i just want some insight from others about this situation because i feel terrible that i am taking her from a situation that shes truly loves.she says she wants to do it because she wants to be wherever i am going to be.but i still cant help from feelin guilty because i know how much she loves her family and friends and she does not know anyone where she is moving to besides myself.should i consider moving where she may be happier? i have a good thing going on where i am at but i would do anything to make her happy. and i thank u all for ur replys.
2006-11-27 11:56:52 · 11 answers · asked by Ashman78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two sound like you care very much for each other. Don't feel guilty I know you want her happy too and she wants to be with you and that makes her happy. Yes she loves her family and friends but your more important to her..
Make her feel very comfortable in your new surrondings and give her lots of love and you two will be okay .. and on holidays or special events you can go back home with her to visit family.
Wish you both the best. It looks good so far from here.
2006-11-27 12:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't feel guilty, that's such a destructive emotion. You can be concerned, but that's all. It sounds like she must really care a lot about your relationship. Maybe she needs to break free from her family for awhile, which is a healthy thing to do. Remember, you can always move back to the area where her family is at a later date. I think you should just make it easy for her to be able to go home to visit her family on special occasions. I don't know how far away she's moving, but if it's a long distance you can offer to pay her flight so that she can visit with her family. As far as her not knowing anyone where you live, that can be changed. Think about how exciting this can be. The two of you can reach out and meet neighbors, maybe someone from your work can be invited over for dinner. Of course, if you attend a church, there are usually a lot of people that will reach out to both of you. Take walks together regularly at certain times. You can meet people along the way. People will get accustomed to seeing you walk by and many times they will start up a conversation. If they don't you could. If you see beautiful flowers in a yard, compliment the owner of the house. Say hello to people you meet. Before long, you'll know a lot of people. Just don't feel guilty, she will know it if you do and that would be hard on her too. Remember, try to throw all guilt feelings like that away.
2006-11-27 12:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kyra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have nothing to feel guilty about. If you have not put any pressure on her to move and it sounds like that is the case, she is being honest with you about what she wants. You two obviously love each other very much and deserve to be together. Besides her family and friends can always visit. If you really want to make her happy, stop worrying, you two will be fine. You have enough love between you to keep you both happy !! Good luck
2006-11-27 12:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't feel at all guilty, THEN there would be a problem.
If you could make it work to move to her, that might be an options, but if not, make her a deal that you guys will re-asses the situation in a year (two years, 18 months - whatever seeme reasonable) so this move doesn't seem like forever for her (and mean it, of course!)
2006-11-27 12:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by raquel122203 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to feel guilty, she wouldn't do the move if she did not feel secure with you. Leaving her family & friends is a big step for her. If I were you I would just show her how much you appreciate her making such a sacrafice for your love & someday hope repay her by proving your love & sacraficing something as special as friends & family to be with her. Buy her something nice!
2006-11-27 12:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Reckless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well from experience when i moved with my ex i loved him so much but then i really missed my family and that resulted in our break up....but he also didn't want me to spend time with my family and our children too....but if you are moving for a career then go on with it and if you are moving to keep her from her family then it won't work there will be tension between you guys ....let her see as much of her family as possible if it is to benefit you and her and try to comfort her as much as possible she will have home sickness for a while but assure her that you are there for her and she may go and see them when she feels and then it should all work out....it just depends on her and how well she can handle things about being away from her family....remember family is all a person has really got...and i am not saying any thing against you but family will always be there for you through thick and thin and ups and downs....so really think about why you are moving and will you benefit from it and is it a easy place for easy friends to be made...and will she be able to get a job when she comes with you so she won't feel like she is dependent upon you????good luck in what you decide:)
2006-11-27 12:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance and i had a lot of problems with our families earlier on during our relationship and it was a choice between family and my fiance. i love my fiance with everything i have and everything that i am and was willing to lose everything just to be with him. i moved out of my parents home to live with him in another city and it did force a lot of distantcy from my family, but they had to understand that it was my life that i wanted to take control of. they had to understand that i was happy and if they didnt.. i knew that they would eventually come to their senses and come around and accept it.
my fiance still has guilt to this day that i miss my family and friends so much, but he also understands that i love him so much. he helps to make an effort to invite them over for dinner and what not, or we would drive out to their house to hang around.
you should def talk to your fiance and tell her your feelings on the situation and let her know that you too want her to happy. make a decision together to figure out housing closer to family or on how to cope with a big move.
goodluck. be honest and true.
2006-11-27 12:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 21:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both suit each other. What a beautiful relationship. Take care of her........she loves you!
2006-11-27 12:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And the TWO become ONE. You are her family now and she is yours.
2006-11-27 12:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by slimdiva1977 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋