The women says if you want more sex you need to help out more.
PHASE 1:
So the guy cleans up around the house and then gets some. The next week he takes her out to dinner and then gets some. The next week he gets her flowers and then he get some.
Phase 2
He cleans up and she says "Not tonight".
Next he cleans up and takes her to dinner.
This all leads to guys running around do everything women want and women saying "Not tonight".
So how many of you feel that women are trying to get everything they can out of you before putting out? And what ideas do you have to turn the tables?
2006-11-27 11:28:52 · 12 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But!!! You already "GOT SOME"" !!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 11:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First off.... GO.... E !!!!!!! Have your say !!! Now to the question. I have never had to dangle sex in front of my husband to get him to help me out with the kids or the house. I guess we have always felt that in a relationship it is just the way things are. My personal opinion is in most cases the woman : cooks, cleans, does the washing, runs the kids around and much more, so they are entitled to a little help sometimes. I very rarely refuse my husband sex unless l have a valid reason and l'm sure there are a lot of other women around like me. I also enjoy sex so why would l refuse !!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 20:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be a better lover. Better as in seeing to her needs, and make her want sex. A few girls out there are natural sexoholics and like to intiate it. Most cases, it's the guy that needs to get the girl wanting it by using foreplay. Many girls loved being kissed softly first for a long time. Find what gets her going, then just be casual and confident while you are nibbling on her. If you dive right into sex and finish while leaving them feeling empty then they won't look forward to the next time. For me it's always a game to make the girl tell me "let's go in your room." I just keep doing what she likes until she gives in. I maintain a positive mood so I don't act like I am forcing her. Women can sense frustration and to most it is a turnoff. Patience is a virtue.
2006-11-27 19:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mike H 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Did you just recently lose a girlfriend or wife? No, women don't treat men like like --- unless they allow it. Relationships are based on respect. Usually the gripes are from women who are treated like property. If you have allowed yourself to be treated like that, whose fault is it? This is a subject that needs relationship help, not answers asking how to turn the tables on someone.
Good Luck!! And think about what you're asking.
2006-11-27 19:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by SNOOP 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be careful about making blanket statements about women...just because a chick you know may behave this way, doesn't mean it applies to the billions of females on this planet.
Did you try communicating? It can work miracles...give it a go....and stop being a wuss and letting anyone lead you around by your penis.
2006-11-27 19:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
EASIEST: Dump them and find a nympho
EASY: Simply tell THEM no.
MEDIUM: Talk with them about it.
HARD: Slowly distance yourself from them , make them want you.
HARDEST: Pick every part of what they are doing , carefully turn it around on them but be careful as not to be noticed. throw in a few curve balls to keep them from figuring it out. ultimatly in the end you should have them feeling the same way you do :)
Please dont take any of my ideas seriously, unless you really want to lose out on things from the Mrs. but if they've driven you to a point of insanity , well its worth a shot!!!! , if anything its fun to talk about.
To all the men who deal with this --- I feel for you :)
2006-11-27 19:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I know I should not generalize....but since you did I will.
If you were really pavlovs dog....eventually the behavior would stick......lets see it never does with men. Ever think your wife wants you to clean and help her WITHOUT having to dangle sex in your face...JUST DO IT. Maybe she should not bargain with sex....but maybe you should help because you want to do your share not because you want to get SCREWED.
2006-11-27 19:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by E 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You tell her that you are a man and have needs and if she doesnt want to do you, you will find someone else.
If she uses doing nice things for her as a payment for sex, quit doing nice things for her.
Yeah, its time to quit salivating when the bell rings.
2006-11-27 19:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
men shouldnt think of sex as a payment for taking resopsiblity around the house... i have sex with my husband because i want to. what are we? prostitutes? maybe if she didnt have to ask you to help out, you wouldnt have to ask for sex
2006-11-27 20:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.
Only stupid guys allow themselves to be led around on a leash like that.
The leash being their lack of self control and self esteem.
2006-11-27 19:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not our fault if men are dumb. And there's plenty of guys out there who won't put out. Women just aren't dumb enough to stick around and put up with their sh*t.
2006-11-27 19:34:05 · answer #11 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋