I really want to help her but i dont want her to think i am being mean and that i am trying to pick on her. I really do care about her but i cant deal with the lies.
2006-11-27 11:46:39 · 11 answers · asked by Toya T. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you do choose to confront her try to be as tactful and non confrontational as possible still getting the point across. I don't think, if it is truly a compulsion, there is anything you can do to convince her to get help. That is honestly something she is going to have to see a problem with and seek the help herself. Kinda like an Alcoholic, you can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.
2006-11-27 11:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Nickie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a difficult problem to solve. What you really need to get her to understand is that defecting doesn't work. That is to say, if EVERYONE lied, the world would be a very miserable place, and that she can't expect everyone else to go on being honest and let her lie her way through her life. Make her understand that in the end she's only making it worse for herself by destroying her credibility. If she has enough sense to count as a friend, she should realize what you're talking about eventually.
2006-11-27 19:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend like this and she gets on my nerves a LOT.
Sometimes she'll lie about some guy liking her, and them having called her while I was in the shower to profess their love.
I try not to let it get to me. I've always just let it go in the past.
As long as her lying isn't hurting you or herself, then I would let it go. You won't want to chance ruining a friendship because of something like this, would you?
2006-11-27 20:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by crazygurl8002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compulsive lying is a sign of abuse. Ask her how she's getting treated at home. It's not foolproof though, other people can lie, too; but it's a place to start.
2006-11-27 19:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant be nice when u tell someone to stop lying. Say it straight out because if she keeps on lying someone might say something far more mean then what you can come up with.
2006-11-27 19:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by sakura7blossoms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a friend and cousin like that. I asked them why do they do it and they just lied again. I don't know what u can do just leave her alone
2006-11-27 20:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by jsxy695 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything.If she wants to change herself she will do it alone. Just, when she is lying to you try to show to her that you understand her lies so you can't deal with them.
2006-11-27 19:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Evita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
straight up tell her you are tired of her lying all the time and she needs to stop
2006-11-27 19:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by krispy67665 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her one wuestion see if she responds the same way to a friend
2006-11-27 19:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by jeremy1234 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the school counselor could help- that is what they are there for-D
2006-11-27 19:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋