i have always been overweight im not huge but am not thin. i have never been bullied but because of my weight have found it hard to make friends though i do put on a false front as being the big loud and proud girl and now i am at college have made loads of new friends. thankfully. but boys never want to be my friends. i do have guy mates but the majority of them are gay. i get on with them so wel. boys never seem to want to be more than friends with me.. how do i get a boyfriend? i have started losing weight but i feel bad because i wish i didnt have to lose weight to feel confident enough to get a boyf. what should i do?
2006-11-27 10:46:58 · 9 answers · asked by rachael g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be yourself. My aunt kept telling me to lose weight then I might attract a boyfriend but every time I went out I would end up snogging the best looking bloke in the room, I chose who I would see again not the blokes, yes I have been overweight for years. Only shallow blokes look at the weight first and not the real person. You will find someone, make the most of your hair, skin and dress sense, dress to suit YOU not what the latest magazine says you should be wearing, all of them models are thin anyway and have been air brushed to look thinner. Get some books on hair care and make sure you have lovely locks in good condition, do your nails, be well groomed, this is very attractive to men, but don't get vain :D Be loud but not coarse, still keep an air of femininity and a little mystery about you. Don't try to be one of the lads, be a woman, you have nothing none of the other girls haven't got, just more of it, be proud that you have real curves. Get some books on basic make up techniques and practise them, make the most of what you have got. Your time will come but remember, before you meet the handsome prince you have to kiss a lot of toads, be a bit choosy, only kiss the guys you feel comfortable with, but enjoy all that kissing!!!!
2006-11-27 11:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by sladelover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question, in a way. You seem to think losing some weight will help, how about a character make over? Lose a little weight, try dressing up a little,, not dressing down, smile a lot and make everyone wonder what you are up too, and soften up your false front to a caring and out going style of person.
2006-11-27 10:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by rexallen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with paul h that being around gay blokes is not going to help.
I don't know if I would go for you or not, but personally an overweight girl would not bother me.
I used to be average built & pull girls most weeks. Then I went a lot overweight & hardly pulled at all. Then I lost a load & went back to average & I started pulling again. I thought it was really sad that I had to lose weight to pull again, but that's the way life is.
Believe me I know a lot of blokes that would rather go for an overweight girl rather than a size 10 girl (including me).
Good luck - more importantly I hope your self-esteem improves.
2006-11-28 00:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sluugy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. I'm guessing you had to be "loud and proud" to prevent being bullied at school, but you may well be missing out on real friendships/relationships by continuing to put on a front.
As for your weight - is it a threat to your health? Ask your doctor. If it isn't, is it really worth the hassle of dieting?
2006-11-27 17:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Zippyrulesok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant tell if I would or wouldn't like you from a few sentences , I would have to get to know you first like you would me , the truth is , by surrounding yourself with gays isn't exactly a healthy enviorment to meet your prince charming , hell the chances are one of the gays would convert him first , Some people set themselves up for rejection long before they have left the front door , ar you one of those , I hope not but if you are ???
2006-11-27 11:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what you want to do im a big girl abnd with a bloke who loves me 4 me i would love to loose weight but you can only do so if your 100% ready also stop looking 4 a bf when your not looking a guy wil *** looking 4 you
2006-11-27 10:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your weight, or looks t all believe me..gorgeous and slim girls who have low confidence have probs with guys too! i used to think it was my weight, im now bigger than ive ever been n have a wonderful guy who adores me. be happy in yourself whatever your size n your attractiveness will shoot up!
2006-11-27 10:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's bound to be a ton of guys that like you. Guys are shy too remember. Things will happen when you least expect it.
2006-11-27 10:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to be rude but I LOVE FAT PEOPLE!!!!
2006-11-27 10:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋