i have been married for four years and i have had three miscarriges i am in my late 40s and my husband wants to go find a girl who can have a baby he said he doesnt want to leave me and is sure he can find a girl who will be willing to have a kid with him so should i stay or leave????????????
2006-11-27 10:40:29 · 17 answers · asked by tristy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do you want a child? why not just have a surrogate mother and love the child like your own?
2006-11-27 10:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Okole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he proposes to deliver his sperm personally and then you raise someone elses child then you need to re-think your relationship. No way he should want to do that and if he does I would consider letting him go do that permanently.
If he is serious about this you need to consider divorce. The last thing you need is to raise someone else's child at your age. And why would you ever want to?
Tell him surrogate or good bye.
2006-11-27 11:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmmmmmm.... Well, then if your into it, you can find a surrogate, do invitro, get it all written up legally and he will have "his" child.
But, you need to be sure you want this. Are you gonna want to have a child going to college when you in your 60's?
2006-11-27 10:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how he wants to do it. plus your married to him you have a say in it you can approve or disapprove. i would suggest adoption, but he sounds like a guy that wants one of his own flesh and blood children. you can always do that fermentation in a petrie dish and find a woman to carry it for you guys for 9 months. but if you don consider adoption, imagine it. giving a child a life that he/she could not give themselves. helping a person have a better future.
2006-11-27 10:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Adrian R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he talking about having sex with a woman or just a clinical thing? If its clinical, I think you should stay. If its having sex, well, there will be a lot of 40ish men wanting babies!!
2006-11-27 10:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him as fast as you can run, like maybe when you are done reading our answers. His love for you should not be based on having a child with you, PARTICULARLY if there are reasons you don't want to. You deserve better than this manipulative jerk.
2006-11-27 10:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know you said for men only......but why don't you opt for a surrogate mother.....or find a friend who will carry a baby for you....or possibly adopt......
Good luck to you Mrs.
2006-11-27 10:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if he is going to have the baby with another woman then you should leave him. What you should do is have your egg put into another woman then let him have sex with her so it can be your child also the other way would just be wrong.
2006-11-27 10:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Shane W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to adopt, or see if you might be able to find a surrogate....But if he's just looking to find a girl....it's not about a baby...he just wants to get laid.
2006-11-27 10:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by FRANKFUSS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you have a doctor collect some of your eggs and find a mother who will carry your baby for you
2006-11-27 10:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋