A friend of mine is in a relationship with a man that likes to abuse her.This has been happening for months and she wants rid of him but when she tells him to leave he just turns it into a fight and my friend ends up with a swollen face and bruises and cuts everywhere and her house in pieces.
She has told him to go and doesnt want him but he returns.might be ok for a few days and then he put her through the same crap again.
He was on drugs and she sent him away to clean his act up,he came back and was ok but all he could talk about was him going to be on drugs.He takes all of her money and gets her to drop him off at his friends places and was on that crap again.Then when he comes back that night he abuses her again.
It just seems that all he wants his her money,which she works very hard for and take drugs,then come home n abuse her.
He has been in jail on many occasions ,spent most of his life in there. what can she do to get rid of him? he just keeps coming back!
2006-11-27 10:32:31 · 11 answers · asked by ozidash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Before they started living together she had numerous restraining orders on him.Which
he did breach.There is no love for him what so ever. but apparantly he loves her!
He just brakes into her home if she's not there.She took the keys from him the other night and didnt answer any of his calls but later he came back with a mighty attitude.She needs to be left alone ,have her piece and quiet and get her work done..He could have her awake for a week straight. Believe me she wants to kill him.
thnx for your replies-i need a heap of advice.
2006-11-27 10:49:25 · update #1
call the cops as soon as he starts to be abusive and have her get a restraining order against him......first off people who have to beat on other people are just weak, but men who beat on women are poor excuses for men, they have to stoop so low to beat up on a woman, who in most cases are no match for men....so yea, call the cops and get a restraining order
2006-11-27 10:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by kevinpek320 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's almost the same as when you are raising children. You have to say what you mean. And do what you say. Report physical abuse to the police, it is illegal. When they ask if you want a restraining order, say yes. Do not let him in, change the locks so he can't come in when you are not there. Have a friend with you at all times. Call the police whenever he tries to come in contact with you. When it's time to go to court, do not whimp out. He will see it as weakness, and really wail in on you. You have to protect yourself, this man can easily kill you.
2006-11-27 18:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by rememberme2332000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire two guys name Vinny and Bruno to bust open his kneecaps and permanently put that sumbitch in a wheelchair. If this girl was a friend of mine and I knew this was going on, this prick would be a parapalegic after I'd be done with him. I absolutely do not tolerate abuse of women or any abuse for that fact.
Then again, why the hell is she in a relationship with such a lowlife piece of crap? Are there not enough decent guys around for her to date?
"Sleep with the dogs and you will wake up with the fleas"
Why do women continue this cycle of violence by allowing themselves to be victimized by these pieces oh human trash?
I'm not blaming the victim here, but she needs to get away from this scumbag.
Stories like this make my blood boil and make me want to go bust a cap in the asses of these abusive animals.
2006-11-27 18:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one, he's is a liar. Most abusers are. They will tell the one being abused whatever they need to hear so they will stay.
She needs to find a shelter, not a friend's house, where he might find her, but a shelter to go to. She needs to be telling people that she works with what is going on, and seek help from others.
Unfortunately, until she is willing to do that nothing will change, and she will keep believing that he is going to get better.
2006-11-27 18:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by alicesarbonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call police get a restraining order. If he violates the order he goes back to jail. He will tire of spending nights next to bubba and will leave her alone. But she needs to call police every time he comes around. Tell them she 'fears for her life'...
2006-11-27 18:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if she really wants him to leave then she needs to tell him to leave, if he doesnt call the police, then she needs to get a restraining order and continue to call the police. If she doesnt feel that is doing any good then she should buy a gun and the next time he hits her then kill him.
2006-11-27 18:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Order, if she is serious. Move if she can. Press charges if it happens again, but he could become more violent. There are shelters for battered women where the man never knows where they are.
2006-11-27 18:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres a crazy idea the next time he goes change the locks and don't let him back in!!!
If he start creating a fuss she can call the police.
It isn't difficult she just needs to stop being a doormat and do it
2006-11-27 18:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur friend has to live her life so if the guy still come and abuse her,she can call police and the staff will be sorted but if she is in love"no 1 is going to give u the answer!!!!"
2006-11-27 18:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by JOHN P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should contact someone about it. If it's bad, call the police.
2006-11-27 18:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kenzy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋