im pregnant on friday. and my mom is telling me that i shouldnt keep it. i am 19 going on 20 years old. i dont think this is write. shes always telling me how her mother always tell her what to do. and she is doing the same thing to me. it took me a while to get pregnant. and i have hpv. is it safe to get an abortion?
2006-11-27 11:02:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was pregnant when i was 19. i had people tell me to get rid of my baby.. even my mom and i stopped talking to her for 2 months.. i was an adult and if i was capable of having sex then i had to live with my actions.. i wasnt able to take care of the baby at that time.. but luckily i had help from family.. and now im 25 have a 5 year old daughter.. i live on my own and work full time..
Dont do something because someone else says to.. in my opinion abortion is wrong.. do you really want that hanging over your head for the rest of your life.. i know i couldnt do it..
there is adoption.. giving your baby to someone who possibly cant have one.. instead of killing something you took the time to create. that just like slap in the face to the millions of people who try for years to have children and cant.. and people are killing babies because they cant handle it.. heres one.. then dont have sex or protect yourself.
abortions lessen the likelyhood of getting pregnant in the future as you are left with scar tissue that could prevent and egg from implanting.. and people abortions as birth control.. makes ya sick doesnt it..
im not trying to be mean or anything.. but its a heated topic we all know it.. and we all know how strong our opinions are.. but in the end it doesnt matter what we think.. it still happens everyday.. no matter the efforts to protest it..
2006-11-27 11:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by ~BaByGiRl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's deffinately safe to get an abortion, especially since you have HPV there is a very HUGE risk of passing it on to your infant if you have a vaginal delivery. It doesn't sound as if you are actually emotionally mature enough to raise a child, and I would have to assume that you are still living at "home" with your parents because you aren't financially ready to be on your own. That would mean that you're also not financially prepared to have a child. Hopefully your parent's health insurance will still cover you now that you are pregnant, some no longer do, because they consider pregnancy an act of emancipation. If you're not covered how are you planning to pay for the doctor visits as well as the hospital stay when you give birth?
2006-11-27 19:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.... you need to do what is right for you. I was 17 when I first got pregnant. My parents went as far as making an appointment for an abortion for me. I didn't go and a few months later I gave birth to my parents pride and joy... a little girl named Hayley. Don't get me wrong, it was really hard at first. I don't know where I'd be if my parents didn't help me finish school and go to college or didn't help me out financially until I could hold my own. Your mom is scared for you and your future. You need to weigh all options and decide on whats best for you. As far as the abortion with HPV... you need to consult a doctor on that. Abortions have lots of risks involved even for healthy girls. Well, I hope this helped a little. Take Care and God Bless!
2006-11-27 19:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel comfortable with, not with what people try to guilt you with. If you are not in a position to care for a child, and you arent the sort who would consider giving it up for adoption then I suggest you have an abortion. You also need to focus on getting that HPV dealt with ASAP because it can cause cervical cancer, and I am not even sure how they go about treating HPV during a pregnancy. Go to a doctor that is pro choice and discuss your options and what would be best for YOU.
2006-11-27 19:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your 19 almost 20. I think your old enough to make your own decisions. I got married at 19 had a baby at 21 and we are still happily married 11 years later and having our 4th baby. You will regret an abortion and then resent your mom for telling you to do it.
2006-11-27 19:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off, your going to hear this alot on this site. Abortion is wrong. And it's safe to havea baby with HPV. and also I'm 20 next month and 5 months pregnate. This is your baby, you make a choice don't let your mom run your life. ASk yourself this...Do you know who the daddy is?? if so, is it possible to continue a relationship with him?? if not, is it possible to keep the baby and work full time (because millions of women have and still is raising children by themselves) if that's not possible, have you thought of the millions of parents just waiting to have a baby of their own. You got yourself into this mess, please don't leave this mess with killing a innocent person.
2006-11-27 19:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you kill your baby just because your mother wants you to?
Grow up, you're an adult now. It took you a while to get pregnant, so you were obviously making this child because you wanted it.
How incredibly foolish to kill your baby.
Do us a favor and dont do it again.
Its not a guilt trip, its just common sense. Even if you cant afford it, you can give it up for adoption. Some nimrod said that you might not be the type to be able to handle adoption. Thats retarded. Your child might not be able to handle death, but it doesnt have that choice, especially if you would rather feel good and not have to be burdened with the knowledge that you have a child in the world.
2006-11-27 19:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom and let her know that you need her support in this one. it isn't easy to have an abortion and isn't the right thing to do. To each's own. But I don't think that you should do that, many people are out there trying to have children and can't be happy that you are able to conceive. with the hpv thing, you have to make sure that you go to your doc to make sure everything is right and also be careful.
2006-11-27 19:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should let your mother decide for you to have an abortion. I was 19 going on 20 when I got pg with my first. And I made it, I am not ttc my 2nd child.
If you have been trying to get pg for a while why would you even consider abortion?
2006-11-27 19:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't kill your baby..... you will have to live the rest of your life knowing that you never got to hold your little baby in your arms, see your baby smile for the first time, cuddle with that little bundle.... watch him/her grow and everything that a mother gets to watch!
It is hard that your mother doesn't support you, I am sorry she is telling you to do that.... but you need to live up to the responsibility that you have chosen by getting pregnant!
If you don't want to keep the baby, see about getting the baby adopted... I'm totally positive that there is a couple out there who can't have a baby that would want to adopt...
I know you will make the right choice....
Good luck!
2006-11-27 19:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by mrs. ruspee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋