20:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by hot_italian_empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all noone is worth hurting yourself like that, second of all if you have been friends with the girl for a long time don't let a guy come between you.
2006-11-27 20:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by colvin0594 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self mutilation is not the answer. over a guy hello. wake up. both of you need to seek professional help is he really worth you hurting yourself, pick a new bestfriend!
2006-11-27 20:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by James R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends choose friends over a guy.. ALWAYS... so you choose if you want her as a friend or not... and about the cutting, just stop, it won't make any difference if you do... cause if you do, your just hurting the ones who care about you
2006-11-27 20:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he likes you and you like him you should get together if your friend did that she might not be really your friend. if she was she would be happy for you ans move on. hoped this helped:)
2006-11-27 20:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by *princess13* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definently get help because that is not good.And try talking to her.
2006-11-27 20:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
God, you people are sooo dramatic and sensitive....
2006-11-27 20:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋