Why Is It??!!?

Question

That females have to been the ***** or ho or dumbass but the man is jus the pimp or player?? I mean what women have in this culture especial being a black female its just degrading! it stupid and pointless. another thing why is it you men think yall can go ahead and think you can touch a women inapporiatley??!! so many women have been touched in a incomfertable way by a man. If u have been touched in a inapprotialy way please say "I Have!" its not fair how we women are treated these days! were not just the "wives" who have to do the work around the house were also a person who can become a president!

Answer 1

To say (in so many words) that "women are asking for it" (see above) by "sending off signals" is called "blaming the victim." It's something that victimizers often do. And then to say, essentially, that men are so stupid and childish as to think inappropriate touching (which is known as simple battery or assault, depending on the severity) is okay because they see FRIENDS doing it TO EACH OTHER, is taking ALL of the blame from the perpetrators, and putting ALL the blame on the victims...it's an idiotic argument, and it sounds like just the the thing someone would say to explain away their own bad behavior. One valid point, though, is that we ALLOW it to happen. We are embarrassed, ashamed, and want to forget about it, we want to think this isn't that serious, and often, we are so taken aback that we don't even get really pissed until much later. But what we NEED to do is start fighting back. Press charges, slap them, kick them, deride them in front of everyone to embarrass them. Unfortunately, we are often in a packed crowd when this happens, and don't know WHO has touched us (cowards). This happened to me once; I was in a club, VERY conservatively dressed, (long loose fitting dress pants, a "fitted" but by no means "tight-fitting" top that was not low cut at all, in fact, it went all the way up to my collar bone). Anyway, I was walking through the crowd, when some random guy reaches out and grabs my breast. Fortunately, it was not THAT crowded, so I looked right at the guy, (I hadn't even SEEN him until then) and without hesitation, slapped him right in the face. I thought he would get mad, and start calling me names, (or worse) but instead, he turned red and looked for all the world like a little boy who got caught with his hand in the cookie jar, and his friends laughed at HIM. I think the guy KNEW he was wrong, he just thought he could get away with it, and when he was confronted, he couldn't act like he was anything other than WRONG. He looked like he was about to apologize, but I just turned and walked away, I didn't want to hear it. I know that if I hadn't done that, I would have felt so ANGRY later, at myself, mostly, for "letting" it happen and not doing anything, and I would have felt violated and degraded. As it was, my retaliation made me feel empowered, and I was able to brush it off, and even laugh with my friends about it.

Answer 2

I've noticed that there are two reasons for this. One is that women collectively let men get away with this behavior. Why? I'm not exactally sure. Part of it is a cultural and media influence that tells you thats the way you need to be. Also, because of this women don't seem to respect themselves as much anymore. It could also be argued that one puts themselves in that situation or does something that sends a message that they want that type of attention. Remember, guys are visual. So, if they see you and your female friends playing grab ***, or they see you play grab *** with another guy, they'll think its okay.

Also, I think guys believe that we can have whatever we want, but most males don't know how to go about getting it. Especially today because traditional gender roles are being changed more rapidly than society can keep up with. For example, men are becoming the choosing gender now, whereas traditionally they would woo the damsel and she would have to choose which one she wanted. Now that things are more equal, theres becoming a shift.

I could also go into how women don't like the nice guys that won't do that to you, because they're not challenging and they already fit the romantic ideal they have in their brain. But, I won't.

Answer 3

Women don't HAVE to be whores any more than young men have to be gang members....it just happens that many of them make the choice to become that. Why? Because there is money to be made in it. It also isn't fair to just blame the men for degrading women...there are a lot of women out there who contribute to the degredation of the female population with the way they act.

Answer 4

Society should not be open to the "pimp" the "player" or the "ho" as a way to be. It's a double standard and low-class, so don't buy into it. Most guys I know never mention the desire to be a pimp or player and don't date "ho's!" Or call ANY women by that word! Consider new friends!

Answer 5

I have! I've been at parades in the crowd (like Carribana) and I'll feel a hand in places that it shouldn't be and I know for sure that it's not my hand! The respect for women seems to be decreasing as oppose to increasing as time passes. But you have many women who need to take back their dignity and say they're not going to be disrespected anymore. Many are putting themselves in positions that is demeaning to woman. Those women say it's their choice and it's not degrading but it is. Men don't look at them with any respect and the women wonder why.

Answer 6

If you've never heard a representative of the male gender apologize for this inequity, then please listen to me. I'm sorry. I'm sorry things are this way, and I'm sorry for things that lead up to this problem. I wish I could totally solve the problem, but I can't. I hope you won't hate all men because of this unfortunate tendency.

Answer 7

Just take the advise of Winnie teh Pooh. Say NO! Run away, and tell an adult you trust. LOL...