this guy and i have been together for 4 years he just started drinking heavy and staying gone all night edleast 35 times this last year,he said he loves me and wants to change but he cant i keep believing him but i cant keep hurting.i dont think he is cheating,he just gets into fights and does drugs,and wont come home,he has missed work alot do to this,and we have a little girl together,so its hard to walk awayi dont drink or do drugs im a home body,like he use to be,should i hang in there and hope he will be like he use to or should i give up hope and think of my own heart and my little girl.to make it worse he knows i have cancer,and need help with certain things but he is so selfish he wont,do i leave or help work this out together,i do love him but when should i love myself?this reminds me of the song by tamia-the song "me".
2006-11-27 11:18:08 · 10 answers · asked by joannluna1974 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im sorry to hear all these but , if he's willing to change, he will. those are just vices and not personality flaws, but if u are suffering too much, then u have to get up and go, its hard to live like that...
2006-11-27 11:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if he has been doing this at least 35 times this year, that means he's doing this at least 3 weekends a month.
Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left list all the reasons you should stay with him. On the right list all the reasons you should go.
Then make a decision.
2006-11-27 19:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should love yourself now. If he want to live a mess up life, let him live it but find him help. One thing I learn for my momma is that you can not change a man... he can only change himself. And you need to take your child out of that place that is not a good envoirment for a child or a woman in your condition.
2006-11-27 19:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously very hurt and frightened at the thought of losing you. Try to work it out by talking to each other--if you are left with no choice but to leave--then you tried.
2006-11-27 19:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes a guy can change. of course! so when he changes and gets his act together you can give him another chance. until run, dont walk to the nearest exit. your first concern and priority should be your innocent child.
2006-11-27 19:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by beverl y j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, guys never change. Trust me. My sister have the same problem they have four kids and been together for long time and he haven't change.
2006-11-27 19:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by golondris_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him, but you need to get yourself out of this situation asap.
2006-11-27 19:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy wants to change then he will.
2006-11-27 20:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should make him choose between you and the bottle and dope if he chooses either one after he chooses you , you should hit the road running
2006-11-27 19:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him into AA.
2006-11-27 19:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Wolf_28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋