if he cheated on me?

Question

my husband smoke alot..about 20 in one day..i asked him to quit that and he promised me he do..and he did..i was so happy.he always told me he did that because he love me so much..but now after few months i discovered he countinue to smok and he tryed to hide it..now i cant forgive him..why did he do that with me.?i feel stupid..because it was a deal between us and he strongly promised he would forget the cigarette

Answer 1

He is a grown man if he wants to smoke what's the big deal!

Answer 2

bad breath
yellow teeth
smelly clothes
more colds and coughs
difficulty keeping up with friends when playing sports
empty wallet - cigarettes and tobacco products are very expensive!
Let's find out more about cigarettes and tobacco.

What Are Smoking and Smokeless Tobacco?
Tobacco (say: tuh-ba-ko) is a plant that can be smoked in cigarettes, pipes, or cigars. It's the same plant that's in smokeless tobacco, known as dip, chew, snuff, spit, or chewing tobacco. Smokeless tobacco is not lit and breathed in like tobacco in cigarettes, pipes, and cigars. Instead, smokeless tobacco is put between the lip and gum and sucked on inside the mouth.

Tobacco contains nicotine (say: nih-kuh-teen), a chemical that causes a tingly or good feeling - but that feeling only lasts for a little while. Nicotine is also addictive (say: uh-dik-tiv). That means that if you start to use nicotine, your body and mind will become so used to it that you'll need to have it just to feel OK.

Anyone who starts smoking could become addicted to it. If you're addicted to something, it's very hard to stop doing it, even if you want to. That's why so many adults have a hard time quitting smoking.

Why Is It So Bad for You?
Cigarettes and smokeless tobacco kill hundreds of thousands of Americans every year. You know those rubber bracelets that were created to bring attention to different causes? The Campaign for Tobacco-Free Kids created a red one with the number 1,200 on it. Why 1,200? That's the number of people who die each day due to smoking.

The nicotine and other poisonous chemicals in tobacco cause lots of diseases, like heart problems and some kinds of cancer. If you smoke, you hurt your lungs and heart each time you light up. It also can make it more difficult for blood to move around in the body, so smokers may feel tired and cranky. The longer you smoke, the worse the damage becomes

Answer 3

Come on............. He "cheated" on you??????????

I'm sure the day he promised to quit smoking he had every intention of doing so. Smoking is an addiction, a bad habit and it isn't easy to quit. If it was, why would so many people spend thousands of dollars trying everything possible to stop smoking?

For you to equate his "smoking habit" with his "love for you" is just plain stupid. Of course he's going to hide it, look at how you are reacting. He's not doing anything "to you", he's only hurting himself.

You can't "forgive" him? Gee, I hope he never does anything really "serious" to you!

Try being a little "supportive", I think you'd get a lot further!

Answer 4

Consider that he was smoking when you met him. You married him knowing he was a smoker. It's understandable that you want him to quit - but you can't pressure him into doing so. If he can't, or doesn't want to, quit - all this nagging and pressure will do is make him go "underground". Stop pressuring him, and figure out what's more important to you: to be married to your husband, or to be married to a non-smoker. Either accept him the way he is, and the way he was when you met - or cut the ties and look for a non-smoker next time. If smoking wasn't a deal-breaker when you met and married - why change the rules, and turn it into one now? You're not being fair.

Answer 5

Its not hard its easy to figure out!smoking is alot harder then quiting,some ppl can some cant.Think about all of the drugs they put in smokes to hook you.have you ever smoked or quit an addiction?its not that he lied or that he tried to hurt you.help him buy some nicorette gum or patches try not to stress him out and give him time to wing off of it.Be thankful its smokes and nothing else it could be way worse trust me!hope you both the best:-)

Answer 6

i think you are over reacting. IT IS A ADDICTION he should not have tried to hide it. YOU knew when you met he smoked you don't have a real right to be hurt now that he can't quit. love has NOTHING AT ALL IN THE WORLD to do with it.

Answer 7

if you are not a smoker you do not realize how hard it is to quit!!!!!!!!!!!!!! even if he would cut down that would be great you need to forgive him and help him find other ways to quit it is not that easy trust me i have smoked for more than 25 years and promised my husband alot of times i would quit you need to stand by his side he could have done something much worse!!!

Answer 8

If he wants to smoke like a chimney then let him, make sure you have a nice life insurance policy on him because you will probably cash in sooner than later.

Answer 9

smoking cigarettes is not cheating on you....its lying to you, there is a difference......the addiction is a powerful one to break, give him all the encouragement you can, buy him the patches, support and love him thru it. It might take some time, but he can get thru it, IF you help him.

Answer 10

He might not want to, but maybe you go to marriage counseling. Or, you could sit down and talk about it.(Unless you haven't) If you have, then maybe this time, you should have a thorough talk with him. Tell him that it really hurt you that he lied to you. Maybe when it is absolutely necessary, you should shed a little tear.
Hope that helps and good luck!