Teen parents?

Question

What are peopls thoughts on them?
do you think that they can be good parents even though there so young?
do you think that they can still complete school?

any advice to give to a teen parent?

i know itll be really hard but im still thinking if im pregant whatll be best and if ill be selfish to keep it because i know i can love it with everything i got.

Answer 1

You know, babies don't ask to be brought, we bring them, we don't ask them if they want to come, we just bring them. If you are, face it, live it, and love it. It's yours, nobody else's. I've got my cousins, I've got friends that are teen mums. Some are single some have their bfs or husband, but they all have their babies. It's hard to finish school and stuff but it's not impossible. It's actually good, because when you have a baby you've somebody to motivate you, to give you the strenght you need.
Teens can be good parents of course. It's hard to be a mum or a dad, but if you really love your child and want the best for it, then you certainly become a good parent. You can still complete school, find somebody who can help you with the little one, and finish school not just for yourself but for your child. My advice is, be happy and be positive. Everything will be fine. You'll have to be strong though and things will be hard but once you become a mum, you realize that you can do ANYTHING for your child

Answer 2

I was a teen mum, I was 17 when my son was born, but when I was 16 when I first fell pregnant but I lost that baby. I couldn't have an abortion as I was on contriception so I tried to prevent it but it happened anyway, so I though it must have been for a reason. I fell pregnant again when I was 19, again on the pill and condoms this time. I got married at 20 and am pregnant with our last baby so I'll b e 21 when the baby is born. I didn't expected to be a mum at this age but things happen and its how you deal with it. The first 2 weren't planned but this baby was.

Been a parent is hard work, no matter what age you become a parent, I am happy I had my kids when I did, I wouldn't change my life for anything. Children are very testing thats what they do, they test the limits you should remember what it was like. I find that its easy to see when your been tested when your young as you remember doing that with your parents. Boys are much more testing as they are full of energy all the time and get into everything but because its your child you can work out what suits best for your baby.

You can complete school after having a baby, through tafe, Adult tertery will help you graduate year 11 and 12 in one year. It will cost you to finish but it will be worth it. I am about to do my year 11 & 12. It is much easier these days to finish school and be a mother.

My advice to you is make sure you have support, I have been a full time mother for 4 years and some days I feel like I'm going insane, as long as you have somebody that can give you a break every now and then you will do fine, it will be hard but as long as you give your baby everything you've got and all the love in the world then you'll be a wonderful mother. If your pregnant you will have a special feeling for your baby now, but once you give birth you will realise what love really is. It is amazing watching a person grow, this is your child you are able to watch grow very quickly beneth you eyes, they are memories worth all the heartache of life.

Having a baby now, there will be a reason you fell pregnant now, you may not see it now but in a few years you will. Listen to your heart you know whats best, age has nothing to do with if your a good parent. good luck and if you every need to talk I am willing to listen and share my experances and listen to yours. My address is [e-mail] Best of luck.

Answer 3

Sweetie I was 19 when I had my son, I took some time off of school and am now getting ready to start back to school again, I am looking into either being an anesthesiologist, or being a child psychologist and right now am enrolling into courses to get started right now, So my answer is yes it is hard but I think that young mommy's can be just as good as mothers as any other women it just depends on your determination and what you want to do with your life. Having a baby at a young age doesnt mean your life is over it just puts some things on hold for a bit, but dont let anyone tell you that you wont be a good mother beacause you are young because there are some young mothers out there that are better mothers than older ones so it just depends on the things you do. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK AND HOPE ALL GOES WELL FOR YOU!!!

Answer 4

I had my son at 18 went to college, worked, took care of an apt and took care of him. My husband (sons father and bf at the time) and I made our schedules so that one of us could there with my son. A couple of days a week he went to daycare as well. We are now married both 23 (well I will be in a couple of weeks) finished with our bachelors degrees, have a home and provide for our son. So yes they can be good parents. I think we are better parents then some 30 year olds who are having kids. Both of us completed school and well I did it in four years and my husband five bc he left for a while when he joined the air force. Adivce I would give teen parents is not to be lazy and to do what they can to better themselves and their lives so they can be the best parents possible. It may seem to be really hard at times but being a parent is hard for anyone and getting through those hard times and doing something with your life is well worth the rough spots. Anything is possible if you put your mind to it. What I hate is how lazy teens are. If you just do it and stop being lazy then you'll be fine (I dont mean you personally)

Answer 5

Teen parents can be just as good parents as adults...its just more challenging for a kid to raise a baby! Yes, a teen parent can and should complete school, they do have special schools for teen parents. Advice for a teen parent, get as much help as you can, from parents, friends, other family members...your life is about to change completely...there won't be any more going out whenever you want! Having a baby is a HUGE responsibilty, but if you have the right support you can do it! If at some point, you don't think you can handle it, you could consider an "open adoption"...that way you choose the adoptive parents and you can be involved w/ the baby. Good luck, and take care!!!

Answer 6

It's not the Age that really should matter when it comes to this, But the Maturity.

My mother did it. A few of my best friends did it.
Just because some poeple find it hard doesn't man you're going to fail. As long as you have the basics and love and support, then it's more than achievable.
I was 25 when we fell pregnant with twins - been together for 7yrs, but it's that initial shock of S#*T - We're gonna be parents.
New scarey responsiblities and having to put yourself 2nd - ALWAYS.
I would NOT change it for the world but i would've tried to have had things sorted out a bit more. (house, finances) They're the most precious gifts not to be taken lightly.

It's not easy raising kids, whether you have money or not, but you must have the right attitude and the right frame of mind. This isn't something that'll pass with time - It's a Lifetime.
Goodluck with whatever comes your way.

Answer 7

I was 17 when I had my oldest son who is now 14. I had my daughter at 20. I would say that yes, you can certainly love your child and that is what is most important. What I would advise you to do is ( if you are preg) get a good SOLID support network of caring people ( doesn't always have to be family) EDUCATE yourself and get a CAREER. Children need love but they also need "things" in life. Love won't buy them diapers or clothes. If you love , then love as hard as you can by getting thru school ( high school and college.) It can be done sweetie. It will be hard but getting an education in a field that will provide you with a good job and good income will help you be an even better parent. Be responsible and show your child that yes, you love them but you love them enough to care for them too. Good luck to you. If you are not pregnant then do not try to get pregnant. Love the child you don't have yet and get thru school first. You can do it!

Answer 8

Well, I can tell you that yes, teen parents can be good parents. I know because I was once a teen parent. I finished high school and went on to marry my child's father. We have been married for 5 years now and we are expecting baby number 4 in just 7 weeks! My husband has a wonderful city job that pays very well so I am able to stay at home and care for our children.
Best advice: Its time to grow up and put all those silly little things you did behind you. Your going to have to take responsibility for your actions. Don't fret about what other people think... your not the only one thats done it!

Answer 9

Teen parents if they are strong and know they want the baby can be the best parents. God gives you no more than what you can handle. If you are than you are able to handle it because the Lord is with you they can continue to go to school and make it. Sometimes even going farther than they would have. Depending on the Teen parents the baby makes them work harder and stay on track. If you have a support system it is even easier. It is not selfish of you to want to keep the baby if you are. especially if you are willing to step up and take responsibility for who you created. And it is not selfish to give the baby up for adoption to a good and loving home if you know you can not provide the baby with what it needs. Yes teen parents can make great parents, it may take a little longer to finish school( if you want to go on to college) but it is worth it. It is selfish to abort the baby. because the baby would have been made from Love.

Answer 10

Nobody has the right to call you selfish because you would keep your baby and love it. Just try to understand that now it's not the right time. You are still developing. You have a whole life in front of you, you are still yet to see and experieance a lot! If you really feel like a person loves, cares about you, understands and knows you best then ask him/her to be patient. If they really love you, they will understand and let you have a baby only if you want.

Good luck!