i just found out im pregnant a couple days ago. we have 2 kids together already and have been together for 7 yrs now. with my other babys he has always been soooo excited. this time now he is acting like he doesnt care..he told me he is not happy but not mad either. he doesnt want me to tell any of his relatives yet. his sister is pregnant too. he told me tonight that he is upset and i tricked him,which i did not and that he is upset because he doesnt want anymore babys with me. i been crying all day and feel terrible and soo sad. i asked him to take me to the clinic to get a proof of pregnancy to get my medicaid and he wont take me,he ignores me when i ask but does things for other people..i dont understand why the man that is usually such a loving father would not be happy with my expecting another..any ideas why? thx everyone!
2006-11-27 11:55:41 · 16 answers · asked by cheerychumms 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Obviously he didn't want any MORE kids. Children are a MAJOR responsiblity and it sounds like neither one of you are really mature enough to have one let alone THREE...He has a huge burden to bear, and obviously you're not helping any.
2006-11-27 11:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Wow that's strange. That's a hard one. I don't have any ideas why. You know, many, millions of couples have said no more children and boom, the woman gets pregnant again. Some babies are accidents, but they are one's babies, you know. The baby is all yours, an innocent loving creature. Children are a blessing no matter what. Probably he didn't want anymore but he's having one more. You shouldn't act like that, cause he should have helped you if he didn't want anymore, you didn't get pregnant by yourself, and what is done is done, just go on. Maybe you need to have a serious conversation with him, cause you both need his support. Good luck
2006-11-27 12:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
# 1 How old are you? You cannot spell pregnant so Im guessing your young. He may actually be the father. If he dosent sign the birth certificate then he as to take her to court. My brother just went to court for a paternity test and visitation and It costed $175.00 to file the papers plus the paternity test was like $45.00. He has to file papers before they break a familys heart. He needs to talk to a lawyer or talk to the adoption agency because most times the father has to sign his rights away for the baby to be adopted. He can take it if he has a job and a place to live. But untill you and him get married you will have no legal ties to the child. You can help raise it but you will not be allowed to make decisions untill the baby is in his custody. My brothers ex refused a DNA test and he went to court and they made her do it.
2016-05-23 15:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you knew he didn't want another baby right now you probably should have listened. In any sense he will probably adjust as the time goes on. Give him a few weeks for it to sink in. He could be scared and not ready to think about the financial responsibility that will be added. In the mean time see if you can get a ride to get these things done and don't tell his family until HE is ready.
2006-11-27 12:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your on medicaid I don't think you financially stable to have more kids. Men take parenting different then we do. They want to be able to provide the best for their families and it hit them hard when they cant do it. Most men will be excited when they have a kid, then another, but a third when you're not stable is not easy on them. I would be mad too.
2006-11-27 12:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by mad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the blessing. There can be many reasons why he is acting this way. Could be stress that he is barley providing now with the 4 of you and now to worry about the new baby. Second he just might be selfish and needs to get used to the idea. or sorry to even bring it up, could there be someone else or a friend whispering in his ear telling him things to get between you guys. Stay strong and keep the faith.
2006-11-27 12:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To the person who said you aren't mature enough for one let alone 3, don't even let that phase you. She doesn't know you and I wouldn't even listen to that mess. I would talk to him and ask him what is up and why he is being like this to you. Tell him that you need him to be there for you. If nothing works, then I would separate for the time being because u don't need added stress. Good luck and I hope everything works out. It could just be a phase he is going through.
2006-11-27 12:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really not enough information here to give a good answer. Were you on birth control? How did you get pregnant. It is obvious that he wasn't expecting it. You need to talk to him about it. Didn't you know that he didn't want anymore kids? He probably feels he didn't have any control over this and is angry. You guys may need counseling.
2006-11-27 12:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just happy with the two you have.or maybe he feels he cant support another one...either way you should ask him why hes not happy. If he wants to be like that you need to just leave him and let it go. Find freinds or family who can help you get to the medicaid office...goodluck sweetie....and congratulations on the baby!
2006-11-27 12:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww darl, I'm so sorry! It sounds like he's been talking to his family and they don't want him to have any more kids with you. Or he's just not wanting any more himself. But I think it's more likely to be his family, especially as you said his sister is pregnant too. Perhaps they want you two to marry before you have any more kids, do you think that's what it is? Do you want that? What about him? Would he be prepared to marry you? I don't know what else to tell you, love.
Good luck, and keep your chin up!
2006-11-27 12:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as you are relying on medicaid (which comes from the taxpayers) perhaps you already have enough children? Maybe you need to abort this one and try to pay for the two you already have. How would you like to be responsible to make the next car payment for my BMW if I didn't feel like making it? If you can't afford to raise a baby you have absolutely NO RIGHT to have one!
2006-11-27 12:05:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋