My opinion people should not divorce at all? Your opinion?

Question

I think that if you took the decision to marry you should not divorce your spouse till the death separates. What do you think?

If there is abuse there is no life. Agree

Please explain why you do not agree

I am not judging I can have my opinion. People make mistakes? Then you have pay for your mistakes or you prefer to pay for your mistakes your husband or wife. Are you egoistic? Do you respect your spouse?

Answer 1

DIVORCE. Marriage is a commitment, and should not be a death sentence (in the case of battered wives/husbands) nor should it be a life sentence (in the case of spouses of repeated infidels) nor should it be a curse or a stigma (sort of scarlet letter) that would hunt those who married too young, were in arranged marriages, or those who were tricked into marriages for the rest of their lives. It would be easy to say that you should stand by your decision to get married, but what if the decisions were made under fraudulent, deceiving, manipulative and/or at the very least, downright stupid scenarios. I believe in giving people a second chance. I am of the opinion that divorce should be legal. HOWEVER, the grounds or reasons for divorcing a spouse should be very valid, reasonable and meritorious.

Answer 2

Doing anything or making statements using ultimatums or extremes is just wrong, which is often why laws are often so convoluted, because typically you have to take every consideration into account.

What if your spouse was a physical abuser or beat your children - something perhaps that was not evident during the "courting" where everyone is on their best behavior and no one farts or belches or sits half naked watching foot ball with beer and cheetos? What if your spouse turns out to be a mass murderer? What if your lovely wife who is an elementary school teacher turns out to have a penchant for young boys?

The fact is that people change, situations change. The simple process of having a kid or moving to a new job, introduces problems that you never forsaw. This is typically why people divorce. For the most part, I would have to believe that the majority of people don't enter into a marriage planning on getting a divorce in X number of years.

Times change as well, and if you can't change with it, then you'll soon be left behind. The Catholic religion originally let priest get married, until one pope (previously a monk who made a vow of celibacy) in 1076 decided that ever after things should be done his way. How can you make decisions a thousand years ago and still think they will apply to the future? It's one of the wonders of the American Constitution that the founding fathers allowed escape clauses for the laws which would govern America.

Unfortunately, the same protagonist against divorce are probably the same ones that are causing an increase in divorces. Many marriages begin because you are in a courting stage, and the true selves don't emerge until you're married. Would an ultra conservative approve of a couple "living together" while unwed? What happens when the honeymoon ends, and everyone does start to fart and burp and drink beer and eat cheetos (ie, real life)?

If you want to cut down on divorces, then perhaps you should increase the time required to get married. . . but then of course you'd be "living in sin"

Answer 3

Yeah I should have stayed, and welcomed in the internet slut he was cheating on me with..we could have been a big happy family....I do believe people throw marriage around like it is not a big deal which not only tarnishes the sanctity of marriage but makes a mockery of it. People should really make sure that is what they want and if there are any doubts, then they should wait. Many people get married due to pressures from family. I made this mistake, and although I live with no regrets I really should have waited to make sure it was what I wanted. That is neither here nor there now. People get blinded by the idea of marriage, like it is as great as a picnic in the park. What some don't realize is how much of themselves they must give to make it work, and many people are not willing to do that, which is ok, then just dont get married...Marriage should be till death do us part but sadly marriage is more of a commercial success than anything else these days and I myself was blinded at one time.

Answer 4

It's very easy to have that outlook when you are either
1) single and hope to be married someday or
2) happily married and can't imagine why anyone would want out, excluding the obvious such as abuse.

That's all well and good, and you can have your opinion, but it is definitely a personal choice that only that person can make based on the individual facts of that marriage. You can't paint all situations with the same brush. People grow apart due to change. People get married for reasons that don't matter later when they mature, especially when they marry young. And no, it's not frivolous or the easy way out for most who divorce. There are women, and men too, who remain unhappy and are isolated and feel nothing for their spouse. Despite efforts to make it work and counseling, and making a go of it for the kids, it still may be that you end up very unhappy. And I don't think that we're meant to be unhappy all of our lives because we took those vows. It would be wonderful if there were no change, and love stayed as wonderful fifty years later as it was the first day, but the reality of it is that sometimes staying together becomes painful.

I think if you can't be happy together and it makes you a miserable individual the vows have to be set aside. Sometimes we fail.

Answer 5

As Christians, marriage should be treated as a sacred vow so partners should not just jump into it without having to realize its real worth because later on problems will rise and what they can think of as solution is divorce. It is really not the right things to do because "what God has united, a man should not separate" BUT the bible also says that it can happen WHEN either of the couple committed adultery which is actually breaking one of the ten commandments. BUT as for me, NO. Divorce should not be an option especially if they have kids. BUT the couples should try to maintain a life that is pleasing to the Lord. Hope this helps. God bless

Answer 6

Each and every relationship is different. You think you love someone in the beginning and over time, you realise they are not what you want. Some become content so much that they just exist in a life together. You cannot force someone to stay in a relationship if they are not happy. It takes TWO to make a marriage work.

Answer 7

People in abusive relationship's should get out ASAP.

Most others need to learn how to work it out and learn whats wrong, and how to fix it. You should not go into marriage thinking "hay this person is perfect and is always going to be/act this way. And if they change we can always get a divorce"

People need to learn how to work together, change together, love each other, and get along. That's not to say that you will always get along, love each other, change together, but as long as you start out as friends and fight to remain friends then I don't see a reason for a divorce. But everyone has there own reason for doing things, and that's there business.

Answer 8

i believe marriage should be saved if both are in agreement, but if not one person can't make a difference. in cases of abuse or adultry it is often difficult to go back and ever feel the same about the person. got to think about if we continuue the marriage will it damage our psyce in the future. anything broken can be repaired but it takes two to make it work. divorce is never good, but if it does happen it isn't always our doing, may be the other person's. sometimes reconciliation is not going to be possibble and we have to know when that is, and not stay in something that is hurting us.

Answer 9

I mostly agree with you. The reason I don't totally agree with you is because sometimes people will begin to do things in marriage that they never did before. Such as, beating, excessive drinking or illegal drugs, child abuse, (which you could never have forseen) unfaithfulness, etc. Those are main reasons to get divorced. Other than that, I believe that it's stupid and immature to not just work things out.

Answer 10

I think when my first husband became an abusive alcoholic and THEN "came out of the closet", that was a deal breaker. I have since remarried a REAL man and would never dream of divorcing him.